So FMIL had this friend that she became tight with over the past few years. She wanted her to be invited to the wedding and put her on the list. She also put her onto my shower list. So, this woman has gotten a STD, a shower invitation and now she and FMIL are on the outs. They haven't spoken for about a month or so and from the bitterness in FMIL's voice, it may not be ever.
Now here's the dilemma...FMIL said not to invite her to the wedding. However, I feel that would be somewhat uncouth to have invited her to the shower and then not to the wedding.
Do I mail the invite as per etiquette and to avoid a bad image or do I not send the invite as per FMIL's wishes?
Jennifer907
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I had a similar situation. FMIL got into a fight with one of our GM and his wife (she was friends with them also) and said they couldn't come to the RD and then she uninvited the wife to my shower. Well, the wife showed up at my shower, and when I had a moment alone with her, I thanked her for coming despite FMIL being a you know what. And I sent them a RD invitation and told FMIL threatening not to come (which she did) was high schoolish and would only make her look silly. Bottom line is if I were you, I would still send the invitation. The woman may decline because of the situation. But it would look greedy to me if you didn't invite her because she was invited to the shower and got a STD.
MissAngel
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I agree with Jennifer 100%! Good luck with this, though. Sorry your FMIL is being such a PITA
Elise&Matt
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Hey date twin! I would invite her ...follow the etiquette there and hey who knows a lot can change in 73 days LOL maybe they will start talking again
diva7531
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I agree with the above posters, inbite her. If she is as bitter about FMil, as FMil is about her she probably won't come. Send the invite!
Regal Beagle
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That is tough....why not invite her anyway? Maybe she won't een come because of the situations and at least you did the right thing.
thelastresort
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Posted by diva7531
I agree with the above posters, inbite her. If she is as bitter about FMil, as FMil is about her she probably won't come. Send the invite!
Normally, I would totally agree but she tends to be a drama queen so I can see her coming just to spite FMIL but she didn't come to my shower so there is always hope!
