UNBELIEVABLY UPSET w MY RH!!! PLEASE read and help me!!
Original post by JeanetteandSteve
this is REALLY long but please PLEASE read and help me figure out what to do!! i'm beyond upset...
over a year ago we looked at 6 RHs and finally decided on beach club estate...it was small, quaint, and the part that really sold us is (please don't laugh) the fact that it had a hidden 4-lane bowling alley that you could rent out for an extra hour after your reception.
this morning, a new 08 bride posted that she just booked at the beach club...and she made a comment that they are completely renovating the whole place.
i was SHOCKED!! i had heard nothing about any of this. so i called them and it's true...they are changing the entire layout of the grounds, re-doing the rooms, and they are GETTING RID OF THE BOWLING ALLEY. it states in my contract that the bowling after the reception is an option. that was the selling point for us.
ok so some of you might think the bowling thing is cheesy, but i want you to think of something special between you and FH that you've shared during your relationship. maybe you both love theme parks, maybe you watched your favorite movie on your first date, maybe you both love a certain sport...now imagine you found a hall that somehow incorporated that special thing into your wedding and you booked your hall over others b/c of that thing, and were looking forward to it for the past year. that's what the bowling was for us. we were both on our high school bowling teams (please, hold back your laughter), he used to come watch my matches after school the first year we were dating, over the past 9 years we've been on several couple league bowling teams...we were so excited about bowling after the wedding in our dress and tux. i thought it would be SO awesome for pictures too.
not to mention, i also booked this place b/c i loved the layout of the grounds and the way everything looked. i was told today that the grounds will be completely different, and that the place won't be finished until the first week of may...ONLY A FEW WEEKS BEFORE MY WEDDING!! so i can't even see what it's actually going to look like until then!! what if we HATE it?! they said we can come in and look at their plans...but a few drawings isn't going to give me the feel of what it's actually going to look like.
i'm sure a few of you are thinking that i should be happy, b/c the place will be all new and it will probably be really pretty...but it's not what we booked. we booked it b/c it was old fashioned and DIFFERENT. now i don't KNOW what it will be like.
AND THEY DIDN'T EVEN TELL US!!!!!!! i found out from someone on here...and when i called they said they have already started renovating. so obviously they have been planning it for a while before now!! were they going to wait until i showed up on my wedding day and FREAKED OUT that it wasn't the same place?!?!?! i am SOOOOOO upset about that!! how could they not inform me earlier, when i have booked my wedding there almost 2 years in advance, and am expecting it to be the way it was?!?!??!?!?!
i have been envisioning my wedding for 2 years at this place. now i don't know what to picture.
what would you do? would you just suck it up and have your wedding there, not knowing what it will look like? or would you see if you could get out of the contract and try to find another hall at short notice?
please, i have been crying about this on and off all day...this is such a big deal to me, i need advice!!!
angl2001
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i would maybe look into the other place you liked again....tell this other RH to shove it!! that is so wrong!! if my RH did that id be pissed!!!! if u need to talk FM me!
JeanetteandSteve
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Posted by angl2001
i would maybe look into the other place you liked again....tell this other RH to shove it!! that is so wrong!! if my RH did that id be pissed!!!! if u need to talk FM me!
thanks heather!!!
GinaBambina08
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As far as i'm concerned, that is a breach of contract, and they shouldn't hold you to that contract...if you want, i'm sure you'd be able to get out of that...i'm sorry about tyour disappointment though, I'd hate having my hopes up about something only to have it change at the last minute
BTW, I missed you since I came back from being away for a couple of months, it doesn't seem like you've been on as much! (it's ginabambina by the way)
JeanetteandSteve
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Posted by WinterBride08
As far as i'm concerned, that is a breach of contract, and they shouldn't hold you to that contract...if you want, i'm sure you'd be able to get out of that...i'm sorry about tyour disappointment though, I'd hate having my hopes up about something only to have it change at the last minute
BTW, I missed you since I came back from being away for a couple of months, it doesn't seem like you've been on as much! (it's ginabambina by the way)
gina!!!!
yeah i took a break from LIW for a little while...but i've been back on more often lately. i missed you too!! you're one of my fav girls on here!!
thanks for the advice...i'm going to call on monday and set up an appt to meet w my BM...hopefully he'll be able to show me pics and i'll really like it and be a bit happier...we'll see...
GinaBambina08
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Posted by JeanetteandSteve
Posted by WinterBride08
As far as i'm concerned, that is a breach of contract, and they shouldn't hold you to that contract...if you want, i'm sure you'd be able to get out of that...i'm sorry about tyour disappointment though, I'd hate having my hopes up about something only to have it change at the last minute
BTW, I missed you since I came back from being away for a couple of months, it doesn't seem like you've been on as much! (it's ginabambina by the way)
gina!!!!
yeah i took a break from LIW for a little while...but i've been back on more often lately. i missed you too!! you're one of my fav girls on here!!
thanks for the advice...i'm going to call on monday and set up an appt to meet w my BM...hopefully he'll be able to show me pics and i'll really like it and be a bit happier...we'll see...
Okay, keep us posted!
1nicetouch
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If its in the contract that you have a bowling option and they get rid of the bowling ally you can pretty much do what ever you want. You can get your money back or receive an upgrade or sue and get your money plus a little extra for your troubles. Just call your RH and let them have it and tell them how you feel. When I worked at the Marriott in Uniondale I remember a bride who booked the ballroom and the group we had In their would not move their things so we could set-up. So they had to put her wedding in another room that was way to small. She got a 50% discount. All the managers where so pissed but they had to because of the contract.I think if she fought it in court her wedding could have been free. Let us know what happens
JeanetteandSteve
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Posted by 1nicetouch
If its in the contract that you have a bowling option and they get rid of the bowling ally you can pretty much do what ever you want. You can get your money back or receive an upgrade or sue and get your money plus a little extra for your troubles. Just call your RH and let them have it and tell them how you feel. When I worked at the Marriott in Uniondale I remember a bride who booked the ballroom and the group we had In their would not move their things so we could set-up. So they had to put her wedding in another room that was way to small. She got a 50% discount. All the managers where so pissed but they had to because of the contract.I think if she fought it in court her wedding could have been free. Let us know what happens
that's crazy!! well thanks for the info...i can't imagine suing over this, i just hope it all gets worked out, and that they have pics to show me and maybe for the lack of the bowling after party they can compensate me w something else.
but if i hate their plans, we'll see what happens...i'll def let you guys know what happens.
wo0shply
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would you be able to move your date up so you can enjoy the bowling alley before they get rid of it?
I think the idea of going to another bowling alley after the wedding is a great idea!
I hope everything works out and i love the bowling idea its wonderful and not cheezy
Autumn08
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I hate to say it but unless you booked the bowling alley already I'm really not seeing how it is a breach of contract. It was an option at the time yes, but if you didn't book it then they are not backing out of any promises. Besides, you would get a refund of the bowling rental fees. As for cancelling and switching halls you have to check your contract for cancellation policies. You could always see what other extras they would compensate you for not having the bowling option. If you booked the bowling already I could see you getting compensation.
I know it's upsetting and I'm sorry you are going through this.
Mrs. V 2008
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omg thats awful..im sorry you have to go through this..but think of it this way..you never know..you may love the new layout even more..is there a way they can show you pics of the finished product?? that would make your choice much easier..and so sorry about the bowling alley..this is unfair..you should see what you can do to get reinbursed best of luck
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Jeanette!
Aww, I just read this. That stinks!
I agree with a lot of what the other girls said about fate and things happening for a reason.
How much time do you have between the ceremony and reception? Could you and FH and your photog run over to a local bowling alley? That might be tough - but its worth a shot!
JeanetteandSteve
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thanks again for everyone's responses to this post. i feel a little better...i'm going to go there and see what they have to say, and give them a chance to show me what they have planned, and see how i feel about it. hopefully they are willing to work with us and offer us something, since i'm so upset about the bowling thing.
i love your ideas for how to incorporate bowling...you girls are awesome, you reminded me why i love this site so much!