(UPDATED and MUCH MUCH BETTER!!!) Anyone Besides Me Having Serious Problems with HIS family? (VENT)
I give up. I really don't know what to do anymore about his family. We just don't get along at all. For the last 6 years, I have tried my best to fit in, and it just hasn't worked.
A few months ago, I posted how they were trying to get me to purchase new favors and I refused to give in. Well, I finally made up with his aunt (I had to apoligize to her even though I did nothing wrong. SHe has always been very good to us, and I felt badly that I somehow managed to hurt her feelings...). However, I have yet to speak to him mother. I spoke to his aunt who said his mother really wanted to smooth things over. I am petrified of this woman, and I told Brian that I wanted to have him with me when I had to speak with her. Well, I made plans with Brian's aunt and sister to go to see Chateau Briand tomorrow and out to dinner. As far as I knew, things were better. I spoke to her on the phone today briefly, and about two hours later, I went outside and she was talking to her friend on the steps. Brian's motehr was at teh window, and her boyfriend was also outside. I said hello to everyone (Just a quick hello) and I ran to the car so I could start it and wait for Brian who I knew would be out in a few seconds.
*****PLEASE TAKE NOTE THAT IT IS 30 DEGREES OUTSIDE, AND MY HAIR WAS WET! I HAVE NO MAKE UP ON, I AM WEARING A SWEATPANTS, A FLEECE AND A DOWN COAT****
Well, Brian comes out, BS's with them for a minute and gets in teh car. First thing he says was why didn't you wait outside with them? I'm freezing and I knew you woudl be right out. Well you are going to have to talk to them at some point, Laurie...
WTF?????
Um, it's freezing! Next, I get defensive.
'WHY? DID THEY HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT IT?' No...it's just obvious that you were avoiding them...
WHATEVER! WE ARE GOING TO LOOK FOR TUXES AND I AM GOING TO IGNORE THAT COMMENT....
We are in teh store, phone rings...it's his sister. He walks away for a second, and comes back all po'd. I ignore him assuming it's because we had already done this whole tux shopping thing and he was annoyed that I changed stores on him.
Phone rings again. He walks outside and I see him yelling at his sister. I finish up, go outside and he starts yelling at me about how much trouble I have caused by acting like a baby, and his aunt is crying because I was ignoring her and his miotehr is so pissed taht I was so rude and didn't stand outside (in this freezing weather) to BS with them...
Now mind you, these are women that normally sit outside to BS about EVERYONE AND GOSSIP ABOUT EVERYONE on teh block. 50 year old women talking abouy everyone elses business but their own. They make me sick. I am nothing liek that and yes it bothers me and I try to avoid these conversations as much as possible, but I WAS FREEZING!!! If I wanted to avoid them, when I heard them outside, I would have waited for them to a) Eitehr leave or b) would have walked out with Brian and made a formal announcement that i was cold and went to sit in the car.
SO I told him today that if every day of my life is going to be scrutinized by his family as it has been for the last 6 years, I don't think this will work. I am not a shy person, I am not unfriendly, I am not stuck up or a snob. However, I am also not two faced and I will not sit and gossip with them about all of their friends. Ezpecially today, when it is 30 degrees out and my hair is still wet!
HELP ME PLEASE? I NEED ADVICE!![]()
A few months ago, I posted how they were trying to get me to purchase new favors and I refused to give in. Well, I finally made up with his aunt (I had to apoligize to her even though I did nothing wrong. SHe has always been very good to us, and I felt badly that I somehow managed to hurt her feelings...). However, I have yet to speak to him mother. I spoke to his aunt who said his mother really wanted to smooth things over. I am petrified of this woman, and I told Brian that I wanted to have him with me when I had to speak with her. Well, I made plans with Brian's aunt and sister to go to see Chateau Briand tomorrow and out to dinner. As far as I knew, things were better. I spoke to her on the phone today briefly, and about two hours later, I went outside and she was talking to her friend on the steps. Brian's motehr was at teh window, and her boyfriend was also outside. I said hello to everyone (Just a quick hello) and I ran to the car so I could start it and wait for Brian who I knew would be out in a few seconds.
*****PLEASE TAKE NOTE THAT IT IS 30 DEGREES OUTSIDE, AND MY HAIR WAS WET! I HAVE NO MAKE UP ON, I AM WEARING A SWEATPANTS, A FLEECE AND A DOWN COAT****
Well, Brian comes out, BS's with them for a minute and gets in teh car. First thing he says was why didn't you wait outside with them? I'm freezing and I knew you woudl be right out. Well you are going to have to talk to them at some point, Laurie...
WTF?????
Um, it's freezing! Next, I get defensive.
'WHY? DID THEY HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT IT?' No...it's just obvious that you were avoiding them...
WHATEVER! WE ARE GOING TO LOOK FOR TUXES AND I AM GOING TO IGNORE THAT COMMENT....
We are in teh store, phone rings...it's his sister. He walks away for a second, and comes back all po'd. I ignore him assuming it's because we had already done this whole tux shopping thing and he was annoyed that I changed stores on him.
Phone rings again. He walks outside and I see him yelling at his sister. I finish up, go outside and he starts yelling at me about how much trouble I have caused by acting like a baby, and his aunt is crying because I was ignoring her and his miotehr is so pissed taht I was so rude and didn't stand outside (in this freezing weather) to BS with them...
Now mind you, these are women that normally sit outside to BS about EVERYONE AND GOSSIP ABOUT EVERYONE on teh block. 50 year old women talking abouy everyone elses business but their own. They make me sick. I am nothing liek that and yes it bothers me and I try to avoid these conversations as much as possible, but I WAS FREEZING!!! If I wanted to avoid them, when I heard them outside, I would have waited for them to a) Eitehr leave or b) would have walked out with Brian and made a formal announcement that i was cold and went to sit in the car.
SO I told him today that if every day of my life is going to be scrutinized by his family as it has been for the last 6 years, I don't think this will work. I am not a shy person, I am not unfriendly, I am not stuck up or a snob. However, I am also not two faced and I will not sit and gossip with them about all of their friends. Ezpecially today, when it is 30 degrees out and my hair is still wet!
HELP ME PLEASE? I NEED ADVICE!
