Re: ok going to do it... going to ask a bm to step down ...HELPPPP
Posted by SoontobeMrs.Brown
I had the same problem.. And now not only are THREE of my BM's not in the wedding, but two of them I will NEVER talk to again and they arent invited to the wedding. I FEEL YOUR PAIN!
I would say:
Hi, I just got a call from my dress place. They said they are just waiting on just one more person to have the measurements done. I know that being in a bridal party is a big responsiblity and we are all really busy .. its just really unfair to the other girls who hustled for me and did what I asked. I totally understand that my wedding isnt the focus of everybody else's life and I dont want to hamstring you with all the responsibilties that come with being in a bridal party. Maybe it would be easier if you just came as a guest? I promise there would be no hard feelings at all! Its just a lot to ask of someone and I know that we are all doing other things. We will still all have an awesome time though!! Promise :)
*** This has subtle undertones of telling her look clearly you were too busy and selfish to do one thing for me sooo **** it! ... just without saying that directly! HTH!! Good luck hun!
That's the perfect way to word it. Start memorizing it for this weekend, lol.
Good luck!
joctorre
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Re: ok going to do it... going to ask a bm to step down ...HELPPPP
Good luck. I'd be nervous too. I was nervous ASKING some to be in my bp!!!
for you!!!
CristinanBen2010
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Good luck!!!!! You have to do what makes you and fh happy though. It your day
Windy
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Posted by kerber981
I would ask her if she wants to be part of the BP. Give her a chance to get out before kicking her out. Let her know that you did it spur of the moment and didn't consider that it might be hard for her to participate. If she says she doesn't want to back out then tell her - great so you'll be able to participate in xyz??? Gives her another chance to say no.
I agree.
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Posted by kerber981
I would ask her if she wants to be part of the BP. Give her a chance to get out before kicking her out. Let her know that you did it spur of the moment and didn't consider that it might be hard for her to participate. If she says she doesn't want to back out then tell her - great so you'll be able to participate in xyz??? Gives her another chance to say no.
i agree with this thats what I would do
SoontobeGallagher
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I totally know you feel. I kicked a BM out a few weeks ago. She was such a pain in the a$$. She didn't respond to me or my other BM's. She told me that my bach party was too much money for her to 'fork over money for.' I just told her that when we were like 20 we were the same person but we grew up and grew apart. Mine got ugly though. She went crazy and took it like I was breaking up with her. Now we are no longer friends at all.
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If you don't have the same relationship with her now that you did then, ask her to step down (via phone, e-mail, text, whatever) and just explain that you don't have the same relationship. The way she's been acting (and planning to not participate), she probably won't mind and has been feeling the same way but didn't have the cojones to say anything to you. Sorry you have to deal with us
As for the college buddy, if it's gonna be something where you're hanging out now but a year from now who knows..I wouldn't ask them. But that's jmo. Good luck girlie!
latinaj
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Posted by latinaj
email to bm sent....
waiting to hear back from her....
honestly i feel like this might be relieving to her.... if she wanted to be part of the bp she would have responded to my bms, moh, and gotten her dress...no?
well. its sent now we wait to hear back from her....
im dyin to kno what she's gonna say or how she's gonna react. i think of 5000 different scenarios just thinking of it. hopefullys she'll be relieved like u said.
latinaj
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MzDaniBaby
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Awww.. this totally *****. I feel your pain. i have two MOHs and kind of almost wish i just had one b/c only one is stepping up to the plate. But at the time I could not choose between my closest cousin and my BFF. For now I just lowered my expectations. But I wish you luck on that one I know it has to be hard.. BTW I would also totally punk out and do through email. I am not good with that kind of stuff.
Iluvpoodles
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I give you alot for having the balls to do this. Don't even get me startedon BM's like this..
latinaj
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*update...so spoke w/bm... she apologized and pretty much told me she has a $hitty memory and that it is 100% her fault. she is busy w/work, kids but still wants to be part of it all.
i'm going to trust her... give her 1 more chance..
oh and i guess i should delete this thread in case lol ...
