UGH! Long lost friend asking to be invited to wedding!!!!!
DNicholes
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UGH! Long lost friend asking to be invited to wedding!!!!!
Awhile back I had posted about a girl from college that i was close with but then lost touch with but when I got engaged she reappeared out of nowhere asking to be invited to my wedding.....(mind you, I had tried to keep in touch, she graduated a year before me so that made it more difficult too cause I was still in college and she was not) WELL she stopped for the past few months but this weekend she texted me like 4 times on Friday night...called like 2 on Sat. b/c she was is NY....I tried calling her back once but got nothing..oh well ok....thens he called on Monday and left a message, I didn't call her back.....SO i just signed onto my myspace page & she just left me a message telling me AGAIN IN PUBLIC to be invited to the wedding....I approved the comment just so you girls on myspace can see this,just so you don't think I'm crazy.....unbelievable...it's insane & never in my life would I ever do this!!!
I mean, I was good friends with her...but that was in 2002!!!!!!! She hasn't even ever met FH nor does she know a single thing that is going on in my life!!
Vent over....but now I'm like...should I invite her...or no? it's really annoying
Dee606
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If it were me, I would think about if I wanted to rebuild the friendship. Was she a good & reliable friend in the past? Is the only reason the friendship ended because life took you in two in different directions? If you couldn't care less then I'd say to try to completely avoid her calls & texts.
carolinebr
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Bizarre... why does she want to be invited so badly? Do you have a bunch of collge friends going?
Maybe she wants to rekindle the friendship for innocent reasons? Maybe she's low on friends or maybe she's getting married soon & needs people to fill her wedding party? I'm just thinking outloud. If you can afford it, I guess I'd just invite her. You never know - you may get an old friend back.
gonzo23456
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People amaze me. I had a similar experience happen. I had people that I was friends with in MS that saw me at a bar and said, 'I better be invited to your wedding.' Mind you they know nothing about my FH and I. I have seen these girls over the years becasue one of my bridesmaids still is friends with them. I think it is hysterical when people ask. To be honest, if she is important to you then you can try to rekindle it. However, I feel she has an alterior motive and I doubt that you would speak to her after your wedding. Remember at your wedding you should be surrounded by your loved ones. Is she really one?
DNicholes
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There was nothing that happened between us...she fell off the face of the earth & to me friendship is a two way street if your not there for me in return as I was there for them, then it's not a friendship. She started dating this guy, who was just horrible, she got pregnant and had a beautiful little boy, but when I tried to check in on her once in awhile, I got nothing, I even sent a gift when he was born and not even a thank you....then suddenly she hears through the grapevine, I'm engaged and suddenly reappears...it's hurtful and I would maybe consider it but the fact that she keeps asking is obnoxious and just down right AWKWARD!!!
DNicholes
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I just don't know what to do......
Dee606
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hmm... hard decision to make.
TLC1018
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If I were you, I would not invite her. It sounds as if you're having major reservations about it, and I would go with your gut. She may be one of those people that come to the wedding and then it's years before you hear from her again...It's up to you though...Does she know other people from college that are invited? Maybe she wants to go for the social aspect, but in that case, go to a reunion!
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If your guest list is tight, I wouldn't bother. It depends on how many people you want there. I'm trying to limit my guest list, so this person for me would def. be a no.
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I wouldn't invite her. Ask her what your some questions about your FH and what has been going on in your life and see if she can answer. If she can't-I wouldn't invite her.
cmrcmr0430
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I wonder...There must be someone or something at your wedding that she is very interested in. She is being waayy too pushy. Don't do it!
eab620
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I would take a pass. Invite only those who you see in your future and have been in your recent past as well. I am going through the same thing...old college pals, girls from 5-6 years ago...we just don't keep in touch but I don't want to hurt their feelings...people come and go...and you are not expected to invite everyone you have ever known - its not a party perse, it is a celebration of you and your FH's love and committment with close family and friends. Frankly, her bold behavior is odd and out of left field to me.
DNicholes
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It is odd, very odd! haha
There are friends from college going but only like 4 that she hung with.....including me!
It's just so awkward....I just wouldn't put someone in a position like that, it's like being backed into a corner!
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That's a tough one. Like someone said above, I think if your guest list can afford it, then what is one more person.... but if you can't afford to add her + a guest...then i wouldn't do it. If you don't invite her and then see her in the future, that could be weird too. But if you don't think you'll be contacting her or seeing her anytime soon, then just forget it. You can't invite everyone. Sorry if i confused you.................overall... if it was me... I'd probably NOT invite her, unless we suddenly started talking more in the next few months.
SoulMates422
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Do you have a B list ? Maybe you can have her as an alternate on your guest list? If it came down to her or someone else on your list then its up to you to make that decision.
Future Mrs.
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Do you want to re-kindle a friendship with her? If the answer is yes, than invite her. Will she be around in 20 years? If you're indifferent, or you just don't feel that close to her, than don't . You can simply tell her that you kept your wedding very small (30 people) even if thats a lie and be done with it. One word of advice.....not inviting someone to your wedding sends the message that you just don't really want to be that close to them.....just a thought that may help you make the decision one way or the other.
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People are something when it comes to weddings. Someone already said this, but if she is someone that you would like to re-kindle a friendship with maybe consider inviting her....if not then no.
PegaLega
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She even knows she is 'that girl'
I love it
DNicholes
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Posted by PegaLega
She even knows she is 'that girl'
I love it
I know!!! lol
billandme
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Posted by PegaLega
People are something when it comes to weddings. Someone already said this, but if she is someone that you would like to re-kindle a friendship with maybe consider inviting her....if not then no.
