oh my god, I though my FMIL was bad. That's so rude. Sounds like she's jealous big time!!!!
I swear, FMIL and FSIL want to make me feel bad and sabatoge my wedding ANY chance they get! I don't get it, I thought weddings were a happy occasion?
Posted by ElegantBride
why?!!!!!!!!!! wouldn't she want them to to write you million dollar checks if they could![]()
Posted by Noiva06
That is just wrong!! Honestly, FH should also have a talk with her, it may hit closer to home for her if he says something to her also. You both should tell her that her comments are really hurting you and why wouldn't she want you guys to make the most possible $$ from the wedding... Don't go off on her, because that won't help the situation. Have a serious and very honest conversation with her.
Does your father know she is making these comments? I think he would also give her a piece of his mind if he found out....
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How rude! I definitely think it's a good idea that you wait to talk to her until you are calm. Then just be as diplomatic as you can when you tell her your feelins. I agree that you don't have to stoop to her level. Is FH going to say anything to her??
Posted by esb980
I just called FH fuming! He told me to call her, but I have to calm down before I do, or else I might say something I regret!![]()
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Posted by esb980
FH won't talk to her. He is biggest momma's boy ever, and I'm sure he'll find some way to point out to me how I'm wrong and she is right. That is our biggest problem. When we were trying on dresses she says to me 'that one is great, you can't tell how fat you are, and don't worry no one will be looking at your arms!' he told me I mis -understood, that I'm always twisting what she says..... thats his biggest downfall.....
Posted by esb980
FH won't talk to her. He is biggest momma's boy ever, and I'm sure he'll find some way to point out to me how I'm wrong and she is right. That is our biggest problem. When we were trying on dresses she says to me 'that one is great, you can't tell how fat you are, and don't worry no one will be looking at your arms!' he told me I mis -understood, that I'm always twisting what she says..... thats his biggest downfall.....
Ok, while I agree that your FMIL is way out of line I don't think this is your battle to fight. Your FI should be saying something to HIS mom, not you. If your mom was saying something about your FI or his family wouldn't you handle it? I know I would. By you approaching his mom it makes you look like a greedy bridezilla. The way she sounds I would suspect if you said anything to her she would turn it around and tell people something completely different and make you look bad.
Posted by esb980
Ok, while I agree that your FMIL is way out of line I don't think this is your battle to fight. Your FI should be saying something to HIS mom, not you. If your mom was saying something about your FI or his family wouldn't you handle it? I know I would. By you approaching his mom it makes you look like a greedy bridezilla. The way she sounds I would suspect if you said anything to her she would turn it around and tell people something completely different and make you look bad.
I was just thinking of saying in my nicest tone, 'FMIL, could you please not tell anyone my father is paying for the wedding? FH and I just don't want people to not give as much as they would have because of that. We are really counting on that money for our house, and we would like to make as big as a down payment as possible. My cousin told me that you had told some people to only give us $20.00, I know you have there best intrest at heart, we understand some people don't have a lot of money, and thats fine, we'd rather them be there then feel like they can't come because they are broke. But please stop telling people that'
Is that okay?
I'll talk to FH when he gets home tonight, but i bet you he's making up all differnt reason to tell me why this is okay. Well I must clean my house and it my disgusting garden burger. Thanks for your help ladies, if you want I'll give you update tomorrow!
I would be super pissed
Posted by Jennie0898
Posted by esb980
I just called FH fuming! He told me to call her, but I have to calm down before I do, or else I might say something I regret!![]()
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Ok, while I agree that your FMIL is way out of line I don't think this is your battle to fight. Your FI should be saying something to HIS mom, not you. If your mom was saying something about your FI or his family wouldn't you handle it? I know I would. By you approaching his mom it makes you look like a greedy bridezilla. The way she sounds I would suspect if you said anything to her she would turn it around and tell people something completely different and make you look bad.
