UGGGH!!!!! LONG SORRY

So last night I couldn't really sleep, I have asked Fh's sister in law to be in the party and she had said yes! I was excited. After I have asked her she had mentioned she wanted to have a baby around the time we get married probably a month after which is great news because they've been married for almost 5 years and I am soo happy they are finally going to have a baby!. So since I heard her saying this I had a talk with her and told her that if she wanted to step out I wouldn't have a problem because I don't want it to make it stressful for her. She told me that she had to think about it because she doesn't know that she can get pregnant when she wants to she has to see. Sure I understand that too but I actually need to start thinking about dresses and stuff. Then I just keep hearing things about 'she might step out' what i don't get is that why can't she just be honest with me I don't mind at all and I won't have hard feelings because of this.! FH has now 1 more GM without a partner he has asked me to find someone else but I don't want to just pick anyone and put it on my bridal party! I want someone that's special to me because that's how it is supposed to be...

The fh made a comment that got me soo ANGRY he said 'since you have a problem with having her pregnant on the BP' I WAS LIKE OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH NOOOOOO U DIDN'T! and I got upset because I won't mind her being in the BP if she wants to but she seems indecisive and that makes me nervous. Now FH has 1 guy without a partner and I don't know who to choose I really don't want to choose anyone else but I know you can have an odd bp but i just don't like it to be odd i don't know what to do anymore I need to vent! sorry ladies for this longggggg message!!

thoughs???

Explain to FSIL that you're starting to think about dresses and you need to know what her thoughts are. Worse comes to worse, she can buy the dress and if she steps down, then so be it...her loss.

As for the uneven BP, no big deal. Just have one of your girls walk with two guys. I have a very uneven bridal party - 8 girls, 5 guys. I have to pair up two of my girls with two guys each.

Did everyone have a bad night with FH?

Dont stress over it so much.

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Posted by Christine N Ralph

I wouldnt stress over this too much right now. You still have time to think about dresses and the bp...I know its stressful- but after having 2 girls back out of my bp I have learned that it doesnt really matter in the end. Just have 2 guys walk with 1 girl

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ITA

yea just really talk to her and FH. If you pick dresses I am sure she can always get the same dress at a later date.

I know it is annoying since you really want to start doing things and getting things done.

My bp an dhis gm's are totally not even close with being even BUT I agree I will not pick anyone just because def dont do that.

good luck.

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Posted by Rosalind_75

Did everyone have a bad night with FH?

Dont stress over it so much.

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Not me...I let him snore away on the couch then I took a Tylnol PM and went to bed myself. LOL

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Posted by Its2Snappy

I would talk to her about it. Tell her that you would love to have her in the bridal party, and that her being pregnant doesn't matter. You just don't want to put stress on her. Give it some more time and she can always order her dress a bit later.

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ita. good luck!

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Posted by little j

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Posted by Its2Snappy

I would talk to her about it. Tell her that you would love to have her in the bridal party, and that her being pregnant doesn't matter. You just don't want to put stress on her. Give it some more time and she can always order her dress a bit later.

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ita. good luck!

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i agree as well. a lot of stores said you don't really need to order bridesmaids dresses until 4 months prior.

as for an unever bridal party, its ok. i don't want ours to be uneven either but i rather it be unever to just pick someone.

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Posted by Its2Snappy

I would talk to her about it. Tell her that you would love to have her in the bridal party, and that her being pregnant doesn't matter. You just don't want to put stress on her. Give it some more time and she can always order her dress a bit later.

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i agree

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Posted by CloudNine

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Posted by Its2Snappy

I would talk to her about it. Tell her that you would love to have her in the bridal party, and that her being pregnant doesn't matter. You just don't want to put stress on her. Give it some more time and she can always order her dress a bit later.

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i agree

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thanks everyone for the input!

I have talked to her about it!!! but she doesn't come up with a real answer she's like I AM NOT SURE!! or I will not have fun at the Bachelorette party. so last night FH spoke to his brother and this is when i got upset because he made that comment about 'well you are the one that don't want her pregnant' UGGH like someone said this is not a big deal but it can get out of hand i just don't want it to be out of hand! thanks

ill be your bm i wont get kncoked up..i promise

Aww...I'm sorry hon. Don;t stress though...things always work out in the end!!

Everything will work out, dont stress it just yet...Give it a little bit more time before you start to freak over it...No worries!!

awww i would be straight out with her and tell her you need to know beacuse you need to start checking out dresses and making choices... i hope everything works out!!