Too Many People

Does anyone else feel like their wedding is turning into a circus???????

I had planned on having around 250, which is big to begin with, but now the list is up to 320!!!!! I know people say to expect 20% not to come but what if they do???????

I don't want this many people at my wedding!!!!!!!

It's just hard because we both have big families and I have a lot of friends and he has a lot of work friends.

It's not even so much about the money, it's more that I don't want to be so overwhelmed the day of my wedding and have to spend the WHOLE time talking to people.

I want to enjoy my wedding, not have to spend the entire night greeting everyone!!!!!

we invited over 350
250 and change showed up
we were more worried about the money with all the people if everyone showed up
but to be honest the more people that are there
i think the better the party will be

i understand how you feel. although, my wedding is much smaller than yours, percentage-wise, i'm going through the same thing. my wedding guest list exploded by 36%.

i'm also hoping that some can't make it.

i wouldn't worry too much. it's your day and spend it how you want. if that means not greeting everyone, then so be it

The problem with cutting is that I sent out the Save the Dates already.
I sent them to all of my friends, my and my FH's families.

The only people that did not get them were some of my Mom's friends, FH's work friends and some people on FH's parents list that FMIL told me not to send because she was not sure if she was inviting them.

I kind of hope she doesn't invite them but I feel bad pushing her not to. I don't want to insult anyone but it is a little crazy!!!

THanks for all the posts, you guys did make me feel better!!! I am hopeful that between 250 and 280 will show - I am okay with that

Keep your fingers crossed for me!!!

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Posted by Dom n Nic

we invited over 350
250 and change showed up
we were more worried about the money with all the people if everyone showed up
but to be honest the more people that are there
i think the better the party will be

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That is a good way to look at it!! I am a PARTY GIRL!!!!!! I am just going to try to let it go for now, there is no sense in stressing I guess because I am not going to know the outcome until the responses come in and I may end up worrying for nothing.

Thanks again for all the support

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Posted by kcion

The problem with cutting is that I sent out the Save the Dates already.
I sent them to all of my friends, my and my FH's families.

The only people that did not get them were some of my Mom's friends, FH's work friends and some people on FH's parents list that FMIL told me not to send because she was not sure if she was inviting them.

I kind of hope she doesn't invite them but I feel bad pushing her not to. I don't want to insult anyone but it is a little crazy!!!

THanks for all the posts, you guys did make me feel better!!! I am hopeful that between 250 and 280 will show - I am okay with that

Keep your fingers crossed for me!!!

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If it makes you feel any better, I got screwed by sending my own Save the Dates, too. I sent them to a few people I work with (I had JUST started working at my job when I got engaged) who I REALLY don't want to invite now! In fact, I'm throwing etiquette out the window in a few cases and not inviting them despite giving them Save the Dates! oh well!!! If I didn't send those darn, devilish save the dates, my guest list would have been down about 20 people!!

LOL LOL LOL
I know!!!!!
You think you are doing the right thing by sending those out and then you get SCREWED!!!!!!!!!

As of now I am still planning on inviting everyone I sent them to but we'll see in a few months when I have to have my final headcount to order the invites!!!!!!!

It's nice to know some people share my pain!!!!

Thanks

I totally understand what you are saying and just want to warn you, since your wedding is 7 months away, that number may increase!

Our guest list is a lot higher than I initially thought it would be and wanted it to be! A lot higher. Instead of going from table to table, we are going to give a speach to thank everyone for coming. We will visit certain tables but, we know our friends would rather be with us on the dance floor than sitting at the table talking to us.

Our room is big enough to accomodate every guest we invite so I'm not thinking it will be a 'circus' per se, just overwhelming to me being the bride.

i can totally relate also-- my fmil adds people like everyday and everyone she has ever met or known is coming to begin with!!!

do you know how many people i will be saying 'hi, nice to meet you' to at my wedding?!

I hear ya! It seems like his and my parents are adding more and more people to the list each week!

that is why our Max is 140, we are absoultely not going over that. so many people say... oh i really want to come, but the chances of them not coming are very high if they live OOT. So those people will get pics & possible a DVD. Weddings are too expensive to invite everybody.

The speech thing is a GREAT idea

I know FH's family will be TOTALLY insulted if we do not go over to their tables but I guess we could go over to the 'family' tables and then just thank everyone else in a nice speech

That's a good idea

I am also planning on going to part of the cocktail hour so I can talk to some people there too

I think the simplest solution is just to book a hall with a low minimum. No room means no more guests can be invited.

I am having a small function of 100 minimum and inviting 127.

I think that the more people you invite, the more 'no's' you may get 'cus there will be more casual friends and acquaintances among those people. And those are normally the ones who find a reason to not come.

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Posted by eden

I think the simplest solution is just to book a hall with a low minimum. No room means no more guests can be invited.

I am having a small function of 100 minimum and inviting 127.

I think that the more people you invite, the more 'no's' you may get 'cus there will be more casual friends and acquaintances among those people. And those are normally the ones who find a reason to not come.

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That doesn't always work if there's a low minimum, you need to find a room that has a low max capacity to limit the number of guests!

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Posted by kcion

The speech thing is a GREAT idea

I know FH's family will be TOTALLY insulted if we do not go over to their tables but I guess we could go over to the 'family' tables and then just thank everyone else in a nice speech

That's a good idea

I am also planning on going to part of the cocktail hour so I can talk to some people there too

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curliegirl helped me with the speach idea and FH was excited about it. We aren't huge speach people but, everyone will be looking at us anyway!

The cocktail hour thing is good too. I originally wanted to do our whole CH but, I want to hang out in the bridal suite for a bit first so I can actually eat a little.