Ugh drunk fights....

This is super long but I need to vent about myself... lol

Backstory: I've been deployed away from FH for the past year to a place where everyone does a year tour.

Last night we had a goodbye dinner for one of the guys here and this was the first goodbye for an actual friend of mine, so I ended up getting kind of emotional because I drank... a lot. So I called FH late last night because I was feeling bad and I wanted to talk to someone.

He started 'joking' around being like oh well I don't like you hugging and kissing random guys on the cheek, how are you friends with this guy anyway?

So I get angry and defend our friendship and said its ok to kiss friends on the cheek you do that to your girlfriends (he doesn't have a lot of friends especially girlfriends so this argument isn't especially valid but I'm also a really outgoing person and he knows that this is something I do)

So he goes No i don't! I don't have any girlfriends...

2nd backstory: FH has a 'best friend' from college that he never talked about when we started dating and one day she had a party and he was going to go to it, and when I asked who the F this girl was, he was like omg my best friend. Really? BC I never heard about this girl before? So he has seen her ONCE during the whole time we've been together, and I was pissy during the dinner because I didn't trust her (I have no reason not to but I didn't).

She just posted on his FB wall 'We need to get together soon I've been thinking about you!'

And I haven't said anything because i'm like ok its innocent..... UNTIL I get angry at him last night and I flip and i'm like OHHHH yes you do, you have (name)! and she's been 'THINKING' about you....

So so so dumb. He said he was joking aroudn to make me feel better, but really he just made me feel worse, and I was like well I'm sorry I thought to call you because I was feeling bad you obviously don't understand.

I wouldn't have got angry at all if I didn't drink as much as I did, but I did and now I fee bad and I want to talk to him about it but because of the time difference, he wont call me for another like 6 hours. UGH long distance relationships are so hard, I've seen him all of 3 weeks max over the past year, and all we have is a phone call once a day that lately has not been going so well.

The other problem is, is after I flipped I don't remember the rest of the conversation because I was in bed so I'm just hoping that it didn't get worse or I didn't say anything too hurtful.

I'm dumb, end of story, thanks for listening.

Aww I think you guys need to just see eachother.

Don't worry about it to much.

Fights will come and go but your love will last forever

Aww im sorry!

I'm sure he will understand. Everyone has drunk stupid moments!

I would say it was the drinking and let it go at that.

I sent you am FM

AH Sorry you are going through this.

It has to be hard when you are deployed and you don't get to see each other tho. I had two cousins deployed for over a year, and it was a HUGE test on their relationships.....We always said if they can make it through that, they will get married....You can do it.....

I sent him an email because I'm missing our normal call time because of a work event, and I said if I miss you I'll call you right back because I want to talk to you today!

Sometimes on Fridays we miss each other bc of our schedules and the time diff.

I didn't want to go into too much detail because I don't really remember how it was resolved and I don't want to make things worse somehow.

Thanks for the support girls, I just HATE doing this, but I don't know why we fight I'm not a mean drunk to anyone else.

Blah

Ugh, I'm sorry. Deployments are so difficult sounds like you two just need to see each other.

Sorry your going thru this. I used to be the same way when I would get really really drunk. I would get very emotional and then start talking out my a$$ about things that I really shouldn't to FH. But i've learned to control myself and not argue with FH when i'm drunk. B/c i used to say really hurtful things to him that later I would regret.

Alot of the tension I used to release was due to some problems we had at the beginning of our relationship. Which didn't make sense bringing up later on. I can only imagine how hard it is to have a long distance relationship and not be able to see your FH everyday. I would have prob. reacted the same way you did about the FB comment too a few years back. But just know your FH loves you and is marrying you for a reason.

I'm sure you guys will work things out now that you both have slept on it.

awww I'm so sorry long distance sucks! I'm sure your FH knows that it was an alcohol induced fight and woulnt take it to heart or anything. Been there and done that myself, and FH has done it to me also. Usually get over it quickly and laugh about it later.

im sure once you talk to him again it will be all smoothed over



p.s. not to add fuel to the fire but i dont blame you for bringing up his friend, i would to! whenever i notice some random chicky on his fb (even myspace since when we met that was the cool site to use) i would always question who is this.

I'm sorry :( .. but I know EXACTLY what you are going through. FH lives in Toronto right now and the long distance thing never gets any easier! :(

We fight about stupid things like that .. but it's all just because we miss each other so much! His grandmother bought us a plaque that says 'The best proof of love is trust' and we have to remind ourselves of that all the time ...

Sounds like you need

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Posted by ChristineNorah

Ugh, I'm sorry. Deployments are so difficult sounds like you two just need to see each other.

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ITA.... Hang it there

Dont be too hard on yourself! im sure being separated in stressful and im sure he understands you were a tad tipsy!