to invite or not to invite update...AGAIN on bottom

Original post by soontobecruz

Jun 15, 2010 05:05 PM

as some of you might remember a few weeks ago I made a post about whether or not to invite this one friend I have (had).

She and I were very close when we were younger but drifted however I always considered her a friend. She even gave me sh it for not asking her to be in my wedding. She didn't come to my e-party due to a business trip. Pulled a no show at my shower and yet I still invited her...

I just got her response and she replied no. This was the reason I was unsure about inviting her all together or not. I didn't want to feel the disappointment if she said no. Which she did. What bothers me the most is there was never even a phone call or anything about why she can't come.

I text her and she hasn't text me back.

Windy Posted: Jun 15, 2010 07:17 PM

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Sorry

SummerBride10 Posted: Jun 15, 2010 07:19 PM

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I'm so sorry Shauna. Its really hard when a friendship drifts away until it eventually falls apart. Take a step back and look at the things she's done though- giving you trouble about not being in your bridal party, not showing up to your shower...maybe its all for the best.

I used to always hold onto friendships, even ones that were toxic to me, until recently. I finally began cutting ties with certain friends and realized I'm better off.

Don't forget too, old friendships fade, but new friendships also form. Think about all the new friendships you've made since joining LIW!

soontobecruz Posted: Jun 15, 2010 07:26 PM

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Posted by SummerBride10

I'm so sorry Shauna. Its really hard when a friendship drifts away until it eventually falls apart. Take a step back and look at the things she's done though- giving you trouble about not being in your bridal party, not showing up to your shower...maybe its all for the best.

I used to always hold onto friendships, even ones that were toxic to me, until recently. I finally began cutting ties with certain friends and realized I'm better off.

Don't forget too, old friendships fade, but new friendships also form. Think about all the new friendships you've made since joining LIW!

Thanks Colleen and you are very right. I actually said that to my Mom.

EmiandKensDay Posted: Jun 15, 2010 08:53 PM

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I experienced a similar situation. A small part of you will always mourn the relationship, over time it will get smaller and you are seriously better off.

It is always good to trim the fat!

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Jun 15, 2010 08:59 PM

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I feel like through all the planning and stuff you learn who your true friends are

joctorre Posted: Jun 15, 2010 09:03 PM

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I'm so sorry!!!!!

I used to call friends like that 'hesitation friends'. I know -- I'm a total dork, but I watch Law and Order and all those crime shows and they kept talking about 'hesitation wounds' meaning the superficial ones, so I coined the term for my 'friends'. I realized that I really didn't need the 'on the surface' friends...

It ****** for a while bc I was busy trying not to think about it, but in the end, I made BETTER DEEP friendships with others....... No hesitation!!!!

:)