UPDATE::Please help..how would you handle this????

Original post by oktom22

Jul 21, 2008 10:32 AM

I really need some pearls of wisdom right now...
So I had my shower on Sat (and it was amazing...I will do a seperate post on that w/ the pics). And the mother of our ring bearer (FH's friends son) tells FH's mother that she's not sure she wants her son to be in our wedding, and that FH should expect to get a phone call about it.

So now we're just shy of 6 weeks before the wedding and she's dropping this on us? Without even an explanation as to why. Also note that we sent them 2 invites, one to the parents and one just to the ringbearer, so he feels special. And they sent the reply as Regrets. My mom freaked out when she saw that and called FH and he didn't know anything so he called the father (who he was friends w/ from college) and the father said that they would be going to the Church but not the reception. So I very calmly asked FH to ask them if they could at least make it to CH b/c we have a gap b/w the ceremony and RH and that's when we were going to take pics, and I wanted some w/ the Ringbearer....

I really want to call this woman and ask her what her problem is (it probably wouldn't come out that nice) but it's FH's family friend, so I feel that he should handle this situation.

I'm a mess of emotions right now...

----UPDATE-------
So this unstable being called FH and told him the reason her son is not going to be participating is b/c FH has not called to ask how the ringbearer is doing. And if we wanted someone to fill the position we might as well try Ebay b/c it's not going to be her son!!!
She then went on to say she was insulted that when FH sent out an email to the GM and RB dad w/ all the tux info and suggesting they all go together to get measured and then come back to the house for BBQ, she flipped out that FH didn't send her a personal email, instead of emailing the group.

She also said she was not introduced at MYshower as the mother of the ringbearer, and that her mother was not introduced as the grandmother of the ringbearer...

That's my little bit o'drama

chrissybean77 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 08:05 PM

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Oh wow! I was just reading your posts and this woman is really self-absorbed! I'm sorry they are doing this to you and your FH but it probably is for the best. If she can make it so much about her now I can't imagine what she would be like at the wedding. Maybe your FH can talk to his friend and straighten things out. That blows my mind that she expected herself and her mother to be introduced at the shower.

Sharron70 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 08:18 PM

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Posted by oktom22
----UPDATE-------
So this unstable being called FH and told him the reason her son is not going to be participating is b/c FH has not called to ask how the ringbearer is doing. And if we wanted someone to fill the position we might as well try Ebay b/c it's not going to be her son!!!
She then went on to say she was insulted that when FH sent out an email to the GM and RB dad w/ all the tux info and suggesting they all go together to get measured and then come back to the house for BBQ, she flipped out that FH didn't send her a personal email, instead of emailing the group.

She also said she was not introduced at MYshower as the mother of the ringbearer, and that her mother was not introduced as the grandmother of the ringbearer...

That's my little bit o'drama

What a nutjob! Did FH manage to remind her IT'S NOT HER FECKING DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!?????????

You are SO better off without her!

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 08:24 PM

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OH MY GOSH. She's crazy. Try to look on the bright side and realize that this woman no longer has anything to do with your day.

Cruelty571 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 08:25 PM

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Yeah, she's an odd one. Good thing this all came out BEFORE the wedding, and not on the day of.
Better off without a ring bearer than having to deal with his mom IMO

roan126 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 08:36 PM

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whatEVER. You are better off without them. It will be a special day regardless. Better now than drama at the wedding.

FutureMrsCarrieri Posted: Jul 21, 2008 09:26 PM

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Posted by oktom22

ISo this unstable being called FH and told him the reason her son is not going to be participating is b/c FH has not called to ask how the ringbearer is doing. And if we wanted someone to fill the position we might as well try Ebay b/c it's not going to be her son!!!
She then went on to say she was insulted that when FH sent out an email to the GM and RB dad w/ all the tux info and suggesting they all go together to get measured and then come back to the house for BBQ, she flipped out that FH didn't send her a personal email, instead of emailing the group.

She also said she was not introduced at MYshower as the mother of the ringbearer, and that her mother was not introduced as the grandmother of the ringbearer...

That's my little bit o'drama

whoa -- that's really crazy.
I don't even know what to say to that. Consider yourself lucky -- she might have made a real scene at the wedding.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Jul 21, 2008 09:29 PM

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OMG i read the update, and she is freaking nuts
The mother of the ring bearer tell her to take a HOT S hi t lol

Mici n KC Posted: Jul 21, 2008 09:31 PM

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Wow she REALLY needs to get over herself!

lizzie217 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 09:34 PM

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She sounds psycho....cut your losses...Im sorry that this is happening to you

Gigi08 Posted: Jul 21, 2008 10:41 PM

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Wow!! Just when you think you've heard it all. Is she crazy? Count your blessings. You're better off without them involved. A ringbearer is cute, but not essential. That is just absurd...