Upset and venting

So this is the 3rd day that I was off from work recovering from my stupid wisdom teeth surgery.....my family lives in Florida so I've been alone in my apartment for the last 3 days with just my dog . FH didnt work any weddings this weekend so he could stay home with me, but his regular job has been busy and he hasnt gotten home since after 8pm once this week.....and he gets to work at 7:30am. his job is really hard and stressful and he makes great overtime money but it ***** that he cant leave at 5:00 like a normal person - especially when we made plans with other people OR like the last 3 days when i am alone and miserable and want to see him -.....he just called and is waiting for a car home from the city - luckily his job provides a car after 9pm.....i know its not his fault and he gets mad that i get upset - but he doesnt put himself in my shoes either....i wish that he could have been with me during all of this.....i want to be taken care of - and he 'cant' leave work early.....and he didnt even get me a card OR flowers my job sent me a beautiful edible arrangement - you would think he'd get the hint and send something to me......BUT once again he didnt i just want to be spoiled i guess hahahahahaha!!

Aww! I hear ya. Sometimes FH's don' t realize that we want to babied when we don't feel well. I can actually relate to you.... Usually FH is so sweet and thoughtful but last year-this exact week, I had my wisdom teeth removed. I had never felt so horrible in my life and I wanted FH to stay at my place (he wasn't living with me yet) to take care of me. But he insisted that he couldnt get off from work.... I was so bummed. He later told me that the truth was- not only was he unable to take off from work but he couldn't bare to look at my chipmunk face and watch me drool all over myself.

I would leave a note on the table that says ' Send fiance flowers and get well card' and then sign it with your fiance's name. He should get the point!

Men they are clueless!!!! I hope you're feeling better!

Don't be upset. My fh works alot too. We don't even eat dinner together b.c he's never home at a normal time. But you find a way to get over it and make it work. I wish fh got home at 5 but that is not reality and with his line of work he can't help it.

Just remember he loves you and would rather be home with you than at work anyday

hahahaha you made me laugh i feel better!!

it just ***** that he cant leave earlier than 9:30....and we missed our godson on Halloween this year...he is 1 and was dressed up as Eyore from Winne the Pooh - i was dying to see him - and FH kept saying that he would get out by 7 and we would make it - so i didnt go alone and i waited for him for nothing.......his job is seriously ridiculous.....there are so many people there with families and they are still working on halloween and couldnt take their kids trick or treating!! his job is a little out of control if you ask me.....its like god forbid he asked to leave early....he would NEVER ask to leave early.......

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Posted by jteach711

Don't be upset. My fh works alot too. We don't even eat dinner together b.c he's never home at a normal time. But you find a way to get over it and make it work. I wish fh got home at 5 but that is not reality and with his line of work he can't help it.

Just remember he loves you and would rather be home with you than at work anyday

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same here
fh works until 10 every night and sometimes until 7 AM

i thought it was illegal to work 14 hour days every day.....but FH does it

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Posted by Future Mulligan

hahahaha you made me laugh i feel better!!

it just ***** that he cant leave earlier than 9:30....and we missed our godson on Halloween this year...he is 1 and was dressed up as Eyore from Winne the Pooh - i was dying to see him - and FH kept saying that he would get out by 7 and we would make it - so i didnt go alone and i waited for him for nothing.......his job is seriously ridiculous.....there are so many people there with families and they are still working on halloween and couldnt take their kids trick or treating!! his job is a little out of control if you ask me.....its like god forbid he asked to leave early....he would NEVER ask to leave early.......

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I hear ya. It stinks.... My Fh works late 3 week nights and has to go in on Sunday mornings. I'm not a big fan of his schedule but I know that not everyone has the perfect schedule. Hopefully one day, they will have better schedules. But I'm sorry you missed out on your godson's 1st Halloween!

Girl men are slow to catch on. FH didnt do a thing for me while I was healing from my teeth being pulled and then we got into a spat about it cause I was bitter. He wanted me to have to TELL him that I wanted him to be more helpful cause how would he know??!!

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok wait one second... didn't you get your wisdom teeth pulled? Your job sent you an EDIBLE arrangement? think about this, it may make you laugh and be less upset at your hunny! In his head he is trying to provide for you, he doesn't realize, they never do!

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they should have sent jello

Awe!!!!!!! I know you just want to be taken care of sometimes. I feel like they make time when they want to and sometimes just don't think we need that. I got home tonight at 10 and FH was in bed. He'll leave tomorow at 6 am and I'll get home at 11 and he'll be in bed. I hate it!!!!! Well I hope you feel better!!!!

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok wait one second... didn't you get your wisdom teeth pulled? Your job sent you an EDIBLE arrangement? think about this, it may make you laugh and be less upset at your hunny! In his head he is trying to provide for you, he doesn't realize, they never do!

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Good point

Aw..I'm so sorry but sometimes men just don't get it! If you need anything let me know...I'll come visit! Where do you live? Seriously - I can bring you stuff if you want...no edible arrangements though..how much a milkshake??? LOL

I meant how about a milkshake...it's too early!

I hear you about the flowers. My FH NEVER sends flowers. Even when I get a new job, my birthday, it's been like at least 2 years since he's sent flowers. Once a year, he'd surprise me at work and bring some but now he has a new boss and he can't leave as freely as he was able to.

A card? Forget that.

I think sometimes guys just don't think certain things are a big deal.

Sorry you're down.

PS That's kind of odd that your company sent you cut up fruit for wisdom teeth - can you even eat it? Ha ha! I love those things, but ouchie!