This seems strange.

CubanBride Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:01 PM

This seems strange.

Am I a control freak or something?

Our wedding is over 7 months away and I have pretty much finished everything. But we have a bridal party who hasn't done anything mainly because I haven't asked them to do anything. I feel like they are getting off too easy. I need to find them something to do. But I feel uncomfortable giving my MOH or BM something to do because I feel as if they are going to do it wrong. So far I have done everything myself.

Can someone tell me something easy to have the BP do so I can feel as is they are earning their keep?LOL!

CaCRmr Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:09 PM

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You're funny I only have 1 BM and 1 MOH, they are dealing with my shower right now and I basically did everything myself because I wanted it done right....does that sound rude?

mrsTimoney2be Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:09 PM

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They will have their moment... The shower and bachelorette party.... Oh and most importantly, they have to make sure you day goes PERFECTLY!!!

randella Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:11 PM

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I am in the same boat.. I just made all of my BM dress appts.. ONE of my MOH;s should have done.. I don;t necessarily feel they are th emost supportive- but I figrue that day- they will be at my beck and call.. Now, I am a control freak as well.. so who cares. I just want them to be excited.

divabride Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:12 PM

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I swear you post the funniest threads!!! All I ask is that the girls be responsible for their dresses and shoes, and to show up on the big day. Nothing more, nothing less!!

CubanBride Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:17 PM

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Someone just suggested to me that we have an invitation stuffing party. This way we could involve the entire BP. Has anyone done this?

Ang&Rich Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:18 PM

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Posted by divabride

I swear you post the funniest threads!!! All I ask is that the girls be responsible for their dresses and shoes, and to show up on the big day. Nothing more, nothing less!!

Yup same here - and they both have the responsibility of making sure the veil and train) are ok at the church and gardens...after that they can party - I sure will!

I've always been a control freak so I'm happy with this arrangement.

dkwife Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:18 PM

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I didn't have mine do anything. They planned the bachelorette party and shower. That was more than enough.

Bebalina Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:25 PM

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Posted by divabride

I swear you post the funniest threads!!! All I ask is that the girls be responsible for their dresses and shoes, and to show up on the big day. Nothing more, nothing less!!

lol same here

pbandtim Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:25 PM

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Posted by fashionhag

Am I a control freak or something?

Our wedding is over 7 months away and I have pretty much finished everything. But we have a bridal party who hasn't done anything mainly because I haven't asked them to do anything. I feel like they are getting off too easy. I need to find them something to do. But I feel uncomfortable giving my MOH or BM something to do because I feel as if they are going to do it wrong. So far I have done everything myself.

Can someone tell me something easy to have the BP do so I can feel as is they are earning their keep?LOL!

I am the same as you. I need to do everything so I know it will get done right. I'm even helping with my shower because I want to make sure it is how I like it, to my taste, not my mothers or BM's.

tourist Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:32 PM

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Posted by fashionhag

Someone just suggested to me that we have an invitation stuffing party. This way we could involve the entire BP. Has anyone done this?

NO! talk about control freak. i did them all by myself. I thought I'd get confused & things may be missing if other people were there. You know how it is once you start talking & stufff.. .envelope stuffing is not party! It is serious work!

When people don't rsvp, have your Bms track them down!

LADYLUV69 Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:38 PM

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have them help you assmble the invitations. I did everything myself. I didn't not ask BMs for any help except when it came to putting the invites together. they gave me an excellent shower!!!!

Niecey Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:38 PM

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I never gave my bridal party anything to do so to say either and actually in most weddings I have been in the bridal parties were never really asked to do much

All I wanted is my bridal party to be supportive and have fun with me on my wedding day!

randella Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:41 PM

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I am the same as you. I need to do everything so I know it will get done right. I'm even helping with my shower because I want to make sure it is how I like it, to my taste, not my mothers or BM's.

I am helping to plan my shower as well.. same reason.

chichila15 Posted: Aug 12, 2004 04:52 PM

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Posted by searsc

I didn't have mine do anything. They planned the bachelorette party and shower. That was more than enough.

Same here.

If anything, you can have a dinner with them detailing what you'd like for them to wear & accessories. Or if you'll do what I did, I had them choose the dress & accessories, and I chose the color.