UPDATED ! Stress Free Wedding Planning - UNTIL NOW

SandraLynn Posted: Sep 22, 2004 02:53 PM

UPDATED ! Stress Free Wedding Planning - UNTIL NOW

9 days to go and now the b.s starts? I just knew it!!!

Well my FH's brother, who is a groomsman called last night asking where does he need to be and what time...(we thought we had covered this last month at a family dinner)..FH told him 3pm at B&B in Peconic...Brother says, ha, I didn't know it was that early, I have to go to the Bronx to p.u. daughter and will be lucky if i get there by 7pm! The ceramony is at 6pm!!! FH is like, what the f**K...

Now the sister is like, I can't get there at 4pm, maybe alittle b/f 6pm and her 2 kids are a flower girl and ring bearer.

At this point, I don't care...and I will not let myself stress that HIS family won't be around for pictures. We will take pictures when we can, IF we can...

And to top this all off-on Tuesday I get an email from an ex-boyfriend whom I dated for 4 years and haven't spoken to in about 12 years b/c he 'heard' i am getting married and he wants to catch up and talk...He called a friend of mine for my email address, can this be for real?

diamondgrlie Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:00 PM

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Wow! But I like your attitude, keep calm. I am sorry about this stuff happening now.

MsKitty1274 Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:02 PM

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Wow! That is a bit to deal with so close you the wedding. Have you talked with FH's parents?

Either way, good luck I am sure all will work out and be okay!
-Jill

SandraLynn Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:07 PM

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FH does not have parents. I actually feel really bad for him, this is HIS family, his siblings, and they are letting him down. He does so much for them and my heart hurts for him...Me? I don't give a sh*t, his sister could not come to my shower b/c it was 9/11 and she had a memorial to go to....if that wasn't a slap in my face? I was really upset! Regardless, she gave a great gift, but, c'mon...I have been so slack on sending her thank you card, i wonder why?

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:09 PM

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Wow - those kids are in the wedding and their not sure if they can make it on time. Is there anyway the kids can stay with a grandparent who could get them there on time?

nferrandi Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:15 PM

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If I were you, I would probably call his brother and sister myself and tell them that they're really hurting their brother. I'm sure your wedding has been a long time in the planning process, so why do they suddenly seem surprised by everything? Let them know that you FH, and you, feel like they don't care about your wedding. Since they committed themselves, they need to be there at the approrpiate times. Period. There should really be no discission, no arguement. You need then there by 3:00 and that's when they need to be there by.

SandraLynn Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:23 PM

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the ring bearer gets off the bus at 3:30 and as i was told 'it's too early in the year to take him out of school to take him out early in the day'

no grandparents.....

and wish i had the 'guts' to tell my REAL feelings to my future SIL and BIL.....

JenniferLee111204 Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:38 PM

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i first want to say that you have a great attitude about the whole thing.

i think i would maybe call them myself but i dont know? im no help. im sorry

jenn

Janine24 Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:39 PM

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you do not have time for the ex right now...I wouldn't get involved with that, especially now that you have a lot going on...
I think its good you are trying to stay calm.... you need some

TracyInQueens Posted: Sep 22, 2004 03:45 PM

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Posted by SandraLynn

And to top this all off-on Tuesday I get an email from an ex-boyfriend whom I dated for 4 years and haven't spoken to in about 12 years b/c he 'heard' i am getting married and he wants to catch up and talk...He called a friend of mine for my email address, can this be for real?

What a putz...

endlessluv429 Posted: Sep 22, 2004 04:02 PM

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so sorry all this junk had to happen so close to the big day! just keep your already great attitude of 'whatever will be will be'

as for the ex-bf situation--def. just IGNORE it. i agree with janine it's too complicated to get involved with. nothing good will come out of it-so just pretend you never got the email!

nferrandi Posted: Sep 22, 2004 04:04 PM

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Posted by SandraLynn

the ring bearer gets off the bus at 3:30 and as i was told 'it's too early in the year to take him out of school to take him out early in the day'

Now is the perfect time to take him out of school early. They have barely even started learning anything, not to mention, it's a Friday, not a Monday. She obviously knew the date when she agreed to be part of your BP, why is it an issue all of a sudden? You really need to lay down the law on this one. If anything, try to play it off like the kids will be so disappointed if they're not in the photos and there won't be time to take them later that night.

As for the ex- don't even bother with it. It's hard to hear that someone you once cared about is getting married and he just wants to check in and let his presence be know. Nothing good can come of that.

SandraLynn Posted: Sep 22, 2004 04:18 PM

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Thank you ladies...i told FH, ooh I posting this current event on the LIW board...he said go for it! ha...

SandraLynn Posted: Sep 23, 2004 12:37 PM

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NOW, the sister says she can't be there at 4pm for photos b/c she won't take her son out of school (kindergarten) early b/c it is too early in the school year, and she does not like her picture taken anyway and that the kids will not be cooperative for pictures. BUT they will make sure they get there prior to 6pm (ceramony start time)--her son and daughter are suppose to be ring bearer and a flower girl.

I don't care if they can or can't even be there, but I 'feel' sooo bad for my fiance...His facial expression just killed me. This is his/our wedding, not a get together!!!! Then his brother and brother in law are NOT attending his bachelor party Friday night. The BIL has to see his son's little peewee league game....

I told this all to my father last night who is by the way, leaving Florida tomorrow to be at our wedding, and his response was F**k them, (yeah, my dad) and he added that I have friends and relatives flying in from ALL over and will be here ON TIME and his family lives on LI and will LATE?

Thanks for listening, Yes, I am angry, but I have other things to worry/stress over this coming week, not their attendance or tardiness. My heart just goes out to Scott. I guess this IS NOT that important to them...