Today was harsh...

after RSVP hunting...I got 8 no's from family members. 8...just today. The total attending my wedding is almost half of what we invited. It's totally sad. I am super grateful for my family and friends who are coming..but I think having so much family RSVP 'No' is really taking its toll on me.

blah...just needed to vent for a sec!

A lot of OOT's on my side and his (mostly his). Only 8 of his relatives are making the trip (his family is HUGE). Its really sad! The 'No' RSVP's I got today were from my younger cousins who say 'they don't know anyway' and 1 cousin who is at school (in NY) and doesn't feel like coming. Then some other family members with no reason at all. Its just so annoying and I am starting to take it personal.

I guess its all just settling in. I am having one of those 'cant stop crying' moments I thought I'd never have. blah..I feel like an a-hole.

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Posted by AngnShaun

I would be furious....

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I am. I am happy to have made my minimum (barely). I mean, I understand that some people cant come...but more than half of what we invited? Wow. Looking at the numbers, I guess it all just hit me. Blah! Thanks for listening Ang!

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Posted by GR2010

I am so sorry. We invited 218 and it looks like we're getting 125. I emailed my my mom's cousin today (a grown woman) and she said she doesn't know if she's coming because she didn't ask for off from work. Her daughter also said she doesn't know if she can come because her fiance doesn't know if he can get off from work. Mind you they have known about this for well over a year and her wedding is 9/11 and I my entire family RSVP'd yes for that. It makes me FURIOUS.

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I totally feel you on this one! Its so hard not to take stuff like this personally! Its like..I have been with FH for 9 years, I have waited sooooo long to have this wedding. We've saved..we've stressed. And now that we can FINALLY have it, so many people I always thought would be there...aren't coming (and a lot of them with the crappiest of reasons!). I know I will have a good time regardless, but it really does change the way I view my family and FH's!

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Posted by MrsSx2

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Posted by GR2010

I am so sorry. We invited 218 and it looks like we're getting 125. I emailed my my mom's cousin today (a grown woman) and she said she doesn't know if she's coming because she didn't ask for off from work. Her daughter also said she doesn't know if she can come because her fiance doesn't know if he can get off from work. Mind you they have known about this for well over a year and her wedding is 9/11 and I my entire family RSVP'd yes for that. It makes me FURIOUS.

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I totally feel you on this one! Its so hard not to take stuff like this personally! Its like..I have been with FH for 9 years, I have waited sooooo long to have this wedding. We've saved..we've stressed. And now that we can FINALLY have it, so many people I always thought would be there...aren't coming (and a lot of them with the crappiest of reasons!). I know I will have a good time regardless, but it really does change the way I view my family and FH's!

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It's unfortunate that weddings really can make you reevaluate your relationships with people. For instance we just found out that FH's cousin is bad mouthing us to the rest of the family about the kid issue. Enough already. Only a third of his family RSVP'd yes. It makes me so angry and I realize that I am done going out of my way for people since it seems the majority of people will not go out of their way for others..

Aww Val I love you!!!! Don't worry I'll be there!!! I know it's rough, especially because you'd think everyone always asks when the next time we'll all see eachother is. But remember the ones who matter will be there, and I can name a whole buncha people who are excited to go!!!

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Posted by GR2010

It's unfortunate that weddings really can make you reevaluate your relationships with people. For instance we just found out that FH's cousin is bad mouthing us to the rest of the family about the kid issue. Enough already. Only a third of his family RSVP'd yes. It makes me so angry and I realize that I am done going out of my way for people since it seems the majority of people will not go out of their way for others..

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Urgh! Thats crap! How ridiculous is his cousin! I mean c'mon! You're absolutely right, I am done going out of my way for most of FH's family and even some of mine. Its sad, but this whole wedding has really opened my eyes to the way things really are in both our families.

On the bright side, I really do look forward to celebrating with people who actually made the effort and love us. It really makes me appreciate them all the more. I am sure I wont even think about the people who didn't come on the day of the wedding. Its a lil sad, but thats how it is!

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Posted by irisheyes23

DH and I invited 215 people and 133 showed. The RH was nice enough to lower our minimum from 150 to 135. Both DH and I have large families and most of his didn't come. People suck!

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They do suck! FH's family is just totally detached from our wedding. They never even ask us about it when we see them at family parties. Its like, if they don't talk about it, then they dont have to explain to us why they're not coming. Blah!

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Posted by DMLHeartsCRM

Aww Val I love you!!!! Don't worry I'll be there!!! I know it's rough, especially because you'd think everyone always asks when the next time we'll all see eachother is. But remember the ones who matter will be there, and I can name a whole buncha people who are excited to go!!!

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love you too. I guess the living out of state for so long is really making this harder for me. There are so many people I havent seen in years, and they cant even come to a huge event like my wedding. Whatever, we'll still have a great time. Thanks Dawn.

I'm sorry Val
we just got a bunch of VERBAL no's....
I hate the fact that there's a PAID stamp on the little piece of paper, is it so damn hard to write your name and check NOT COMING then walk to the mailbox and drop it in??


we weren't expecting half of these no's.... so we're trying to figure out what to do... because if we dont have the 150, then we wont have the large room... and thats the reason we booked there.


people just SUCK!

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Posted by MrsSx2

On the bright side, I really do look forward to celebrating with people who actually made the effort and love us. It really makes me appreciate them all the more. I am sure I wont even think about the people who didn't come on the day of the wedding. Its a lil sad, but thats how it is!

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Exactly I am just looking forward to seeing all of my hard work come together and have the people who will be there enjoy it!!!!

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Posted by MrsSx2

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Posted by DMLHeartsCRM

Aww Val I love you!!!! Don't worry I'll be there!!! I know it's rough, especially because you'd think everyone always asks when the next time we'll all see eachother is. But remember the ones who matter will be there, and I can name a whole buncha people who are excited to go!!!

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love you too. I guess the living out of state for so long is really making this harder for me. There are so many people I havent seen in years, and they cant even come to a huge event like my wedding. Whatever, we'll still have a great time. Thanks Dawn.

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People do suck! But it will still be an awesome time, and it's their loss for not making an effort to be there!!! Just remember we throw awesome parties naturally...thats just how we roll. lol. And let me tell you last gathering everyone was saying how excited they were to see you in two weeks.