I haven't seen my 2 friends much lately. One is my MOH, the other a BM. I just finished school 2 weeks ago so I've been spending extra time with FH b/c when i'm in school i only see him on weekends. My MOH has been really pissy with me b/c i haven't been out and i told her to wait until school is done b/c then i'll have extra money to go and not have to worry about homework and papers and stuff. So yesterday i call her up to make plans for this weekend to go out with the girls ( b/c i get paid and ill actually have money to go out) and she says ooh well im going out with stephanie. So i said great, i want to go out too. She tells me ' oh well..umm..im seeing this guy and im setting steph up with one of his friends and it's kind of a double date thing..but i guess if u want to come...i guess you can' I asked her if it was like a dinner or movie thing and shes like noo we're going to a bar. UMMMM ok i understand it's a double date but its a bar...not a restaurant or movie ya kno? And there have been plenty of times she's gone out with me and my fh to eat. Im just pissed b/c i actually have time to see them now and they're completely blowing me off. She's supposed to be my moh and hasn't helped me one bit with the wedding. She's not interested in anything. Im just upset b/c this is important to me and i'm the first one getting married so i need as much help as i can get. Im making the effort to go out, but i cant be spending all my money in bars every weekend anymore. WHY DOESNT SHE GET IT!?!???!?!??
evewedsjc
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I haven't seen my 2 friends much lately. One is my MOH, the other a BM. I just finished school 2 weeks ago so I've been spending extra time with FH b/c when i'm in school i only see him on weekends. My MOH has been really pissy with me b/c i haven't been out and i told her to wait until school is done b/c then i'll have extra money to go and not have to worry about homework and papers and stuff. So yesterday i call her up to make plans for this weekend to go out with the girls ( b/c i get paid and ill actually have money to go out) and she says ooh well im going out with stephanie. So i said great, i want to go out too. She tells me ' oh well..umm..im seeing this guy and im setting steph up with one of his friends and it's kind of a double date thing..but i guess if u want to come...i guess you can' I asked her if it was like a dinner or movie thing and shes like noo we're going to a bar. UMMMM ok i understand it's a double date but its a bar...not a restaurant or movie ya kno? And there have been plenty of times she's gone out with me and my fh to eat. Im just pissed b/c i actually have time to see them now and they're completely blowing me off. She's supposed to be my moh and hasn't helped me one bit with the wedding. She's not interested in anything. Im just upset b/c this is important to me and i'm the first one getting married so i need as much help as i can get. Im making the effort to go out, but i cant be spending all my money in bars every weekend anymore. WHY DOESNT SHE GET IT!?!???!?!??
They never do but again it does not mean she does not love you...it's YOUR wedding and they will never feel it is as important as you do...you just have to be patient...remember they may see things in a total different light than you do...
chicky724
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Aww that must be hard.
A few of my friends are married already so they all kind of 'get it.' Maybe you need to explain to them how busy you've been and how you'd like them to be more involved?
Good luck!
fabulousmady
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I understand how ur feeling. im the first one in my group of friends to get married and it can be hard to balance friends, fh AND wedding planning. I just stopped asking my MOH and BM's for help. I come on here for ideas or speak to other brides-to-be who ARE interested and care about wedding planning. I dont see it as them not caring about ME. I try to put myself in their shoes. they really just dont understand how stressful and frustrating this all is.
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Posted by fabulousmady
I understand how ur feeling. im the first one in my group of friends to get married and it can be hard to balance friends, fh AND wedding planning. I just stopped asking my MOH and BM's for help. I come on here for ideas or speak to other brides-to-be who ARE interested and care about wedding planning. I dont see it as them not caring about ME. I try to put myself in their shoes. they really just dont understand how stressful and frustrating this all is.
I couldn't have put it better.
I'm acutally one of the last of my friends getting married and some of them are working on child #2, so they're all about their family, and children at this point.
vicky1125
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she doesn't get it cause she's not going through it nor has she. i no longer speak to one of my friends casue she got mad at me when me & FH started dating for wanting to spend more time with him instead of bar hoping every weekend. maybe you should try talkin to them. i personally would get a new MOH.
melcc83
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if she continues to blow you off, i would talk to her when its just the 2 of you and explain to her agian why you havent been around. people that arent in our position dont really understand, so try and make her understand :) hang in there things will get better
flairforfashion
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I am sorry. I know how you feel. I can say this again- this is the time in our lives where we learn who our true friends are.
