Ok... so I know my wedding is 8 months away but I'm already frustrated w/ my BP. The only one who's truly stepped up is my Matron of Honor. The other girls are acting clueless. I feel as though all they care about is themselves. One is even showing how excited she is about an upcoming trip but had the nerve to tell me she didn't know if she could be in my BP because of $. I am not @ all into caring about how much $ my BP can contribute. All I ask is that they buy their dresses & show up! I honestly don't feel it's too much to ask. And it would be nice if they asked how the planning was going or something, anything relevant to my wedding. I'm really trying to stay positive but it's really disheartening.
adelya21
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aww im sorry !!! how much are the dresses?
POM917
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Sit them down and try to have a heart to heart let them know that this is all hurting your feelings and you wish they would become more involved.
LatinaB2B
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The dresses are less than $200 including shoes. I am paying for the day of jewelry as part of their gifts. I wouldn't mind helping them pay for their dresses if push came to shove. What I really want is their involvement.
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Have a heart to heart with them.. a lot of BM have no clue if they have never been in a BP before.. my BP is not involved at all really so I know how you feel...
LatinaB2B
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At this point, I'm going to have to sit them down. My 6 month mark will be here soon & I want things on track by then. Thanks :)
evita2781
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Most people have no idea, including myself when i was first asked a BM back in the days, what type of involvement there is to be in a BP. I seriously just waited for the bride to tell me what to do. I'd ask how things were going but besides that, i had no idea what to do! Just talk to them about it and hopefully they'll be more involved after that
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Girl, they've all been in weddings before & that's what bugs me. Add to that the fact that they're my family & I'm about ready to flip. I know this much once I reach the 6 month mark, they either get it together or they don't have to participate @ all. I'm sorry to hear of your BP. It's a shame. I've been a BM & I didn't act this way. If anything I was the one who was up w/ the bride the entire night before her wedding meanwhile her MOH showed up right before show time. Unreal.
LatinaB2B
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Evita, I really hope so.
VCanizalez
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Sorry chica... Bridal Party can def. makes us (the brides) mad and CRY!....
I have shred TONS of TEARS for BRIDAL PARTY issues...
hang in there chica... Talk to them... If it is NOT meant to be, then Better to knwo now than LATER... At least you have SOMEONE who is Stepping up their game.... Maybe that is the only person who should be there...
LatinaB2B
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At this point I'm really hoping I'm not going to wind up with just my MOH. It's sad chica especially since I know what kind of BM I was. Pray for me girl. I'm gonna need all the prayers I can get.
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Just relax chica... Just like U, i wanted ALL of my 'best friends' to be there for me!!!..... I wanted everyone tthere for me!!!.... 3 of my longest friends, GAVE UP THEIR 'TITLE' after being my friends & MOH/BM!!! My FH lost his 2friends too like that...
THe people who truly LOVE U and want to b there for U, WILL BE.....
LatinaB2B
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OMG amor that is so sad! But better you know now than later & you're right those who truly care & want to be there will be.
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OMG amor that is so sad! But better you know now than later & you're right those who truly care & want to be there will be.
SEE chica? The same advice u just said, I will say right back at you! U better now KNOW than LATER... Talk to them... Pon las cartas en la Mesa... Tell them wat u feel & expected... U will be surprise perhaps that after that they may b there for U!
Feel better n hope things work out for the best!
LatinaB2B
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Gracias chica I pray all goes well for you as well.
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Gracias chica I pray all goes well for you as well.
Thanks
So far, I have the people I want... Those girls are truly tehre for me Love them!
LatinaB2B
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And that's a BEAUTIFUL thing!
VCanizalez
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And that's a BEAUTIFUL thing!
Yeah but i had to experience a horrible pain after i became to understand that ONLY the ppl WHO truly LOVE ME will be there for me
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I would have them all meet with you and tlel them how your feel about this. Its not fair to you to have to feel this way before your wedding ya know?
