Tipping

I was about to post something regarding who to tip & how much. I know that I will tip the wait staff, bartenders etc. But do you tip the band, photographer etc. Someone told me if you are paying someone directly for the service they are providing (ie: band) then you do not tip them.

Whould love some feedback - Thanks

Hello all ! I'll be getting married this August in Hampton Bays, on the south fork (where my fiance is from)... problem is, I live in Nassau. Anyone know of any good resources out east? Need a hairstylest, makeup person, limos, bakery (for cake), photog, etc. I don't know anyone else out there!

Is it true that if you feed a vendor (photographer, DJ, etc.) that the price you pay for their meal is subtracted from what cash you would give...??? Say, I wanted to tip $75, but it cost me $25 to feed them...so I would give $50. Is this right???

Yeah, I agree...the meal has nothing to do with gratuity. I only ask because one of our vendors mentioned that, and I found it a bit odd...especially because it was in our favor.

I can't imagine anyone working close to a 12 hour day without being fed. And let's face it, its not like our staff can run out for McDonald's.

If you want to compare it to a regular work day....we typically are given a full lunch hour. That's for an 8 hour work day. They're working close to 12 hours - and if I didn't feed them, they'd leave to go get food. I'd rather have them there just in case dinner ISN"T a full hour...so they don't miss anything.

Besides, it is illegal for my employer to ask that I work 12 hours without a coffee break and a a full lunch hour.

Donna - I don't know Mark nor am I using him for my wedding. That being said....

I do think that you are misinterpreting his message. There are a few of us on this board, myself included, who happen to agree with the views he has expressed.

It is perfectly acceptable for you to disagree with him, me or anyone else on this board. But calling people names and being down right disrespectful is not very productive and is quite rude.

I have and do appreciate your participation. I have benefited greatly from your wisdom over the past few months and am glad you have taken time out of your day to help.

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I also have been married before. I just wanted to tell you to absorb every second of your wedding day. It goes by so very fast. I am sure you will look beautiful and feel like a princess!

Thanks for your good wishes. Much appreciated!

Like I said before - I think everyone is entitled to their opinion & they should feel free to express it. I just think there is a way to express a dissenting opinion without attacking a person and being offensive.

Well said!

I'm not sure if that was referring to posts of mine....I'm jiggy w/tipping the organist & vocalist....I just don't know if it is customary. Sometimes I feel like I'm in a foreign country learning new customs w/this wedding.

My big thing with planning the wedding was leaving everyone with the warm & fuzzies. Just looking for guidelines

Zellers was actually 150. Not nearly as good (in our opinion)

Good point, Tim.

My big thing with planning the wedding was leaving everyone with the warm & fuzzies. Just looking for guidelines

Zellers was actually 150. Not nearly as good (in our opinion)

I didn't take it personally - again, just an honest question/clarification.

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Not to be nosy, but can i ask ball park how much you tipped the players? I always tip 20% of my dinner tap (pretax) when I go out. But here - well, I can't add a percentage to anything (how do you put a price on the fact that the organist is playing the music to the most important day of your life?) You can't....so I don't know. Is $20 an insult or is $50 too much????

Thanks! : )

Something about the letter 'K' that does it every time

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