trying on dresses with fiance

historie86 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:27 PM

trying on dresses with fiance

Has anyone's fiance gone with them to try on dresses?

Lsorrent Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:30 PM

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I haven't gone yet, but my FH will ABSOLUTELY NOT be there!!!!!

I've asked if he has any preferences and he actually laughed at me saying 'would you really listen anyway???'

FH knows he gets no say in my gown and doesn't get to see it until the doors to the church open.

RPMG26599 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:32 PM

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I did not have my fiance come with me nor will he see my dress till the day of BUT I have heard of this and actually think it's become quite popular for the fiance to go with the bride to try dresses on.

I guess its ok if you are ok with it =)

MarjorieFrank Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:40 PM

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Just be careful if you do go shopping with FH... Once I went to a bridal store to drop off payment for a BM dress for a wedding I was in and FH came in with me to drop it off. You should have seen the death glares he got!!!!! If looks could kill he would have been dead in under one second. If you go to a store with your FH, there will be other brides trying on gowns so just keep this in mind. Having FH in a bridal shop may make everyone else a little uncomfortable.

Mrs. Bernabe Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:44 PM

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to me the wedding besides being the day you marry the love of your life, is so the bride to be surprises her husband to be with how gorgeous she looks. I enjoyed seeing DH reaction to seeing me for the first time as a bride. It was so magical.

This is not to say that your DH will not react the same way if you and him go dress shopping. But I would like for him to be totally surprised by not knowing what my gown is.

soontobecruz Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:48 PM

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NO WAY!! I don't really get this new trend. I have heard of it and seen it. I am not even having my Dad go. I think there is something special there too when he sees me at my house before we leave.

I have asked FH if he wanted to see my gown, in a magazine... he was like NOOOO.... I was never actually going to do it, I just wanted to hear his reaction. I even held up the magazine on some random page and he was shielding his eyes from it and yelling at me to stop. He said he wants it to be a surprise.

Nitania13 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:50 PM

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Mine didn't go.

enewedding Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:50 PM

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Not only did DH come with me he also helped me pick out my dress. I was stuck between 2 and gave him final say.
I enjoyed having him there and felt less self conscious about it knowing that he would be 100% honest with me.

AdriandSteve Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:53 PM

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NOPE he will not come. He'll be worse then my mom!!!!

even though i'm showing him pics of dresses that i like.

Soon2bMrsH Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:55 PM

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im not showing him anything becuase i cant wait to see his face as i walk toward him after the church doors open!

MrsDR2010 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:56 PM

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I had my FH come with me because I have no friends or family to come in FL so I its really me and him. If I were in NY it would be different. He just told me no if he thought th dress looked bad but in the end he won't know which one I will choose. However, I still haven't found the one yet but at least I have an idea what he thinks is really nice

Future Mulligan Posted: Apr 13, 2009 02:59 PM

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he saw me in my dress

he still cried when he saw me on the wedding day - more than once!

laurendaqt Posted: Apr 13, 2009 03:05 PM

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My sister went with her FH to try on the dress and she said it was fine. She is very self concious and only trusts him to tell her the honest truth.. i think its ok if hes ok with it.

Panamasweet Posted: Apr 13, 2009 03:47 PM

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Mine will not go!!! I really dont want him to see my dress until the day of. Not only that but I cant imagine him wanting to go

debzy Posted: Apr 13, 2009 03:50 PM

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Mine definitely did not come with me. I think part of the beauty is surprising him with your dress on the day of your wedding. It leaves him in suspense up until that last day when he finally sees you. It's more romantic.

EsquireBride Posted: Apr 13, 2009 04:25 PM

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DH came with me to try on dresses. We had a great time! The store was a little shocked to see him there, but they were fine with it. Funny story -- before we went to the bridal salon, we ripped out pages of nice dresses from bridal magazines and realized that we had totally the same taste. So we showed my consultant the pics and she had the La Sposa in stock which I tried on, loved and bought. Turns out DH was the person to rip that picture out from the magazine, so essentially he picked out my dress!

EsquireBride Posted: Apr 13, 2009 04:30 PM

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Posted by Mrs. Bernabe

to me the wedding besides being the day you marry the love of your life, is so the bride to be surprises her husband to be with how gorgeous she looks. I enjoyed seeing DH reaction to seeing me for the first time as a bride. It was so magical.

This is not to say that your DH will not react the same way if you and him go dress shopping. But I would like for him to be totally surprised by not knowing what my gown is.

There is a big difference between a sample gown though and the real fitted gown. Even though DH saw me in the sample in the store, he wasn't there for fittings and close to 11 months went by bewteen the time I bought the dress with him there and our wedding day. It was no less special!

Some pros to think about -- if FH is there with you, you might be more likely to stick to your budget. With your mom or friends, you really might be pressured into spending more than you want because you have people telling you to do so. With FH there, I stated my budget and stuck to it.

Some cons - you and FH have to have the same taste, the same vision. He also has to realize that he cannot just free-for-all comments, because you might really live puffy skirts and he just has to deal with that. Luckily DH and I went right for the same style so it made it really easy -- I went to one salon, tried on 4 or 5 dresses, and that was it!

Dee0522 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 04:32 PM

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I absolutely did not want my DH to see me in my wedding dress before I walked down the aisle. I was very traditional when it came to my wedding. No seeing each other before the ceremony, very traditional vows, etc. Just a personal preference, I guess!

mzmahagony Posted: Apr 13, 2009 04:36 PM

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No, I didn't want him there because we have such different taste and I didn't want him to discourage me out of a dress that I really loved. Besides there is not enough money in the world that I could pay him to make him come. He hates shopping with me...lol.. I did sent him a link to the page that my dress was on though and I asked him if there we any dresses on that page that he absolute hates and he picked mine...lol...I didnt tell him though, he'll see it on the day..lol