Ugh! I am so annoyed with my mom! UPDATED

She just hung up on me! W T F? I am telling her that I really need to get on a hair and makeup person and I need to know what everyone else wants to do. And she goes off about how it is 'very limiting' to get someone to come to the house because they only do one person at a time and that it is more expensive...um how would she even know...she never did any research on it!!!! I am just sooo annoyed because I feel like she wants to do everything the same as my sister's wedding, which was like 6 years ago! Times are changing mom, WAKE UP. I can't believe she hung up on me! What a biotch! Now I am sitting here crying because I feel like I have no one who understands since my sister agrees with my mom and she also told me that she doesn't care how she looks since she is going to be fat from having a baby a few months before.

****Thanks for all the love and support girls, it defnitely made me feel so much better. I am sitting here at work with puffy eyes from crying last night I look hot! Anyways, my mom sent me an email explaining that she wants everything to be perfect but she feels like I am trying to do everything in my power to make my wedding NOTHING like my sister's. Its not that I don't want my wedding to be like my sister's but like I said, her wedding was 6 years ago, and she didn't have LIW and all the fabulous 09ers to help with her planning! Hopefully things will get resolved, but for now I think I am going to hold off on talking to my mom for the weekend. I just don't think we see eye to eye on things.****

Awww! im sorry! I hate when my mom hangs up on me! You should just find someone and if they want to use her they can and if not dont worry about it! they can find their own person!

Sorry to hear this hun, let her cool off a bit and let her sleep on it, she'll come around, maybe you should tell her that your sisters wedding has long been over and that this is YOUR time now.

Im sorry hun....my mom also hated the idea of someone coming to my house, she felt the same as your mom and also that it would be chaotic in my house day of, cause a mess before pics and people coming back after church

Ultimately I went with a salon, all my BM;s and my mom came also and it was great and worked well so this is something you could look into....

But hopefully if you really want someone to come to your house your mom with give in

Ugh I had that same argument with my mom when I booked my makeup person! Finally after we had a big fight about it she gave in.

yea that is annoying. My g-ma hung up on my dad b/c she found out that weddings don't cost 5,000

its 2009 c'mon!

sorry to hear

I'm so sorry you're going through this! Everything will work itself out.

aww im sorry..sometimes i just think its a age thing,,i told my mom i want to make programs and she went for what?u dont need em..u do what u gotta do to make u r day great and everyone no matter who will coome around..hope u feel better

aw im so sorry it could be the age thing but she didnt need to hang up on you and geez i cant believe your sister said that too. thats crazy

Moms can totally do that!!! I'm furious with my mom today!! I also feel sge doesnt understand... Only FH knows how upset I am... I was crying my surgery behind (a@#) at the kitchen island while he stared!!!!

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Posted by AugustBridein09

Sorry to hear this hun, let her cool off a bit and let her sleep on it, she'll come around, maybe you should tell her that your sisters wedding has long been over and that this is YOUR time now.

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I Agree! After she has cooled off it would be a good idea to tell her that your sister had her time, she made her choices for her wedding and you completely respected her decisions. But now it's your time and you would appreciate it they were to do the same for your special day.

Hope you feel better!

I'm sooo sorry that you are going through this!!! Everything def. will work out over time...

I am so sorry you're going through this. My mom has been so rude through this whole thing, I can't even tell you. I'll spare you the details, but she also is very upset about having people in the house. I asked to have a very small rehearsal dinner at home (10 ppl), NO. At FIRST I even asked to have a small wedding in the backyard. No. Then I asked if maybe some people could come for a brunch the next day. I would pay for catering, service, and a housecleaner. NO. We're inviting about 60 out of town couples, and she even said to me 'suzanne, you don't actually think they're going to COME, do you?'

I can't even imagine what compelled her to say something so cruel.

Anyway, a friend gave me an incredible piece of advice. I get all torn up about this, and he said 'What's your problem? Just say 'ok', and do what you want anyway!'

At first, I thought this was ridiculous. Then I tried it out for a day.

It worked. I mean, I didn't get enraged, hurt, or anything. I just said 'okay, mom', and did my thing anyway.

I think this piece of advice may have saved my life. I hope it helps you too.

As for hair and makeup, I looked EVERYWHERE, and found the greatest ladies of all time (I know EVERYONE loves their people, so no disrespect to anyone- I'm sure they're awesome. But these ladies were just right for me). Call Jacqueline Nicole and Nicole D'Angio, and book trials. Get that out of the way. I booked both, and didn't have to tell either if I was having other girls get theirs done as well, because I just don't know yet. And they were awesome about it.

That may be because I'm getting married in March, and not in one of the huge summer months, though.

But either way, take the steps you want to make you happy. Is she paying for it? If so, you may need to respect her wishes. If not, then do your thing, and have them come over. I promise you will love them both, and so will your mom.

don't let them get to you.

(ps- as for your sister, she can talk as big as she wants, but on the day of, she will be mortified if she looks like crap. Just let her gripe, if that's the type of person she wants to be for her sister on her wedding day.) I'm sorry for the way she's treating you as well. Sounds douchey to me.

Best of luck with EVERYTHING, and take steps to make sure you are happy.

Your wedding DOESN'T HAVE TO BE LIKE YOUR SISTER'S WEDDING--did your mom just not get that memo? It's YOUR wedding--not your mother's wedding, and she needs to realize this!!!

I'm doing everything to make my wedding not like my sister's, either. . .

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Posted by mlcvln129

Your wedding DOESN'T HAVE TO BE LIKE YOUR SISTER'S WEDDING--did your mom just not get that memo? It's YOUR wedding--not your mother's wedding, and she needs to realize this!!!

I'm doing everything to make my wedding not like my sister's, either. . .

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She takes it as an insult or something because she thinks if I don't do it like hers, I somehow think my sister's wedding wasn't good enough.