UGH!!!!!!!! GROOMSMAN dropped out (sorry long)UPDATE*

DUCKS2001 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 08:16 PM

UGH!!!!!!!! GROOMSMAN dropped out (sorry long)UPDATE*

*****UGH! his gm calls back today and now says he is in it. fh did not pressure him, how anoying is he,. the emotional rollercoster i was on yesterday for no reason,...people really can be annoying. THANKS GIRLS YOU MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!!

i am so mad i dont know where to begin! My finace's freind calls him and leaves a message. he has known him since preschool...

so fiance calls him back and he tells him he cannot be in the wedding he is buying a new home the end of june...

ok whatever

he is going to the wedding!!!!!!!!!!!

BUT he CANNOT BE IN THE WEDDING PARTY what kind of sh*t is that 2 months before the wedding.

I am also getting my period so now i am so upset and emotional.

i now hace 6 girls whom i love and adore and 5 guys ugh!

he is so lucky the programs and stuff where not made up yet.

he then called fh back and said he feels bad and will be in it...

I told fh i DO NOT WANT HIM IN NOW !!! give me a friggin break!

I need a hug girls my mind is going in circles...

i am stressed emotional and i have a bad headache

fh is annoyed and upset as well and he feels terrible to see me so distraut i just cant imagine pulling that on someone 2 months b4

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kara10152006 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 08:26 PM

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That is so frustrating. How can he be so inonsiderate? New house or not, he made a commitment! I understand that now that he has tried to back out you don't want to have him back in the bridal party but make sure you're not cutting off your nose to spite your face (I love that expression!). Is this a friend your fh will remain close with? Can someone else replace him so you can maintain bridal part symmetry? Maybe you should sleep on it and get back to him on Monday or Tuesday. I hope your headache feels better soon! I'm sure this isn't helping!

camerakrazie Posted: Apr 29, 2006 08:34 PM

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omg...what is that all about? if he is still attending the wedding then he might as well be apart of the wedding party? doesnt make sense? All i know is that if you accept the position to be a BM or GM....you should go through with it..its such an honor.....I can understand there are circumstances which might not make people available to be at the wedding...but come on he is still attending the wedding....

dont worry!!!! just remember what a wedding is all about! You are going to marry the love of your love and there are far worse things out there to worry about!!!

mable Posted: Apr 29, 2006 08:35 PM

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October Bliss Posted: Apr 29, 2006 09:21 PM

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That doesn't make any sense at all. If you can't afford to be in the wedding, how can he afford to come to the wedding??

I completely understand why you have a headache!!

gNi1125 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 09:23 PM

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Posted by October Bliss

That doesn't make any sense at all. If you can't afford to be in the wedding, how can he afford to come to the wedding??

I completely understand why you have a headache!!

I agree!

clarity Posted: Apr 29, 2006 09:29 PM

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im not sure I understand why? i dont see why being a GM would interfere with buying a house.
how much of a financial committment is being a GM? doesnt he only have to pay for the rental tux?

DUCKS2001 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 10:45 PM

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YES ONLY THE TUX FOR GOODNESS SAKE~

waterspout4 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 10:48 PM

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People are ridiculous! I understand your anger. We had a GM and 2 BM drop out within weeks of the wedding. It's all good. You're better without him. DOn't let your anger get the better of you. Enjoy your time with the people that want to be there with you.

JohnnysGirl350 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 11:03 PM

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MrsR72806 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 11:51 PM

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Posted by October Bliss

That doesn't make any sense at all. If you can't afford to be in the wedding, how can he afford to come to the wedding??

I completely understand why you have a headache!!

Ditto!!!!

hmpena Posted: Apr 29, 2006 11:56 PM

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Some people... I hope it all works out.

shellnroc Posted: Apr 30, 2006 12:02 AM

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So sorry Sweetie!!

I know how you feel we had a GM drop out. We may have another, Not sure yet!

My bridal party was uneven to begin with, now there are less and less guys. But, I'm not going to stress it. The important people will be involved in our wedding, that's how I see it.

Good Luck!!!
Try to relax!!!!!

shellibean Posted: Apr 30, 2006 12:18 AM

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sami Posted: Apr 30, 2006 01:21 AM

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oh i agree with you these people make it seems like your asking for a down payment on a house my god how much does it cost someone to be in a bridal party 1000.00 -2000.00 i mean come on. if you cant do that .. for a friend that is crazy

clarity Posted: Apr 30, 2006 02:54 AM

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you know, the whole thing sounds wierd, but dont stress about it. let your fiance handle this, because I think the GMs should be his territory. if he wants him back, then let him be a part of the wedding party.

chander618 Posted: Apr 30, 2006 04:06 AM

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sr081906 Posted: Apr 30, 2006 08:10 AM

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Posted by clarity

im not sure I understand why? i dont see why being a GM would interfere with buying a house.
how much of a financial committment is being a GM? doesnt he only have to pay for the rental tux?

Isn't he supposed to pay for part of the bach. party also? If so, I could understand where he is coming from. He could be concerned about the $$ aspect.

Now, telling you 2 months before the wedding is 'not nice' but apparently he is feeling bad about it and even called your FH back that he would be in the BP.

SweetCin704 Posted: Apr 30, 2006 08:30 AM

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I'm sooo sorry you are going through this. I understand the friend might have $ issues, especially w/ buying a house, but he commited to being in your bp months ago. How can you break that commitment 2 months b4? Also they had to know they were buying a house b4 now.....

How was it left?

No matter how it turns out, your day w/b gorgeous. I had 1 of my girls drop out due to being far along pregnant & she can't get on a plane to fly up here, so I was devastated (she's my best friend & baby was a surprise) and will now how an uneven bp too.