Ok...so here is a little background.. one of my bridesmaids got engaged this summer and she has been planning her engagement party since june...so they decided that on the day of their engagement they will tie the knot..( but only the closest ppl will know).....so one of her fds decided to throw her a bachelorette party..this past sat..and she told her 2 weeks ago that..she has to get ready look nice and not plan anything..so my fd suspected it..hehe.. anywway..my fd told me that that girl called her and she asked me if i recieved any phone calls ..i said no( bcoz im not fds w her fds..and plus i cannot stand that girl who was planning it) anyway...this past sat..my FH was outside walking a dog..when her (my bridesmaid's) fh passing by in his car....stopped and started talking..and he said that he was picking her up from her bachelorette party.... can you imagine...!!! i mean i know that she didnt plan it ..but she did know about this and she didnt even think about calling me or telling that other girl ..that she should invite me,...what a b.. im soo dissapointed...(i freaking planned her shower..i helped her a lot!!!))) and she is my bridesmaid ..and plus she is my fh's cousin..i just think thats really messed up....!!!!!!!!!!!
tonight me n her are going to the spa..(my present to her)..to relax...before the engagement party (aka her wedding..)..im just soo upset at her .i dont even want her in my bridal party!!!!
branflake1229
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Why don't you just ask her when you're at the spa why she didn't invite you to her bachelorette party? Just casually bring it up, like, 'I heard about your bachelorette party, kind of weird I wasn't invited!' And just see what she says. Maybe it was a really small party with only a few people invited.
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Yeah, that would DEFINITELY upset me. I would talk to her. Tell her how you feel. If you wern't invited, I wouldn't want her in my BP.
little34
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So have one of your girls 'forget' to invite her to you b-party
TheLadyJ
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It is messed up - but did your friend KNOW you weren't invited?
For the bachelorette parties I've been to, I never communicated directly with the bride.
Honesty here is best. Tell her simply that you are upset that you were not invited to the bachelorette party and you would have loved to attend.
This may not even be her fault, but the fault of her friend who you admitted you cannot stand.
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I wouldn't be mad at your friend... I feel like by her asking if anyone called you she was checking to see if they invited you. I would blame her friend for not inviting you, not her.
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I would be upset too
aliska21
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yeah...i know...its not her fault..but she did know that she didnt invite me and she even asked me if she called me..i said no..so...then she didnt say anything...... after the party i called her to ask her smth n she told me that she went to the city...she didnt say that she had her bachelorette party...i guess she was embarassed...i mean..its just not nice..
whatever....i just see things...clearer now!
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Posted by aliska21
yeah...i know...its not her fault..but she did know that she didnt invite me and she even asked me if she called me..i said no..so...then she didnt say anything...... after the party i called her to ask her smth n she told me that she went to the city...she didnt say that she had her bachelorette party...i guess she was embarassed...i mean..its just not nice..
whatever....i just see things...clearer now!
Is it possible she went to the girl who was planning the event and said 'my friend hasn't been invited' and the other person said 'oh, I can't stand her and don't want her to come'?
asking your friend to no longer be in your bridal party because of something her friend did isn't right. Think about how upset you were about not being invited - now you want to do the same thing to your friend and kick her out.
I would wait until after your friend's wedding to tell her everything. Tell her how hurt you were that you weren't there and let her explain why.
You have a right to be upset, but you even said yourself it wasn't you friend's fault.
MaggieLuvsJoe
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That was not nice of that girl not to invite you, she knows that you are close to the bride to be. I would mention something to your friend tonight that you were hurt by what happened, but you really can't blame her, she can turn around and say she thought you were invited and couldn't make it.....but definitely let her know how you feel.
Good Luck
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Posted by aliska21
yeah...i know...its not her fault..but she did know that she didnt invite me and she even asked me if she called me..i said no..so...then she didnt say anything...... after the party i called her to ask her smth n she told me that she went to the city...she didnt say that she had her bachelorette party...i guess she was embarassed...i mean..its just not nice..
whatever....i just see things...clearer now!
Is it possible she went to the girl who was planning the event and said 'my friend hasn't been invited' and the other person said 'oh, I can't stand her and don't want her to come'?
asking your friend to no longer be in your bridal party because of something her friend did isn't right. Think about how upset you were about not being invited - now you want to do the same thing to your friend and kick her out.
I would wait until after your friend's wedding to tell her everything. Tell her how hurt you were that you weren't there and let her explain why.
You have a right to be upset, but you even said yourself it wasn't you friend's fault.
yep..i know...i know...she is going to feel crappy...wtever..im not even going threre anymore..im going to let it slide..and just forget about it..maybe after her engagement party when everyone is more relaxed...!!!!
