tired of all the crap! (long)

I am not here during the day but the first thing I do when i get home is come to the boards to see what has happened. I see that a lot of the 'older' posters dont post as much anymore (Sonic, Marnles, etc.) and it makes me sad. I miss the old days, when people had a conflict of interest, they would talk about it privately..not slander everyone on the boards. I will be honest here, Sonic and I had a small disagreement one time and we handled it our way, like adult women, no name calling, putting down or anything else. I respect the heck out of her and everything she did to help people with their weddings and what she did to make her own a success. Although we had a disagreement, we came to terms with it, got over it and she answers my posts a lot which I so appreciate! This is what WOMEN do and how WOMEN behave.

I just cannot believe that in a time when the world is falling apart around us, we the lucky ones, come here and start this nonsense! Yes this is our escape, this is our own little world but its supposed to be filled with good things. Of course at times there will be disagreements but there is a way to handle them. Is this what we are really concerned with when our men and women are putting their lives on the line for our freedom?? People are getting killed each day doing a job that I am so happy someone chooses to do because I know I could never and we sit here bashing each other over the **** internet?!?!?! No sense to me!

If this is what you girls need to worry about in life, who called who what, who doesnt like who, who should be banned from liweddings, who should call the wedding police and so on...I am ashamed to be a part of this community! The world is in a state of chaos right now, do we actually need to bring more drama into a place where we should be coming to get away from it all????

I have made good friends on this site and a handful of them dont even post anymore due to all this crap! When we were planning our weddings and the like, we were here to help each other. I remember the days when the nwr board was for recipes and stories about our lives, when the bhb boards was actually brides helping brides...I am proud to be a newlywed but not proud to be a part of this crap! I am a 27 year old woman who has just gotten married and who loves to get to know women who are going through the same experiences as her. Period...nothing more nothing less.

I just cant believe that these are the things that are important to some of you. Those of you who have stated things like I have just said in other posts, I have the upmost respect for you. Good luck to all of you and I hope we can start realizing what life is truly about!

Well said!!! Amen! I stayed away for awhile because of this melodrama and it's so out of hand, it's not funny anymore. I stay on the newlywed and parenting side now.

Like I've said in the past, everyone has a right to their opinion, but we are all supposed to RESPECT that opinion and that person! Remember, to gain respect, you have to give it, and there's not a whole lot of that going on around here lately!!!

Come on ladies, enough is enough. Let's move on. If you have a problem with another girl, FM them and deal with it in private. Anything you post on the boards is PUBLIC, so remember to word your posts carefully and be respectful of your fellow LIWer! This used to be fun, why isn't it anymore? I want some levity in my life, not more stress!!!!

WELL SAID GIRL!!!!!!!!!!! You are what this is supposed to be about...getting married, being happy, HAVING A BABY!!!!!!!! AWESOME!!!!!

I just want to say that while I agree 100% about the melodrama at times being out of control, I feel all these posts about 'the good ol days' are kind of rude. Granted it was a smaller community a year ago, and everyone knew everyone else, ect.. however things change, and I personally like more girls on the board. When I joined here last April, there was a post about a GTG. I thought that might be fun so when I asked if anyone could join I was COMPLETELY IGNORED! I have spoken to a few ladies, who didnt post because they felt left out and not responded to. If you ask me I like the bigger community. And I also like NWR because it gives us ALL a chance to share and be silly together. IF particular people feel that they dont want to come back for WHATEVER reason thats up to them. However I dont think its ok to blame anyone for that.
While maybe some of the posts are bickering, most of them are fun silly and informative. I love all the ladies on here and i am glad for each and everyone and the advise they offer and for the fun i have with them, and frankly i just dont bother with the drama posts, and if everyone did that then no one would have to complain..

Nicely put Suzanne

Noreen i also agree with you too

I didnt mean i didnt like the larger community, i just meant that of course new girls are welcomed here with open arms, but the older posters seem to have been pushed out by the newer ones who 'cause the drama'. The funny posts i too love. The drama ones are the ones that make me sick!

I too love that this is a larger community now but i think that the girls who have been here for a longer time should not feel as if they have to shy away because of all the nonsense. Point well taken Suzanne!

I'm w/ ya! If you have a good recepie, or a life story to share, please do!

I can't believe we're at war. I pray everyday for the safe return of all our loved ones!

Noreen,

Allure

very very very well put!

Noreen I understand where you ae coming from because I am an older poster yet I like alot of the new ladies too but hate this drama!!!!!!

and LIWeddings lets it go on

I agree

I absolutely agree that this is getting out of hand.

I have been on the boards reading/posting ALOT LESS in the past month or so and plan to keep it this way. Maybe its a blessing in disguise that the boards are less and less 'inviting' and the addiction is just not there anymore...
Seeing these 'dramatic' threads, as they are called, makes me continue surfing the web for more important things, and even get things done for school.
Its embarassing sometimes to be part of a 'community' where married women are acting like high school (or better yet, grade school) girls. None of it makes sense, it is very childish, and there are SO MANY other things we can ALL expend our energy on...

Time spent reading these 'i got you last !' threads, is now time well spent laughing with my 6month old, or time well spent cleaning and organizing...or just shopping...'

There are so many women (wives and fiances of our soldiers) our age who are home without their husbands and fiances, who are waiting and wondering if their loved ones are safe, if they are in harms way, if they will ever see them again.

We should really cherish every day, and thank God that we are healthy and have our loved ones to go home to.

some girls don't even use BHB anymore they only come onto NWR, and they are brides to be Whats going on here?

okay I am done. when I was in seventh grade nobody liked me and I wasn't part of the clique. I was threatened to 'meet me after school' and this reeks of that. I spend almost no time on NWR so this should be a breeze!

Catch me on the flipside where there is newly married life, new houses, quotes for inspiration and birthday wishes. Parenting where I will be gathering info for my newly preggers friend , and where I will be someday with swollen belly!. And Story Board to expand my mind with the depth of some great questions and bright ladies!

I'll hit BHB for advice to all the hopefuls and stressed - and anybody I don't catch up with FM me for anything you need!

So with a twist on Shamma's signature quote - Happy Bantering!

Good Luck!!