Thoughts/advice on 'Don't save the date anymore'..kinda long
Original post by crystalsky
Need some advice ladies..
I am getting married in Oct. and sent out save the dates to those we would be inviting to the wedding earlier this year.
We are trying to keep our guest number around 95-100, and we sent save the dates out to about 120.
Since then there have been a few people that I will now have to invite, as well as some then single friends who will now want to bring a date. At the same token, there are some people that I sent save the dates to that now I kind of wish I didn't. Not that they did anything wrong, but these are people that I have either somewhat lost touch with and don't talk to as much, and maybe didn't really THINK hard about wheter I wanted them at the wedding or not. But I did send them a save the date and now I guess there is really no tactful way to put this but is there any way to have them 'Not save the date anymore'?
Some thigns to keep in mind, I have not sent invitations out yet, and don't know for sure if these people will come to begin with.
I'm really sorry if this sounds rude or , just wondering if anyone ever had these feelings, and if anyone did anything about it? Is there even a way to do this without looking like a A-hole? I am thinking it's probably just better to not say anything and hope that they won't come?? As if I didn't have enough things to stress or think about I can't stop thinking about this...Let me know any thoughts and thanks for reading.
Vicky423
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you will get some nos we invited 165 ppl to our wedding... we had 102 guest.... and then you will have those annoying no shows
LaurenluvsTJ
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you can't take back a save the date, its rude... maybe they won't come any way since you don't really talk to them anymore....
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I think it's rude too ... I am in a situation myself where someone told me that I was on there 'A' list of invites because me and her FH were very close since my dad passed away, and that I was definately coming .. that was 8 months ago since then we have seen them a few times and i told her I didn't get an invite yet .. she said she didn't send them out yet but the next time we were out to dinner she was saying to one of the other ladies how she has to cut down on her list because her father doesn't want more then 250 people ...well to make this long story longer.. we havent heard from them and it's been a month ... there wedding is july 14th and I still didn't get an invitation ....I am angry People will remember the STD just invite them.
magbride
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Posted by ChristineAaron08
We only sent STDs to the A list. You should definitely send invites to them if they also got the STD. If you lost touch with them, maybe they wont even come to the Wedding. You should be fine though- like others said- you can probably knock out about 20%- that is what the statistics say. As for inviting friends with/without guests- it is perfectly OK (etiquitte wise) not to invite single friends with a guest who are not in a serious relatonship with anyone. IMO If your girlfriend just met some dude in a club 2 weeks ago and wants to bring him- sorry Charlie.
Us, too. We only sent our STDs to the people we invited to the e-party. We figured they're our a-list. It would be a little rude not to invite them now...esp if they actually did Save the Date and made travel/hotel plans.
FalNBill
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Im sorry your stuck....Your going to have to send them an invite.... but Im sure you will have some declines, because everyone gets them... so you may be able to still keep the number of guests down
