This may or may not be an issue for my wedding, but help...

GinaZ Posted: Apr 27, 2007 09:54 AM

This may or may not be an issue for my wedding, but help...

A common friend of FH and I who we have on our guest list recently started dating someone who we don't know very well, but know well enough to know that everytime we see him at friends parties he is always totally wasted and totally gives me the creeps. He is always like stumpling around and can be pretty disrespectful at other peoples homes. And we really don't want him at our wedding!! Now we are wondering if this relationship will even last, but if it does, do we
A. Not invite her with a guest (which I would feel weird about if she has been with him for 9 months...
B. Invite her with a guest and hire security
C. Not invite her at all

While she is a friend of both FH and I, she is not a good friend. Neither one of us just call her up and hang out with her alone or anything. We invite her out if we are doing a group thing-like for bdays, and she does the same, but honestly, I havn't seen or talked to the girl in probably 6 months. She is a friend from college. And she is an awesome fun person, and ALWAYS invites FH and I to everything- she has a decent amount of parties at her house, but it is kinda far, so we rarely make it. So we don't really know what to do. Any advice would really be great!!!

HotAir Posted: Apr 27, 2007 09:59 AM

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Honestly, I think you just have to invite her with a guest and hope they break up before the wedding. Or, at least hope he doesn't come!

KSquared Posted: Apr 27, 2007 10:08 AM

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Just tell the bartender to make his drinks really weak

But seriously, if she's your friend, invite her and hope for the best! Honestly though, you're wedding is almost a year away, don't worry about this now, IF she is still dating him when you're mailing out invited, worry about it then, for now, relax.

smplynluv Posted: Apr 27, 2007 10:11 AM

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Since you haven't seen her in half a year I don't think it will be TOO bad if you dont invite her.... well, if you are having a big wedding its a hard decision but if you will be having a small wedding I think its understandable that you won't be inviting everyone you know.

thelastresort Posted: Apr 27, 2007 10:21 AM

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I think you have to invite her with a guest.

I have a similar issue. I spoke with my BM and I was told to give them a picture of the problem and they will keep an eye out and the bartenders will be instructed to water down drinks.

Kara and Todd Posted: Apr 27, 2007 10:29 AM

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I had the EXACT same fear and luckily they broke up already, so it's not even an issue.

I would stop worrying about it until the wedding is closer. Seriously - in all likelihood, the jerk will be gone before the wedding... so don't stress about this right now!

Kimbalina Posted: Apr 27, 2007 10:35 AM

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C-
ONLY INVITE HER w/ NO guest
'Sorry but the guest list is tight'

L&R Posted: Apr 27, 2007 11:04 AM

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I wouldn't worry about it for a while. If she's still dating him when the wedding comes around, and you're worried enough to consider hiring security, then make sure she doesn't bring him. You should not have to worry about having a problem like that at your wedding. You will have enough on your plate...

Good luck!

SoontoBMrsD Posted: Apr 27, 2007 11:20 AM

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Honestly, this is the least of your worries. If she is your friend, invite her. If she does end up bringing this guy and there is a problem, he can be thrown out..

GinaZ Posted: Apr 27, 2007 11:55 AM

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Posted by smplynluv

Since you haven't seen her in half a year I don't think it will be TOO bad if you dont invite her.... well, if you are having a big wedding its a hard decision but if you will be having a small wedding I think its understandable that you won't be inviting everyone you know.

We are only ably to invite 150 and right now we are at 160 on our list- and a lot of people we were friends with at the same time, but not super close with are not on the list. We had her on there cus she invites us to EVERYTHING.

GinaZ Posted: Apr 27, 2007 11:57 AM

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thank for all the input ladies!! FH and i were out with her best friend last night who didn't know what to say either- but she said she wouldnt want him at her wedding or in her house. But I wouldn't want to hurt the girls feelings. But you are right when you say we should not worry about it just yet. :)