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UPDATED My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

12-3Princess Posted:

UPDATED My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

OK, so what do you girls think about this?

I'm pretty upset. My FSIL has been planning on coming to my bachelorette party in Miami since February. My wedding, shower, etc are all in NY where our friends and family live, but I decided to have my Bach'ette down where FH and I live and told everyone if they could come, GREAT, and if not, no problem...
As it turns out, almost everyone decided to come and was really excited. They all got good airfare deals cuz we planned so far in advance, and we're staying at my sister's 3 bedroom apartment in Miami so there's no hotel costs involved.

Anyway, they've been planning this for so long. Her and another bridesmaid of mine planned on flying together, and bought their tickets together months ago because my other friend is really afraid to fly alone.

My bachelorette party is now in 2 weeks, and FSIL has been avoiding my sister (who is in charge of planning the whole thing) and my friend she's supposed to fly with. Every time they email or try to get in touch with her she ignores them or says she's busy. She's been like that for about a week.

As a side note, my mom even bought a sofa bed for my sister so we could all fit at her apartment!!!!

I don't get a phone call or anything, but yesterday she emailed me to tell me she has a field trip of some sort to go to for one of her college classes on the Saturday of my bachelorette party - plus a lot of other school work - and she's not sure if she can come.
It's pretty clear that she's going to back out, but she says it is just a 'heads up' and she's going to 'try her best' to make it.

I'm really upset, and so is my friend that she was supposed to fly with, and so is my sister.
I mean, it's been planned for almost a year and now it's in 2 weeks. My friend that was flying with her doesn't want to fly alone now. I am going to see if she can fly in with someone else but I'm not sure if it'll work b/c they are on different airlines.

the worst part to me is my FSIL's way of handling it, and her attitude kind of seems to be like it's no big deal.

I'm so upset. Do you think I'm overreacting?

ETA: OMG. I replied to FSIL's email and was honest with her that i was freaking out a little and upset, but that we'd work it out with the other girls, and she HERE IS HER RESPONSE:

LOL ill be there, no worries....no need for the guilt trip...have a great weekend...see u soon!! Later sis...




I'M SO MUCH MORE UPSET NOW. I CAN'T BELIEVE HER ATTITUDE TOWARDS THIS WHOLE THING.
nferrandi Posted:

Re: My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

I don't think you're overreacting at all. I think you should call her and tell her how much it would mean to you if she could make the trip. Let her know that if she can't make it you will understand, but you will be disappointed.

BRIDEMICHELE Posted:

Re: My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

No, you're not overreacting! I agree with you. If she can't make it- she should say so!

12-3Princess Posted:

Re: My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

UPDATED


ETA: OMG. I replied to FSIL's email and was honest with her that i was freaking out a little and upset, but that we'd work it out with the other girls, and she HERE IS HER RESPONSE:

LOL ill be there, no worries....no need for the guilt trip...have a great weekend...see u soon!! Later sis...




I'M SO MUCH MORE UPSET NOW. I CAN'T BELIEVE HER ATTITUDE TOWARDS THIS WHOLE THING.
enjft Posted:

Re: UPDATED My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

You have every right to be upset.

nferrandi Posted:

Re: UPDATED My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

I can understand you being upset over her response, but just let it go and enjoy the weekend.

suven Posted:

Re: UPDATED My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

One thing I learned through the whole wedding/newlywed process is: No one is going to care about you and your DH or your plans and dreams as much as you and he will.

ets: just try to ignore her. Is she married, yet? If not, remember this all when it's her turn!

JPC1125 Posted:

Re: UPDATED My FSIL is cancelling on me.... (kinda long)

what we forget as brides is that not everyone sees OUR wedding as a big deal.


Its a huge part of your world right now but obviously shes more worried about her classes. Its very reasonable I think for her to be blase about this. After all...to her its just a party. to you, its a huge part of your wedding experience.


is she young?....sounds like she is based on her wording

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