This is super long but I need to vent about myself... lol
Backstory: I've been deployed away from FH for the past year to a place where everyone does a year tour.
Last night we had a goodbye dinner for one of the guys here and this was the first goodbye for an actual friend of mine, so I ended up getting kind of emotional because I drank... a lot. So I called FH late last night because I was feeling bad and I wanted to talk to someone.
He started 'joking' around being like oh well I don't like you hugging and kissing random guys on the cheek, how are you friends with this guy anyway?
So I get angry and defend our friendship and said its ok to kiss friends on the cheek you do that to your girlfriends (he doesn't have a lot of friends especially girlfriends so this argument isn't especially valid but I'm also a really outgoing person and he knows that this is something I do)
So he goes No i don't! I don't have any girlfriends...
2nd backstory: FH has a 'best friend' from college that he never talked about when we started dating and one day she had a party and he was going to go to it, and when I asked who the F this girl was, he was like omg my best friend. Really? BC I never heard about this girl before? So he has seen her ONCE during the whole time we've been together, and I was pissy during the dinner because I didn't trust her (I have no reason not to but I didn't).
She just posted on his FB wall 'We need to get together soon I've been thinking about you!'
And I haven't said anything because i'm like ok its innocent..... UNTIL I get angry at him last night and I flip and i'm like OHHHH yes you do, you have (name)! and she's been 'THINKING' about you....
So so so dumb. He said he was joking aroudn to make me feel better, but really he just made me feel worse, and I was like well I'm sorry I thought to call you because I was feeling bad you obviously don't understand.
I wouldn't have got angry at all if I didn't drink as much as I did, but I did and now I fee bad and I want to talk to him about it but because of the time difference, he wont call me for another like 6 hours. UGH long distance relationships are so hard, I've seen him all of 3 weeks max over the past year, and all we have is a phone call once a day that lately has not been going so well.
The other problem is, is after I flipped I don't remember the rest of the conversation because I was in bed so I'm just hoping that it didn't get worse or I didn't say anything too hurtful.
I'm dumb, end of story, thanks for listening.
Alannah22
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I'm so sorry!! I'm sure things will get better soon.
midnight26
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ahhhh I know how LDR's can be, I'm sure once you get to talk again things will smooth over...
MrsJPH2012
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Thanks for the support girls!
We just talked... I told him that I called him bc I wanted some support and his reaction made me feel bad etc etc and I overreacted and I shouldn't have and I didn't mean to start a fight.
And he understood that and said but how would you feel if I called you crying because I just said goodbye to some girl you don't know about?
So my answer was, well, that would be F'd up because you're not friends with people like this, I'm an emotional person and I get attached.
We went back and forth for a bit (nicely) and pretty much he felt really threatened and jealous because I was upset about saying goodbye to a guy that he doesn't know, and he has no idea what my life is like here, so he reacted poorly. The fact of me flipping out didn't even come up, it was really all about how I made him feel.
I apologized for making him jealous... not the point of me calling him!! But we're doing ok now, we understand each other, and hopefully I won't do that again!
