UPDATED: HELP!...wondering how you would react...

Dh's cousin's wedding is on Sunday.

Last week, his uncle (father of the groom), calls over here saying that if we're interested, he'll plan a rehearsal dinner for the bride and groom. (I think this is basically to reciprocate for all of them coming to our mini-wedding of a rehearsal dinner)

So, he says that their church rehearsal is Friday (TODAY) at 7. He still needed to find a place and make a reservation. But, he wanted to know if we would come, because that was his deciding factor for even having the rehearsal dinner. So, DH said that we would go. Uncle said that he would call us back with details about where and what time the dinner will be.

(no need to feel bad for this bride and groom- this guy GAVE them a HOUSE and is paying for 1/2 of the wedding. In addition, he is renovating the house to their specifications for them for free)

edited to add: HELP! We still haven't heard A WORD! Now, what do I do! I am at work now and I basically need to make a decision about what I'm going to do!

If I leave here early today, I'll have enough time to get up there (in the event that anyone ever calls us) But, I will be very behind on Monday...

But, if I decide to stay at work, there's no way I'll be able to get up there tonight...

I have the type of job where various people need to sit down with me and get things done. So, now they are asking about this afternoon and getting mad because I'm not answering them!

Re: okay...wondering how you would react...

I'm sure you'll get a call about the time and place. I nall fairness, since he's planning last minute, he may be running around taking care of that right now. I would leave a message saying, please let us know where and when to meet you tomorrow night and to please call when he gets the message. Wait it out, I'm sure the whole family is under a ot of last minute pressure.

Re: okay...wondering how you would react...

are you or your husband in the wedding party? I don;t understand why you and DH would be the deciding in factor in Dh;s cousins wedding having a rehersal?

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Posted by dm24angel

are you or your husband in the wedding party? I don;t understand why you and DH would be the deciding in factor in Dh;s cousins wedding having a rehersal?

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Thank goodness, we're not!

The reason we were the deciding factor is this:

The uncle is 1 of 7 siblings. Out of those 7, DH's mom is only 1 of 2 who still speak to him. The other one does not live in the USA. We invited him and his children to our rehearsal dinner (it was quite the party!).

So, he wanted to make sure that he reciprocated, probably to preserve the relationship with his sister.

But, my issue here is that now it's 10 pm and we still have not heard a word about tomorrow night's rehearsal dinner. It is FAR away from us. I work in NYC. So, I will have to leave work early in order to get home with enough time to drive up there...

Just looking for some suggestions on how to handle this situation. Both DH and his mother have left messages for the uncle and haven't heard a word back...

Re: okay...wondering how you would react...

I would just call and ask????

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I would just call and ask????

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We've already left 2 messages for him this evening...

At this point, I feel weird chasing after him anymore. He called us and invited us in the first place and then completely forgot all about us...

I dont' want to get started with the whole 'when I was planning my wedding...bit'...But, I did put forth a GREAT deal of effort to make sure that not only did everyone have directions, etc., but to see if there was anything else that I could do to make things easier for them...

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Posted by suven

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I would just call and ask????

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We've already left 2 messages for him this evening...

At this point, I feel weird chasing after him anymore. He called us and invited us in the first place and then completely forgot all about us...

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if nobody called be back...i wouldn't go

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Posted by oct.2004bride

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Posted by suven

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I would just call and ask????

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We've already left 2 messages for him this evening...

At this point, I feel weird chasing after him anymore. He called us and invited us in the first place and then completely forgot all about us...

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if nobody called be back...i wouldn't go

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That's what I figured...(especially because they never told us WHERE OR WHAT TIME!)

I am just trying SO HARD to not be FURIOUS about turning down other plans, in addition to probably leaving work early, JUST IN CASE someone decides to give us a call...grrr