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Posted by little j

was this gift to be used for your HM? if so, i would talk to the person that gave you the gift.

if they really want you to enjoy your HM, i would go for it! its a gift!

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yup.. the note said, 'I wanted to give you guys part of your wedding gift now so that you could use it towards your honeymoon since I know you guys were having a problem deciding on a place. Maybe this will help make the decision easier.'

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Posted by regy_k

tough choice but I voted house
sooner or later u will be able to go to Hawaii but saving for a house is much harder

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ita - if you have to pay rent it will be hard to put extra money aside

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Posted by AdriandSteve

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Posted by little j

was this gift to be used for your HM? if so, i would talk to the person that gave you the gift.

if they really want you to enjoy your HM, i would go for it! its a gift!

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yup.. the note said, 'I wanted to give you guys part of your wedding gift now so that you could use it towards your honeymoon since I know you guys were having a problem deciding on a place. Maybe this will help make the decision easier.'

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hmmm yeah defiantely talk to them and see how they would feel if you used the money for something else

I would upgrade the honeymoon & save for the house.
There are so many good places you can go. You can now go to Mexico and stay in a rooftop villa with butler service & a private lounge pool (ALL INCLUSIVE) for nearly two weeks with airfare for under 4K. [Based on deals I found when looking online -expedia & orbitz before booking my honeymoon]. Not sure what your budget is for HI but you can definitely go somewhere amazing & romantic AND still get the house. Go to HI when you can afford it. You'll be wanting the house more (at least I would)...plus you could have both if you tweak your honeymoon.

i say use the money for a house


your honeymoon will not be the first and last trip you take with your fh.

you need a lot of money for a downpayment on a house.
i guess you need to decide if a few greats days are more important or a big help for the house of your dreams/ future

my mom gave me some money the other day. we are pretending we dont have.

this is so hard - I feel like I would want to add some upgrades to the current honeymoon and save the rest for a house but I know my FH would pick the HM

My real hesitation towards putting some of the money towards a house is the we aren't even going to look into buying for for another 2 years!

If we put some of the $ towards a honeymoon we were already considering we would be saving an addition 3k to put towards a house. So it's not THAT THAT big of an amount.

ugh, I know that part of me is trying to convince you girls but part of me also realizes that's 10k is A LOT of $ to spend on a vaca.

im so sorry to crash....

i just have to say..dh and i spent 9k on our hm..2 weeks of perfection

people thought we were nuts for not putting it towards the house

we were in the same boat as you..not looking for bout 2 years so we wanted to splurge on the hm cause we knew once we bought the house and had a mortgage etc we might not be taking a trip for a while

do i regret it..not one iota..our hm was just amazing and im so glad we spent the money and had the most amazing 2 weeks ever

dont get me wrong its great to save for a house..but nothing is like ur honeymoon

good luck with whatever u choose

honeymoon!!!

it's a once in a lifetime thing, plus you'll have money from wedding gifts to jump start your house saving!

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Posted by gina409

im so sorry to crash....

i just have to say..dh and i spent 9k on our hm..2 weeks of perfection

people thought we were nuts for not putting it towards the house

we were in the same boat as you..not looking for bout 2 years so we wanted to splurge on the hm cause we knew once we bought the house and had a mortgage etc we might not be taking a trip for a while

do i regret it..not one iota..our hm was just amazing and im so glad we spent the money and had the most amazing 2 weeks ever

dont get me wrong its great to save for a house..but nothing is like ur honeymoon

good luck with whatever u choose

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I've gotta agree with Gina. We went on a super-long HM. We got a great deal but people were still saying we were wasting money. It was a little different with us because we had closed on our house right before the wedding, but according to people we should have been saving the money for furniture, etc.

We have NO regrets! We are older and knew the HM was going to be our last big trip for a while so why not.

Looking back at it, we would have stayed for longer if we could have gotten the time off from work!

Honestly, with all of the work I have put into this wedding, and the other million things im doing at the same time, (just as we ALL are), one of the main things getting me through is the thought of that HM the day after!!!!!!!!!!!

you dont HAVE to HM in hawaii, i think if i were honeymooning in a cardboard box on a beach in the US id just be happy to have ME, FH, and NOTHINGGGGGGG TO DO or be responsible for....

i feel like its sooooooo important to have some sort of stress relief after something like this...

dont skip the HM, but if you need to save $, just dont go to Hawaii...pick somewhere more affordable and bank the difference!