Time to vent

BKtoLI Posted: Nov 06, 2005 11:32 AM

Time to vent

What is it with people??

I seriously thought that these boards were a way for us to get ideas and give opinions without being b!tched at.

Someone asked for an opinion on something, and I gave it. I wasn't harsh, all I said was I liked something else they had a lot better. And what happens? One of the bride's friends FMs me and gripes at me telling me I must be jealous!!

How is telling someone 'I liked this better for you' being jealous?

Makes me wonder how old some people are.

It reminds me of when I did my own invites and I asked everyone's opinion, and Jaime told me she didn't like it. I was perturbed, but I got over it real quick. And now I think Jaime is one of the coolest people! Not once did I ever call her jealous or any names or gripe at her.

The way I see it, when you ask for opinions on this board you have to be prepared for favorable and unfavorable responses. It's a fact of life. Not everyone is going to love all of your ideas. And if you can't handle unfavorable responses, then you should not ask for opinions in the first place.

MrsH1156 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 11:37 AM

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I agree with you that sometimes people aren't prepared for the responses they get. Whether it be on the boards or in person, if someone asks for an opinion, they should realize that someone else's opinion is what they're going to get, not necessarily what they want to hear. I would chalk it up to someone having a bad day and not let it get to you. And remember that age has nothing to do with maturity!

evnme Posted: Nov 06, 2005 11:38 AM

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that kind of pettiness is what my middle school students do....
oy!
we're adults ladies....

MayBride06 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 11:39 AM

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Posted by BKtoLI

It reminds me of when I did my own invites and I asked everyone's opinion, and Jaime told me she didn't like it. I was perturbed, but I got over it real quick. And now I think Jaime is one of the coolest people! Not once did I ever call her jealous or any names or gripe at her.

I think you should just ignore the FM's b/c sometimes people are just socially inept. I really try to give my opinion if people ask for it b/c I know that I would really want people to be honest with me and not just tell me they like it for the sake of adding one more post to their total! Love ya Janna!

mclane Posted: Nov 06, 2005 01:12 PM

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Posted by BKtoLI

What is it with people??

I seriously thought that these boards were a way for us to get ideas and give opinions without being b!tched at.

Someone asked for an opinion on something, and I gave it. I wasn't harsh, all I said was I liked something else they had a lot better. And what happens? One of the bride's friends FMs me and gripes at me telling me I must be jealous!!

How is telling someone 'I liked this better for you' being jealous?

Makes me wonder how old some people are.

It reminds me of when I did my own invites and I asked everyone's opinion, and Jaime told me she didn't like it. I was perturbed, but I got over it real quick. And now I think Jaime is one of the coolest people! Not once did I ever call her jealous or any names or gripe at her.

The way I see it, when you ask for opinions on this board you have to be prepared for favorable and unfavorable responses. It's a fact of life. Not everyone is going to love all of your ideas. And if you can't handle unfavorable responses, then you should not ask for opinions in the first place.

I feel like you can't give an opinion on these boards fro fear that you get flamed.

waterspout4 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 02:58 PM

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I try not to give opinions because, in essence, I'm jealous of everybody.

(If you don't know me, I hope you at least note the sarcasm)

SweetCin704 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 03:04 PM

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Janna, if people don't want honest opinions, then they shouldn't ask for one. Some of the pettiness that has been going on lately is just such junior high school stuff.

If someone can't handle someone's criticism, then DON'T ask for an opinion!

shellnroc Posted: Nov 06, 2005 03:14 PM

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Janna,
I agree with you 100%!!!!!!!!!!!

thefirstlady Posted: Nov 06, 2005 03:25 PM

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Posted by BKtoLI

What is it with people??

I seriously thought that these boards were a way for us to get ideas and give opinions without being b!tched at.

Someone asked for an opinion on something, and I gave it. I wasn't harsh, all I said was I liked something else they had a lot better. And what happens? One of the bride's friends FMs me and gripes at me telling me I must be jealous!!

How is telling someone 'I liked this better for you' being jealous?

Makes me wonder how old some people are.

It reminds me of when I did my own invites and I asked everyone's opinion, and Jaime told me she didn't like it. I was perturbed, but I got over it real quick. And now I think Jaime is one of the coolest people! Not once did I ever call her jealous or any names or gripe at her.

The way I see it, when you ask for opinions on this board you have to be prepared for favorable and unfavorable responses. It's a fact of life. Not everyone is going to love all of your ideas. And if you can't handle unfavorable responses, then you should not ask for opinions in the first place.

I agree 100%. There's no reason for all this pettiness. We're all adults, and we're all here to help eachother. And why anyone could possibly be jealous of someone they've never seen or known before is beyond me. We're all getting MARRIED here! Let's first of all be happy, and second, remember that reading someones thoughts and not hearing them may distort the way it comes across to you. It's just an opinion, take it or leave it!!!!!!!!

Kris516 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 03:25 PM

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Posted by craigshunny

I agree with you that sometimes people aren't prepared for the responses they get. Whether it be on the boards or in person, if someone asks for an opinion, they should realize that someone else's opinion is what they're going to get, not necessarily what they want to hear.

I totally agree!

Jana - don't let it get to you!

sk1nny27 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 03:25 PM

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ditto!!

October Bliss Posted: Nov 06, 2005 03:30 PM

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I think the problem is that people very often don't want an honest opinion, instead they are looking for validation of their own ideas etc. The unfortunate side effect is that people do give their honest opinions. When everyone recognizes that, the angst will stop. In the meantime, don't let it get to you.

stephanief Posted: Nov 06, 2005 05:34 PM

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I'm sorry. People say some crazy $hit on FM's. They are afraid to say in in the public forum for fear of sounding like an idiot so they fm you.

Some people

Hamptonsbride06 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 05:37 PM

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I think a lot of people post on here expecting everyone to say that they love their idea,and are just waiting for people to ask where they got it from or something like that, and when they dont get what they want to hear they get sensitive

mtdr1106 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 05:43 PM

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i agree....don't ask if you don't want to hear.....

this is why i usually try not to post opinion questions...when i like something i really don't care what others think......

Mrs. Powell Posted: Nov 06, 2005 05:51 PM

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Posted by craigshunny

I agree with you that sometimes people aren't prepared for the responses they get. Whether it be on the boards or in person, if someone asks for an opinion, they should realize that someone else's opinion is what they're going to get, not necessarily what they want to hear. I would chalk it up to someone having a bad day and not let it get to you. And remember that age has nothing to do with maturity!

I agree with you a 100%. The word jealous is being used quite loosely or should I say out of context. Someone diasgreeing with someone's idea does not equal jealousy.

Goldi1021 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 06:09 PM

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Let it be known...

I'M JEALOUS OF JANNA!!!!!!!!!

gNi1125 Posted: Nov 06, 2005 06:10 PM

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Posted by craigshunny

I agree with you that sometimes people aren't prepared for the responses they get. Whether it be on the boards or in person, if someone asks for an opinion, they should realize that someone else's opinion is what they're going to get, not necessarily what they want to hear. I would chalk it up to someone having a bad day and not let it get to you.

I totally agree. Forget it Janna...you were just trying to help. Unfortunately, it's stuff like that that intimidates people from giving honest opinions.

Kathy&Chris Posted: Nov 06, 2005 06:24 PM

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Posted by SweetCin704

Janna, if people don't want honest opinions, then they shouldn't ask for one. Some of the pettiness that has been going on lately is just such junior high school stuff.

If someone can't handle someone's criticism, then DON'T ask for an opinion!

i agree...don't ask for what we think, unless you really want the honest truth, and are prepared to handle it...people won't be happy unless you tell them what they want to hear, not necessarily the truth...