Update on my therapy. (Very Long)

I am not sure if any of you remember some time ago that I stated I was depressed and miserable and going to therapy.

Well, Monday will be my last session. I am doing 1000% better. And so quickly too, my therapist was great. Basicly, my problem was that deep down inside I was still wishing that my childhood had been different, that my life had turned out different and, more importantly, my mother had been different. I was still hoping that my mother would love me the way a mother is supposed to. But through therapy I learned that I had to let all those thoughts go. My life is great and to continue pondering what it would have been like had I had a different mother was a waste of time. I learned to accept my life amd my family for what it is. I also learned that I have a great life now, that looking at the past is not good for the present or the future.

One more thing I learned is that I am not right all the time and I am not supposed to be. (Damn...LOL!) I have to accept people for who they are and not try to change them into what I think they should be. (Wow, I learned a lot in just a couple of months.)

So I can now sit here in my living room, take a look around, and honestly say that I am very happy with my life. I have a great man, a good job, and a safe home (obviously, this was very important to my psyche) where there are no fears, no lies, just trust and love.

Um, so that's that I guess. I feel so much better about everything these days. And I am so happy to have a place I can go to and complain or ask for help and prayers. You ladies are great! Thanks for listening.

That sounds like alot of progress already Best of everything to you!

Cuban, I am so happy to hear you are doing better.

cuban bride,

if you get the time, can you fm me and tell me what its like going to a therapist cause im considering it to deal with my own mother issues but cannot find any info on what an appointment is like

thanks

I am so happy you are feeling better

its great to hear you're doing better

I think therapy can be a very helpful tool... Its a good way to find out about yourself and really figure out why you behave in certain ways.

Good for you! Congratulations!

That is so wonderful!! I love therapy - it has set so much of my life and childhood in perspective as well.

How did the letter to your mom go?

I was just thinking of you the other day...glad to hear that therapy has worked well for you!!! I had the same issues with some neglect also (um, is a 12 year old supposed to iron her dads' work shirts and make dinner for a family of 4...NO? Funny...I did) as well as major issues after the divorce and my dads' remarriage.

Did you ever tell your FH? Has he been supportive? Continue the positivity!!

I'm sooo happy for you!! Glad you are doing better!

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

That is so wonderful!! I love therapy - it has set so much of my life and childhood in perspective as well.

How did the letter to your mom go?

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Thanks ladies.

BM, I decided to wait until after the wedding to send the letter. I don't need any added stress right now. And I know my grandmother would get on my case about it and I don't want to deal with that right now.

Oh, and I never told FH. MY therapist and some friends stold me not to. It wasn't about him and I just wanted to keep it to myself. I am glad I did.

so happy to hear that therapy went well and that you are feeling great!

Therapy and counselling in general is something everyone can benefit from and I'm SO happy that you found this out first hand!!!! You seem much more at peace with life in general than the first few months I saw you on the boards, and that's just what's coming across in a chat room - I can't imagine the difference in person!!! Congrats on taking back your life and thoughts, I think you'll find this experience useful for many many years to come!!!