Three months to go and a little upset (long)

Well girls I have 3 months to go and the nightmares began last night. I had a dream that due to the anthrax scare the post office closed and our invitations that are planned to go out on December 1st couldn't go out. To make a long story short I had to call all 250 guests and give them the invitations at the wedding. Yeah I am laughing now but was not last night. Today we went to visit the reception site to pick up direction cards and due to remodeling of the room (rooms does look great) the video screens that our DJ didn't charge us for since the place already had them were removed. When I called the DJ to see if he could now bring them he said for an additional 800 dollars. I talked him down to 500 but we still can't afford them so now they are out of the question. I was looking forward to them and felt like crying. Monday I called the dress shop to see if the dress was in yet (ordered April). They said no but would find out why and call me back. Well today I called back and after 10 minutes of searching for my slip she said oh yeah you were notified a month ago that the dress was in. Well if I was notified do they really think that I would call asking about it. And to top it all off my uncle the cantor that was originally going to marry us before he got cancer died today. Can it get better than this?? Please tell me it does. Sorry about venting but I needed to let it out.

Three months to go and a little upset (long)

First let me offer my condolonces on the loss of your uncle. I can only imagine how hard that must be. I am getting married in 2 weeks and my fiance just lost his father 2 weeks ago, so I know how turned upside down that makes you feel. In the short time I have left I swear it`s never gonna come together, but just like you thought you`d never find the man of your dreams you did, and just like that this wedding will happen. And it will be wonderful, You will get through this, I promise. I know that it will be all I dreamed of despite my lack of communication with my church, the now uncooperative attitude of my DJ and my having to plan it all from 1500 miles away, it will be one of the greatest most beautiful moments in my life.The same will happen for you. Keep the faith and vent vent vent!!! That`s what we are here for.

Three months to go and a little upset (long)

The only real impacting thing that happened of all that you mentioned is about your uncle. That is the most important thing, and I'm really sorry to hear about that. Don't worry about the rest of it. Believe me when I tell you that it WILL all fall into place. And, you must always remember that although you might have it planned out in your head a particular way, if it doesn't happen that way, don't worry, because your guests never knew what was in your head. They only know what actually happens, and that's going to be beautiful. Don't worry. We're here to support you!

Three months to go and a little upset (long)

I am so sorry to hear about your uncle. That makes me so sad :( NOW, a little proactive advice: Contact your catering hall. Remember, you signed the contract thinking the video screens (etc...) would be included. For your sake I hope there is a clause in the contract about that, or a good faith article that 'what you saw is what you will get.' Let them know it will NOW cost you another $500, and that you are NOT happy. See if they will help you out, at least to cover half. Negotiation makes the world go 'round. Bridal boutiques are notoriously bad for ANYTHING relating to customer service. Sad, isn't it. Make sure they really do have your gown and take it home with you if don't feel comfortable with these incompetents. About the nightmares: step back from the planning a bit and take a mini-vacation from it. Anxiety dreams suck, especially ones involving the US Post Office!

Take a deep breath...

eGreen...First and most importantly, I am very sorry for the loss of your uncle. I was so surprise that you wrote this last! I think that you should take whatever time you need to greive with your family. The wedding is unimportant in the grand scheme of things right now. Be with your family and take your focus away from the wedding for just a couple of days. Maybe this will help your stress level. Regarding the invite nightmare - I understand your concerns and fears about Anthrax. However, I believe that shutting down the post offices and discontinuing mail would be the last thing our government would ever do, so don't worry the least about your invites!! As the old motto goes, The mail must go thru!!! As for your dress, well...I don't blame you for being upset with the bridal shop. It is very poor reflection on them to have handled the notification so irresponsibly. However, you still have plenty of time for all your alterations, and that's what is important. Take a deep breath and relax. It is normal to be stressed at this point in the planning, but it will pass. Rely on your BM's and family to help you with all the details, and everything will be fine! I wouldn't give a second thought to the missing video screens. I understand your disappointment in not having them. However, maybe it's for the best. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you can ask the DJ for a larger discount if you only have one screen, instead of two. Best of luck to you. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. Time heals, and things will get better. Hang in there!

So sorry...

Egreen- I'm so terribly sorry to hear about your uncle. I remember you posting earlier that he was ill, and I'm so sorry that he has passed...my thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Just know he will still be there in spirit on your very special day... As for your dress - I'm glad it arrived - at least be thankful for that...I've heard nightmare dress stories, and it really could be worse. I agree with the above post about the screens. If they remodeled, it's not your fault that the screens were removed. You really should talk to the Sands about perhaps providing them again or at least offering to make up the difference to your DJ...I think that was great advice. I think you're just nervous right now, hence your nightmare. The TV news is so upsetting right now; you go to sleep with anthrax updates in your head. And your stressed now that the official countdown to your wedding has begun - but just know, that NO MATTER WHAT, you are going to have the best, most memorable and happiest day of your life in 3 short months..the best of luck to you!! And have sweet dreams all the rest of your nights!! :)