My sister is my MOH and FH's 2 sisters are my BM's. My sister called me to ask how often the BM's check their emails and I told her pretty often and that they reply. She was kind of ticked off b/c she told me she emailed them almost 2 weeks ago to discuss planning my (surprise) Bridal Shower and no one has written her back!! I kind of feel really insulted right now that they don't even care enough to return an e-mail. Don't you think it's kind of rude? Should I mention anything to them?
UPDATE: My sister told me one of them emailed her this morning. I MADE her tell me what they said b/c she sounded upset. She said in the first email, my sister told them she would pay for all the guests on my side, favors, wishing well, decorations, everything and if they would be willing to pay for half of each guest on their side of the family. BM said they were not willing to do this. I don't even WANT a shower anymore!! I do SO much for them. I'm sorry for my sister b/c she's planning her own wedding for August. AND BM emailed me this morning telling me she can't get fitted for the BM dress until middle of Oct. I gave up and told her to email me her measurements and I would order the dress for her. I cannot wait until March 31st.
LuvMyAlfonse
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I'm mixed.
I wouldn't say anything to them and I'd be kind of annoyed at my sis for telling me. She should handle it. If someone needs to be the 'bad guy' let HER be it, not YOU.
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did she put something in the subject line? alot of people delete mail from people they dont know.
i dunno but if they did read it and didnt reply, id have ur sister handle it.
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I would give your sister their numbers so that she could call them and make sure that they got there e-mails first and if they don't answers her calls then i would talk to them about it.
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I'm mixed.
I wouldn't say anything to them and I'd be kind of annoyed at my sis for telling me. She should handle it. If someone needs to be the 'bad guy' let HER be it, not YOU.
I know. I'm sort of annoyed at her for telling me, but I think she needed to vent. At least she's trying to organize something which is good. I just feel down that they don't really seem to care.
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I dont think you can really get annoyed until she tries calling them. I still don't always trust email. No doubt they are just not responding, but you can never be 100% sure and someone can always lie and say they didn't get it.
but i agree she should handle it, and just call them.
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How about she pretends she never mentioned anything to you because it's a surprise and she needs to talk to your FH. Kind of pretend she never had the conversation with you because after all it is a surprise shower and she doesn't want to blow it and neither will he. She can be very PC about it and just ask if his sister's check their email often b/c she is trying to figure out the details and hasn't heard back. That's not starting trouble.
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I wouldn't stress about it just yet. Ask her to send another email with a more specific title in the subject. Also, in the email, ask that they reply ASAP with feedback.
I agree maybe they didn't get it. Or, you could give her their phone #'s and have her reach out to them that way.
I always like to give the benefit of the doupt. Especially in a situation like this that you're not sure of all the details...
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I know. I'm sort of annoyed at her for telling me, but I think she needed to vent. At least she's trying to organize something which is good. I just feel down that they don't really seem to care.
That would upset me too. Maybe ask your FH to talk with them.
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Give her their phone numbers and let her handle it....no need for you to get involved............give them the benefit of the doubt..maybe their computer is Fried like mine
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I know. I'm sort of annoyed at her for telling me, but I think she needed to vent. At least she's trying to organize something which is good. I just feel down that they don't really seem to care.
That would upset me too. Maybe ask your FH to talk with them.
Yeah. My sister just emailed me and said she's either going to email him to get phone numbers, or email them again, but CC him to see if they respond. I think she just feels bad b/c my dad got laid off (he's 60, btw) and my mother doesn't work, so she doesn't want to have my mother handle the whole thing $$. I would be very happy having a shower in my living room!!
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I would try to stay out of it. Let your sister handle it. Maybe there is a logical explanation for it.
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I would try to stay out of it. Let your sister handle it. Maybe there is a logical explanation for it.
I hope so. They're not b*tchy like that.
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Yeah. My sister just emailed me and said she's either going to email him to get phone numbers, or email them again, but CC him to see if they respond. I think she just feels bad b/c my dad got laid off (he's 60, btw) and my mother doesn't work, so she doesn't want to have my mother handle the whole thing $$. I would be very happy having a shower in my living room!!
Oh geez Nancy. I'm so sorry.
Since your FSILs aren't usually like this maybe they're just busy or completely forgot to respond.
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it is def. rude but i wouldnt say anything
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hahaha.. this is the story of my life lately.. one of my MOH actually e-mailed the other MOH in APRIL to start getting things going.. and just recieved an e-mail back like 2 weeks ago.
I was really kinda hurt.. but I just keep trying to convince myself that they are busy or whatever
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I would mention something to them. Not in a confrontational way, just to maybe remind them to touch base with your sister.
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This is how half of my bridesmaids are.. some are great... some stink... dont let it get to you.. dont take it personally.. its not done to insult you.. some girls just dont realize how their actions make other people feel...
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Yea I don't think you should get involved. I know your sister means well, but she needs to handle it not you. Maybe she should of called you and asked for their numbers instead. It just puts the bride in a weird position. I'm sure your fh sisters care and that's why they are coming out in your wedding.
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I get why your sister said something, but I think she should have gone to FH first. But all in all, she said something already, and at this point I would give her their cell phone numbers and have her call them. They might be deleting her emails if they don't realize who its from, of for some freak reason the emails could be ending up in SPAM or something (I have a friend who emails me all the time and he always ends up in the SPAM folder for some reason).
I would give them the benefit of the doubt for now. Tell your MOH if she still doesn't hear back from them, maybe she can talk to FH about it.
