u ever boot bm?

this girl JUST started acting like this. and EVERYONE in the bridal party sees it too (well those who are in it and who are around her all the time! lol)

up until the last 2 times i saw her, we were talking wedding stuff.. then all of a sudden she snapped into a different person..

i mean for the longest time she was picking out wedding stuff for me online lol then snap .. diff person ... idk people are weird.

i shoulda stuck with my original choice but i went and did it all asssbackwards again.. thats the chando way.

lol

i havent had to 'boot' anyone, but i did have a simular situation:

see here

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Posted by cbcf

I still have to officially ask my BM's to be my BM's haha. I was going to do it right before the e-party this June. But I did mention to them all that they would be in my BP.

However, there is one friend of mine that I said I wanted to be in my BP but she is not going to be anymore. I hope she kind of forgets I mentioned it to her once haha I just dont want drama. But she is very sketchy. Her bf and my FH met in San Diego- they were both stationed there for the Marines. However, her bf went to Japan last May but comes home this month....but she acts like her bf is better than my FH all the time- however I know he cheated on her with 3 different women in San Diego- my FH has proof haha

But we were good friends in the beginning but now that her FH is in Japan all she does is tell my how wonderful he is and that my FH isnt all that and a bag of chips. I mean I never said he was but I would never put her FH down. So needless to say her bf comes home at the end of this month and I try to contact her and get together to have dinner or something- but nothing she is too preoccupied with her BEST BF EVER hahaha

i sound mean but i dont want someone in my bridal party who is like that especially since i had been there for her throughout her whole bf's deployment to Japan and always was there for her when she needed a shoulder!

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WOW totally feel your pain!! refer to my previous post with the link

thankfully so far haven't had thought of booting anyone... it's only 4 girls to begin with, and they are nice girls. only time will tell though!!

i say do what you want, it's your day, don't let people ruin it.

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Posted by Espo22

this is exactly why they say to wait to ask people in your BP...you never know how somebody will act towards your engagement. Even those you never expected will act weird towards. THis way when you wait you see those who are happy for you, those who are jealous, those who could care less.

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Yes, there is no rush to ask people!!! I waited to offically ask people about 9 months after my engagement. As long as you give people like 7 or 8 months, I think you are fine.

I dont believe booting will be an issue for me, but if I had to, I would. Wedding planning is stressful and I made a promise that I would not have any extra drama..

I might need to boot my cousin. I asked her when I first got engaged but then realized i only wanted 5 bridesmaids... then when my FH added TWO MORE groomsmen, I asked her again.

I'm stressing out now b/c we havent even set a date and I came to the conclusion i REALLY DONT want to have a big bridal party. Meaning-- he can have whoever, but I just want to keep my BMs down to 4.
My 5th BM, one of my best friends totally understands so she's cool.

I just dont know how to tell my cousin.