Maybe you can brooch the topic by asking if they have any ideas for what to do with their hair for the wedding...maybe they're already thinking of extensions or will grow it out...before you ask them to grow it out, ask them what they have in mind first is my suggstion.
i really don't think there is any way on earth to ask them to do this and not insult them....if you want to do this - from the bottom of your heart....good luck......
I was in a similar situation, my FSIL cut her hair really short, but I wanted all of my bms to wear their hair down and for me to wear mines up (so that there's a contrast)...so I just let all of my BMs know in an email how I would like them to wear their hair, and she took the clue and started growing it out...I also asked them to let me know if they had any problems with my request and all of them were fine with it...you just have to make sure you're tactful...people that love you will understand that it's your wedding, and they'll do what they can to make you happy...as long as you're not bridezilla-ish about it, they'll comply..HTH
i wouldnt, you didnt ask them to be in your wedding party for how they look, you asked them to be in it bc of your relationships with them...it is not right of you to ask them to change their appearance when obviously they are ok with how they look
I dont think it would be right either. Maybe you can just casually mention how you miss their hair long and think it would look nice grown out (but dont mention the wedding when you say that) Maybe theyll decide to grow it out on their own.
If it helps i like short hair. But I really don't think it is nice to ask her!
I wouldnt ask....I dont think its right.....Just my honest opinion
Look, YOU are the bride, the star of the show, and not one person will care how short your BM's hair is. You're making excuses, saying that it's for their own good because their haircuts don't flatter them. if they honestly don't look good with the short hair, that's their problem, not yours. I often wear my hair short, and if a friend of mine told me that my hair looked bad and she wants me to grow it out for her wedding i would be terribly hurt and insulted.
my FMIL has very short hair and all I did was ask her how she was going to wear her hair and she asked me if she should grow it out....I told her she should do whatever she would feel comfortable with.....well she';s been growing it out for 6 months now.
Posted by DavaDay
Look, YOU are the bride, the star of the show, and not one person will care how short your BM's hair is. You're making excuses, saying that it's for their own good because their haircuts don't flatter them. if they honestly don't look good with the short hair, that's their problem, not yours. I often wear my hair short, and if a friend of mine told me that my hair looked bad and she wants me to grow it out for her wedding i would be terribly hurt and insulted.
Posted by FutureMrsCarrieri
Posted by DavaDay
Look, YOU are the bride, the star of the show, and not one person will care how short your BM's hair is. You're making excuses, saying that it's for their own good because their haircuts don't flatter them. if they honestly don't look good with the short hair, that's their problem, not yours. I often wear my hair short, and if a friend of mine told me that my hair looked bad and she wants me to grow it out for her wedding i would be terribly hurt and insulted.
Whoa, take it easy.
I am not making excuses -- it is obvious that I think their hair will not look so great in MY pictures for MY wedding. I think most of us on here care -- many are even treating their BM's to hair and make-up so that everyone looks their best that day. And the reason I put the question out there was because I wasn't sure if it was appropriate or not. Now I know that some people would be offended.
Either way I don't think my sister who loves me would take it as hard as you would.
If you are asking your BM to wear their hair all up, or all down I think that it is totally fine. I was just in a wedding where the bride didn't want any hair in our faces so we all complied. I think the issue here is someone asking them to GROW their hair long for it. Not wear it a certain way. If i liked my hair straight and the bride said make it curly for my wedding fine, but if i liked my hair short and someone told me to wear it long I would have to say it's non of your business. I just don't get it. But this is just my opinion
Posted by zoe282
If you are asking your BM to wear their hair all up, or all down I think that it is totally fine. I was just in a wedding where the bride didn't want any hair in our faces so we all complied. I think the issue here is someone asking them to GROW their hair long for it. Not wear it a certain way. If i liked my hair straight and the bride said make it curly for my wedding fine, but if i liked my hair short and someone told me to wear it long I would have to say it's non of your business. I just don't get it. But this is just my opinion
