Today was the second time in 5 years I have seen FH cry

mrtandmrst Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:12 PM

Today was the second time in 5 years I have seen FH cry

His mother lives in Romania....
FH is an American city...
In order for her to come visit she needs permission from the US embassy which is in Romania...

She brought proof that we are really having a wedding...

Fox Hollow contract
Florist contract
DJ contract
Dress reciept
Wedding band receipts....
Photographer receipt

This morning she had the interview this morning and they refused they just asked her how old she is and she is 52... they asked her if she works and she said yes...... same job as a nurse for 25 years.....

She owns a house that is worth 500,000 Euros....

They said that she represents a risk that she would remain here in the US illegally.....

FH cried....
he only has me here....
his brother is coming from South Africa....
his other family is coming from France but his mother will not be there....

He is so sad...

I just felt I needed to share....

Anyone else have someone that they want to be there on their day but they can't be there...

angl2001 Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:14 PM

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omg!! i am so sorry maybe you guys can call the embassy and talk to them?? maybe sign something saying she will return right after the wedding?? let them know there are people comming from all over the world?? it wouldnt hurt to try! i feel so bad for your FH i am so sorry he is sad

blaine08 Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:15 PM

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i hope things work out for u guys. FH is trying to get his aunt to attend as well

failurebydsign Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:24 PM

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we had people not be able to com for diff reasons..but nothing like this..im soo sorry..hopefully you will work it out

FtrMrsV Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:33 PM

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Im so sorry to hear the news. A friend of mine had the same exact problem. She couldn't get FH mother to come either. I hope you guys can some how resolve this issue.

mrtandmrst Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:47 PM

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thanks...
He has let me plan the WHOLE wedding the only thing that he wanted was his mom to see him on his day...

I called and they said that she can not reapply for 6 months... our wedding is in 3 months....

I feel so sad for him..... His dad passed away and he is very close with his mom....

mrtandmrst Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:49 PM

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Once again thanks for the kind words ladies....

I told him we could go there and have a mini wedding....

That made him feel better....

bluekat16 Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:54 PM

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I'm sooo sorry that you went thorough thi.s It is amazing that they would think she presents a risk of staying in the U.S. Who knows what criteria they look at anymore..I feel like it's soo random.

Again I'm sorry about this

Shell84 Posted: Mar 14, 2008 09:58 PM

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I know how your FH is doing, I am trying to get my father here and I only have a few days to go and we're not sure they're going to let him. to your FH

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 14, 2008 10:01 PM

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i think that bringing the wedding to her woudl be a great idea!

FH grandma will be 90 in nov... she can not take a 16 hr flight...

i just saw her 3 weeks ago and she gave us her wishes and blessings.. it was the best i could do for her.

i am so sorry

nifheim Posted: Mar 14, 2008 10:17 PM

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So sorry to have that happen to you. It is truly unfair that we seem to laws that protect us but yet separate us from the one's we love. I really do not understand why someone from that country of origin with what she has there would 'defect' illegally to this country given the fact her son is getting married and there is a legit reason for her to be here to visit.

SparkyandAng Posted: Mar 14, 2008 10:20 PM

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I am so sorry!! That's awful.

good luck...i hope things turn around and she is able to make it.

chrispar Posted: Mar 15, 2008 07:41 AM

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I am so sorry to hear this. I can only imagine how you guys feel.

Happybride2005 Posted: Mar 15, 2008 07:45 AM

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can you write a letter to the embassy?

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted: Mar 15, 2008 07:47 AM

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omg thats so sad!!! im so sorry!!!!!

bella1028 Posted: Mar 15, 2008 08:03 AM

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oh i am so sorry for him...that must be very difficult

siffleuse319 Posted: Mar 15, 2008 08:14 AM

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that's BS.....I'm so angry for you and FH. Is there some sort of appeal process that is available. This is supposed to be a free country...and yet we are protecting ourselves from visitors so stringently that a mom can't attend a son's wedding? Can you call the ACLU or an attorney? Surely there must be a way to have her there legally.

MikeandJess Posted: Mar 15, 2008 09:47 AM

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that's terrible! I can't believe it's so hard for her to leave romania

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted: Mar 15, 2008 10:22 AM

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I am so sorry! Is there someone in the US you can talk to about this? (I assume it was the US embassy in romania she has been dealing with - maybe someone here would have a different view and allow it???)