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That is not right - abt deducting the cost - what is that about????
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Errrggg!!! ![]()
You are not alone in this arguement. FIL's feel similarly to your FFIL. My FMIL says that she wants to invite as many people as she wants and if we go over the alloted #, then FH AND I must pay for them! Well, I told my FH that my parents are not picking up the bill and WE are not either...so he said he would talk to them.
To get around this problem, FH made the guest list for his side of the family and told his parents that this is HIS wedding....if they want the extra people there then they need to pay for them. It seems like your FH needs to take a stand and speak with his father about this issue.
To get around this problem, FH made the guest list for his side of the family and told his parents that this is HIS wedding....if they want the extra people there then they need to pay for them. It seems like your FH needs to take a stand and speak with his father about this issue.
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Posted by MrsStefan
To get around this problem, FH made the guest list for his side of the family and told his parents that this is HIS wedding....if they want the extra people there then they need to pay for them. It seems like your FH needs to take a stand and speak with his father about this issue.
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If they want the extras they should pay. This is their son's wedding - they are contributing nothing compared to your parents. He should talk to his dad and maybe you can just tell him that these extras can be on your 'B' list.
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Wow, that's nervy.
So, umm- the guests need to be paid for BEFORE you get their gift. Does he expect a refund?
Is this guy serious?
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Posted by Naunie![]()
Wow, that's nervy.
So, umm- the guests need to be paid for BEFORE you get their gift. Does he expect a refund?
Is this guy serious?
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omg, nerve!!! I feel bad for you
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I think you should say- It's a deal- and then let him try to take to you court for his refund. And you can say- oh- I'm sorry, we only offer store credit, and then give him, like- leftover dead centerpieces.
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Posted by Naunie![]()
Wow, that's nervy.
So, umm- the guests need to be paid for BEFORE you get their gift. Does he expect a refund?
Is this guy serious?
That is what I said! I just can't take it anymore - I really should have just stuck to my original destination wedding plan (but of course I got pressured into staying on LI for the wedding). I think FFIL thinks that if he badgers us enough he can convince us to pay for his extra people - which is NEVER going to happen. Even if we wanted to pay for their ever expanding guest list, money doesn't fall out of the sky!![]()
I SOOOO feel your pain!! we told FMIL we want ~170 at the wedding... her guest list.. and i repeat HER list is 165! we still have FH's friends, and my total list which I have cut down... and she keeps wanting to add more! Half of them FH and I DONT KNOW!!! and i know she talks $hit about me to her friends so now I have to walk into a room full of people who hear all sorts of $hit about me.. and the only reason she talks $hit is to make herself sound all soo great...
what about talking to your FMIL about it... you mention what FFIL wants but not FMIL, do you think FMIL would help get FFIL to listen??? my FH has been great handling his mom and is good at reminding her it is OUR wedding.. and she is unaware that she is so readable so we see her 'games' from a mile away!
Good luck.. i know it is not easy!!!
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Posted by Naunie
I think you should say- It's a deal- and then let him try to take to you court for his refund. And you can say- oh- I'm sorry, we only offer store credit, and then give him, like- leftover dead centerpieces.
He's got some nerve. Because it's your FH's side, he should be putting his foot down. You are supposed to deal with your side and your FH should be dealing with his side. Don't budge!
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Posted by Naunie
I think you should say- It's a deal- and then let him try to take to you court for his refund. And you can say- oh- I'm sorry, we only offer store credit, and then give him, like- leftover dead centerpieces.
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This is really insane.
You are not crazy, just keep reminding yourself.
You are not crazy, just keep reminding yourself.
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Your FFIL has a pair...
The answer is no. This wedding is not a fundraiser!
The answer is no. This wedding is not a fundraiser!
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OMG, I can't believe that! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! ![]()
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Posted by Blu-ize
Your FFIL has a pair...
The answer is no. This wedding is not a fundraiser!
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I'd like to know how it would be monetarily advantageous to you if you have to give him partial money back??
Ummm.....I'd say ABSOLUTELY NOT and let him argue until he's blue in the face. Do NOT budge.
Ummm.....I'd say ABSOLUTELY NOT and let him argue until he's blue in the face. Do NOT budge.
