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Update on my therapy. (Very Long)
Original post by CubanBride
I am not sure if any of you remember some time ago that I stated I was depressed and miserable and going to therapy.
Well, Monday will be my last session. I am doing 1000% better. And so quickly too, my therapist was great. Basicly, my problem was that deep down inside I was still wishing that my childhood had been different, that my life had turned out different and, more importantly, my mother had been different. I was still hoping that my mother would love me the way a mother is supposed to. But through therapy I learned that I had to let all those thoughts go. My life is great and to continue pondering what it would have been like had I had a different mother was a waste of time. I learned to accept my life amd my family for what it is. I also learned that I have a great life now, that looking at the past is not good for the present or the future.
One more thing I learned is that I am not right all the time and I am not supposed to be. (Damn...LOL!) I have to accept people for who they are and not try to change them into what I think they should be. (Wow, I learned a lot in just a couple of months.)
So I can now sit here in my living room, take a look around, and honestly say that I am very happy with my life. I have a great man, a good job, and a safe home (obviously, this was very important to my psyche) where there are no fears, no lies, just trust and love.
Um, so that's that I guess. I feel so much better about everything these days.![]()
And I am so happy to have a place I can go to and complain or ask for help and prayers. You ladies are great! Thanks for listening.
Well, Monday will be my last session. I am doing 1000% better. And so quickly too, my therapist was great. Basicly, my problem was that deep down inside I was still wishing that my childhood had been different, that my life had turned out different and, more importantly, my mother had been different. I was still hoping that my mother would love me the way a mother is supposed to. But through therapy I learned that I had to let all those thoughts go. My life is great and to continue pondering what it would have been like had I had a different mother was a waste of time. I learned to accept my life amd my family for what it is. I also learned that I have a great life now, that looking at the past is not good for the present or the future.
One more thing I learned is that I am not right all the time and I am not supposed to be. (Damn...LOL!) I have to accept people for who they are and not try to change them into what I think they should be. (Wow, I learned a lot in just a couple of months.)
So I can now sit here in my living room, take a look around, and honestly say that I am very happy with my life. I have a great man, a good job, and a safe home (obviously, this was very important to my psyche) where there are no fears, no lies, just trust and love.
Um, so that's that I guess. I feel so much better about everything these days.
