So I'm finally so psyched to go dress shopping and i e-mail her asking if she can go with me next weekend and she replies 'I'll have to see' So i immediately call her and she says 'yea i'll have to see might have something to do next weekend'.
So i know i'm being overly dramatic and probably taking it too serious. But she's the mother of the bride; where is the excitement to go dress shopping with me. And i told her that it just came off very mean and like she didn't care and she said i'm too sensitive. I told her it just came off like she didn't care and didn't really want to go. Again she said i was being too sensitive and changed to topic to ask how my day was going so far and then that she had to go (she's at work).
Am i being too sensitive?
Now i'm so emotional and literally sitting here at work about to cry. And I want to call her back and let her know how upset it really made me; but don't know if i'm over reacting?
ETA: also-My mom doesn't go anywhere-her weekends consist of visitng my grandmother (her Mom) and going food shopping with my dad and maybe an occasional doctors appointment. So it's not like she has these big plans to go to a function or something b/c she never does. So what is there to see?
DCgirl82
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Aww Im so sorry Maybe she was busy at work and wasnt really thinking? ITA with you though. I would be upset too. Does she already have something planned for that weekend that she is committed to? If she doesnt then I dont see why she wouldnt be excited to go dress shopping with you! Its such a special and amazing moment!
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so very sorry you have to deal with this. I don't think that you're being too sensitive at all. Hopefully once you get to go, she'll be a little more excited.
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aww im sorry. My Mom is the same way!
I think she doesn't know how to deal with her feelings.
I'm sure she wants to go with you.
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Aww Im so sorry Maybe she was busy at work and wasnt really thinking? ITA with you though. I would be upset too. Does she already have something planned for that weekend that she is committed to? If she doesnt then I dont see why she wouldnt be excited to go dress shopping with you! Its such a special and amazing moment!
i'm sorry she upset you.. i'd be upset too.
that's what i was thinking.. maybe she was in the middle of something at work and her mind was elsewhere?
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I dont think you are being to sensitive
ready2wed
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I understand exactly what you are saying. I'm trying to include my mom in EVERYTHING but she is acting like she's not interested at all. That's why I only have my RH booked and nothing else. When I ask her when is she available for appointments she just says I don't know. Now, I'm like whatever if you don't want to come. I will just tell her how things went aftterwards. It is a very hard thing to deal with because you expect her to be excited but if she's not oh well, life goes on. Don't let her rain ruin your sunshine. Let her know how you feel and plan your dress fitting with someone who is excited too!!!
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I hear ya- it tough. my mom doesn't get excited over my wedding at all. she thinks i'm crazy to spend money on it- that i should just get married by a judge and be done with it
when i showed her my dres, she looked at it and said 'why did you pick that color?' with this look in her face of disgust (i picked ivory- she likes white)
I was SOOOOOOOOO upset - i immediately zipped the dress back up and said I had to go home ( i cried in the car a little)
**sigh** They just dont always get what it means for us for them to be excited for us.
Im just resigned to that fact that my mom doesn't 'get it'
I'm just happy she will help me where she can- but i can't expect her to get excited, she just doesn't 'do' excited....
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND
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i think i would be upset too and i don't think your being to sensitive. i wonder if she really does have something she has to do. did she tell you what she needed to do? maybe you guys can go voer or before her appointment?
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So i e-mailed her and told her that it made me a little sad; and she said that she is excited and said she has a dr. appt that morning; but she's free in the afternoon.
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tac30
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Im so sorry your mother is saying those things. I would've been upset too. Actually, my mother has said things to me about my dress and my weight that was really hurtful. I kinda know how you feel.
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i dont think you're being to sensitive at all - my family is the same exact way. When I went to try on dresses, I could barely get a reaction out of my mom!!! my FMIL came with me the second time and she was so excited, giving me hugs and stuff. but you'll never know how she'll be when you take her. i bet you she's going to be so happy to see you in the dress!!
LaBellaVita622
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aww I'm sos orry maybe if you explain to her how hurt you were by that she will understand?
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Glad you worked it out! My mom calls crying everyday that she can't make it!!! She's in AK!
Lana and Johan
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I am glad you worked it out. Having ur mom there is very important. This is the moment you have been waiting for and u need ur mom there. I totally agree how u felt.
Maybe she was just busy at work and didn't think about how u were feeling and acted quickly.
