Its really been irking me that my step-father says, 'This is our wedding too' because they paid for the reception hall. I think its a little selfish of him and my mom to feel this way just because they had their wedding. They make it seem like they should get first dibs as to who is invited. Anytime I mention a cousin from my real fathers side who should be invited they get angry and say, 'You havent spoken to them in years' Meanwhile, Im inviting every cousin on my PR side (about 20 of them) and some of them I speak to once a year. Why is it fair to not include my fathers side when theyre my blood. I know my dad is not contributing to the wedding (he's broke) but it doesnt mean his side of my family shouldnt be invited. This whole guestlist thing is gonna cause a huge fight between all of us. My step-father even wants a say in the menu. Which I dont mind if he chooses some plates but I mainly want italian food. Im dreading this.
Butterfly123
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Re: This is our wedding too... (Parent Vent)
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my parents are paying for mine as well, and i feel the same sometimes..they're inviting so many additional people..and the list grows bigger and bigger everyday!
Theyve actually been really good with who to invite. Although I mentioned to my mom today how she's excluding my three cousins from my fathers side. And she got upset that I wanted to invite them and then my stepfather says, 'Im not inviting this person and that person' and he goes on to name people who he hasnt spoken to in years who Ive only spoken to once in my life. They also say things like, 'Well FH is inviting so many friends' When they know my FH has hardly any family. I just feel like theyre being so insensitive. this wedding is happening because of them and FH & I. Not just them. You know? Okay sorry I started again....
Am I wrong though? Should they get first dibs on the guestlist cause they paid for it?
Its your wedding and i think its ultimately YOUR decision with whom you want to invite..so to answer your question...NO YOUR NOT WRONG! My mom didn't want to invite her own cousins (as she hasn't seen them to often) but i thought that was so rude considering she was inviting all these friends before her family!!!!!
My mom wants to do the same thing! lol If it were up to her she'd cut out half the fam!
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Re: This is our wedding too... (Parent Vent)
Posted by Songstress1212
Posted by Bride 2 Be
Posted by Songstress1212
Posted by Bride 2 Be
my parents are paying for mine as well, and i feel the same sometimes..they're inviting so many additional people..and the list grows bigger and bigger everyday!
Theyve actually been really good with who to invite. Although I mentioned to my mom today how she's excluding my three cousins from my fathers side. And she got upset that I wanted to invite them and then my stepfather says, 'Im not inviting this person and that person' and he goes on to name people who he hasnt spoken to in years who Ive only spoken to once in my life. They also say things like, 'Well FH is inviting so many friends' When they know my FH has hardly any family. I just feel like theyre being so insensitive. this wedding is happening because of them and FH & I. Not just them. You know? Okay sorry I started again....
Am I wrong though? Should they get first dibs on the guestlist cause they paid for it?
Its your wedding and i think its ultimately YOUR decision with whom you want to invite..so to answer your question...NO YOUR NOT WRONG! My mom didn't want to invite her own cousins (as she hasn't seen them to often) but i thought that was so rude considering she was inviting all these friends before her family!!!!!
My mom wants to do the same thing! lol If it were up to her she'd cut out half the fam!
my mom probably would too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
