UPDATE: So wish me luck...I'm talking to my BM tonight

Original post by glinda_goodwitch

May 25, 2006 03:03 PM

I know this has been controversial, but I need to talk to my BM and AT LEAST bring it to her attention that she needs to get help. She is not eating, sleeping 12+ hours a day, and is just sickly thin (I can see her spine). I'm going tonight, and I'm hoping to let her know that I think being in the BP may be too much for her given her health. Hopefully she'll want to come as a guest. I think I need to be gentle but definitely firm so that she knows that this needs serious attention. I hope she gets the help she needs. Even if she never speaks to me again, if this makes her get help, then it was worth it. I'm so dreading this

UPDATE:

I went to talk to my BM, and apparently she has been going to the doctor every 2 weeks and is now on anti-depressants. It takes a few weeks for them to kick in and start to work. The last time I saw her she got sooo sick from drinking at my bachelorette party. But she looked a lot better today and is sleeping normal hours and eating meals again. I'm going to keep an eye on her of course, but she is doing much better.

LuckySevens Posted: May 25, 2006 03:31 PM

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Good Luck. That is such a hard thing to do, but you are a good friend. I agree, if it were my friend, I would rather take the chance of her being upset with me than not doing anything. You are a great friend, and if not now, someday she will realize the same. You are very brave.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: May 25, 2006 03:37 PM

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Posted by LuckySevens

Good Luck. That is such a hard thing to do, but you are a good friend. I agree, if it were my friend, I would rather take the chance of her being upset with me than not doing anything. You are a great friend, and if not now, someday she will realize the same. You are very brave.

I am just VERY glad my FH will be by my side there, becasue I do not think I could do it alone.

jellybean1420 Posted: May 25, 2006 03:38 PM

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I think it is a good idea to speak to her, especially given her health is so poor. However, I would definetely expect for her to get defensive and upset. She isn't going to want to hear that she has a problem. But if you feel strongly about this, it is definetely something you should bring to her attention.

cindyandkevin Posted: May 25, 2006 03:52 PM

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Good luck Beth, I really hope it goes well!!

Please keep us updated!!

lipglossjunky73 Posted: May 25, 2006 03:56 PM

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Good luck!!!

americananddutch Posted: May 25, 2006 03:57 PM

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Good Luck Dear! I wish I had so insperational words to help you get through to her but all I have is that she is lucky to have a friend care enough about her to notice the problem and try to do something about it. There are many people out there that wouldn't even take the time out to care...You are truely a dear friend and she may not see it at the moment but she will see it soon enough. Good Luck and I hope that she gets the help that she needs....

kmkelly Posted: May 25, 2006 04:00 PM

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Good luck.

tomsgirl07 Posted: May 25, 2006 04:02 PM

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Good luck!

CaseyVM214 Posted: May 25, 2006 04:25 PM

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

In October when we ordered BM dresses she was an 8, now, she said she just tried on a pair of jeans and they were a 0.

Wow... that is a lot of weight lost. Cant you call her family...when is the last time they saw her...I hate to say it but this may be beyond just your intervention. and I know if I was her family I would want to know.