i was lookin on the BHB board and saw a post and i never realized how many people boot their BM....have you/ are you planning on booting anyone? i no alot of us are so excited and ask people without thinkin.
i booted one girl and i couldnt be happier! she tried to cause drama within everyone and i didnt need it
jjk1007
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thank god all my girls are awesome. I have no need to boot anyone. (lucky me!)
dream426
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I haven't but I would have no problem doing it if they were causing a problem. I didn't ask a girl because I knew she would cause a problem. I know she was mad about it but this is my day and she would turn it into all about her. She would have caused fights with my other BM also.
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Posted by dream426
I haven't but I would have no problem doing it if they were causing a problem. I didn't ask a girl because I knew she would cause a problem. I know she was mad about it but this is my day and she would turn it into all about her. She would have caused fights with my other BM also.
see i asked a girl cause i felt like i kinda hadda ...its a complicated story but shes the one i ended up bootin so no lose
dream426
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I haven't but I would have no problem doing it if they were causing a problem. I didn't ask a girl because I knew she would cause a problem. I know she was mad about it but this is my day and she would turn it into all about her. She would have caused fights with my other BM also.
see i asked a girl cause i felt like i kinda hadda ...its a complicated story but shes the one i ended up bootin so no lose
Hey you have to do what you have to do. I would have done the same thing. I thought about asking my girl even though I didn't want to and everyone kept telling me that it wasn't wrong if I didn't ask her. I don't see anything wrong with what you did and now you feel a lot better I bet.
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i had to. one that i worked with for 5 year had a jealousy issue and was trying to get me fired from my job ....like they always say never mix business with pleasure !
JeanetteandSteve
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i wanted a small BP so i had to decide btwn friends or family. this is one of the reasons why i went w family. they usually aren't trouble makers.
BellaChandella
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I need to boot someone.
And I don't know how i'm going to do it!
she's the type of girl that cries about EVERYTHING.
but it has to be done...
truelove5803
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See I have the opposite problem...I'm wondering if I should add someone
BellaChandella
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Posted by wifey08
Posted by dream426
I haven't but I would have no problem doing it if they were causing a problem. I didn't ask a girl because I knew she would cause a problem. I know she was mad about it but this is my day and she would turn it into all about her. She would have caused fights with my other BM also.
see i asked a girl cause i felt like i kinda hadda ...its a complicated story but shes the one i ended up bootin so no lose
that's exactly what i did!!
i asked her because i felt like i had to ask her..
and now i have to boot her! lol
Fall Bride 2008
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you have to do what you have to do. If you ask a bm to be in your wedding and she dosent even bother to be worried about what goes on in your wedding then I completely understand... There has to be a really logical reason to kick out a bm
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i wanted a small BP so i had to decide btwn friends or family. this is one of the reasons why i went w family. they usually aren't trouble makers.
You're smart! I wish I did the same thing. I have 3 cousins in BP and some friends from college/hs/post college that makes 10. I wish I didn't include a HS friend because we're not close anymore, but she kind of comes as a 'package deal' with the other HS friend. I DEFINATELY should have stuck w/ cousins and FSIL only
AHH!
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yea that is part of my reason why im booting her.
everytime i go to talk to her about the wedding she dont listen really. just 'yea' 'oh cool' ..
and another thing is, when she drinks, she drinks like 2 or 3 drinks and shes a human wrecking ball then!!!
i dont want to be babysitting my BM b/c shes drunk @ my wedding..
BellaChandella
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i'm sorry. i'm venting on here.. becuase this is one of my biggest issues right now thats eating me up!! lol
Fall Bride 2008
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yea that is part of my reason why im booting her.
everytime i go to talk to her about the wedding she dont listen really. just 'yea' 'oh cool' ..
and another thing is, when she drinks, she drinks like 2 or 3 drinks and shes a human wrecking ball then!!!
i dont want to be babysitting my BM b/c shes drunk @ my wedding..
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm lol i know someone like that
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I was just saying how I am so lucky to have great Bridesmaids. I am picky with friends, and I only chose those that are close to FH and I and for me to chose them as friends., I know they will not act like fools to ruin this experience.
I think I would talk to the BM actually first before ending a friendship over a silly issue.
ETA; I purposely didnt pick someone because I knew that person ruin the experience.
JM4EVA
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No I am not goingto boot anyone. We have a fairly large BP, but half is family and the other are close friends that we never have a problem with, so we should be okay!
Must be difficult to boot someone out though, but its better than having to worry on your wedding day.
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this is exactly why they say to wait to ask people in your BP...you never know how somebody will act towards your engagement. Even those you never expected will act weird towards. THis way when you wait you see those who are happy for you, those who are jealous, those who could care less.
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I still have to officially ask my BM's to be my BM's haha. I was going to do it right before the e-party this June. But I did mention to them all that they would be in my BP.
However, there is one friend of mine that I said I wanted to be in my BP but she is not going to be anymore. I hope she kind of forgets I mentioned it to her once haha I just dont want drama. But she is very sketchy. Her bf and my FH met in San Diego- they were both stationed there for the Marines. However, her bf went to Japan last May but comes home this month....but she acts like her bf is better than my FH all the time- however I know he cheated on her with 3 different women in San Diego- my FH has proof haha
But we were good friends in the beginning but now that her FH is in Japan all she does is tell my how wonderful he is and that my FH isnt all that and a bag of chips. I mean I never said he was but I would never put her FH down. So needless to say her bf comes home at the end of this month and I try to contact her and get together to have dinner or something- but nothing she is too preoccupied with her BEST BF EVER hahaha
i sound mean but i dont want someone in my bridal party who is like that especially since i had been there for her throughout her whole bf's deployment to Japan and always was there for her when she needed a shoulder!
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i didnt officially boot anyone .. but i had 2 girls drop out on me cause i ask them (along with the rest of the bridal party) to stop complaining about things cause i didnt need the stress ... well 2 of them got offended and dropped out ...what are you going to do ...
