So my mom and FMIL are throwing me a shower in Massachusetts, as sort of a compromise since the wedding is in NY. So the NY people are RSVPing to my FMIL and the MA people to my mom. Well, I called home today and the first thing she said in a mad voice was 'For someone who absolutely had to have a shower, you don't care one iota, do you? I haven't heard from you at all about who is coming to your shower.' Well I thought that wasn't MY job. No one is RSVPing to me, so how should I know. My FMIL is keeping everything on her end a secret from me, which I wanted. I just think it ***** that I call home and get yelled at. Everything to my mom is a burden, even my shower. I would have been hurt if no one threw me one, but I certainly didn't demand one. But I know to her this is just another burden. Which makes me less excited for it.
sr081906
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Don't worry! Some people (yes, even some family members) will try to drag you down.
Enjoy everything and try not to let it bother you!
BKtoLI
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Oh Beth, as someone who understands all too well about shower issues, I can relate. You are not supposed to know who is coming at all!!! So for your mother to say that is wrong!!
I hope things get better, and if you need an ear, I'm here!!!
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So my mom and FMIL are throwing me a shower in Massachusetts, as sort of a compromise since the wedding is in NY. So the NY people are RSVPing to my FMIL and the MA people to my mom. Well, I called home today and the first thing she said in a mad voice was 'For someone who absolutely had to have a shower, you don't care one iota, do you? I haven't heard from you at all about who is coming to your shower.' Well I thought that wasn't MY job. No one is RSVPing to me, so how should I know. My FMIL is keeping everything on her end a secret from me, which I wanted. I just think it ***** that I call home and get yelled at. Everything to my mom is a burden, even my shower. I would have been hurt if no one threw me one, but I certainly didn't demand one. But I know to her this is just another burden. Which makes me less excited for it.
I can totally relate....my mom runied my shower for me by complaining that my MOH wasn't letting her 'do' anything. so of course I asked my MOH, and her story is totally different...she says my mom was supposd to get back to her on a few things and never did. There has been so much problems with my mom, but I refuse to let her ruin it....that's the best advice I can give. It's YOUR day and no one can ruin it. HTH!!!
