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kavirtue Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:24 AM

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I wish this B**** would STOP calling FH. Why won't she stop? They messed with each other very early in our relationship. This relationship has been over for 3 years. She keeps calling. She calls his job. She calls his cell all types of hours. It is driving me crazy. Why is it driving me crazy? I should be over this..... My biggest nightmare is that she will show up at our wedding. I am so mad. She just called a few minutes go. I picked up the phone and told her to stop calling him. I know this is what she wants, but can she get a life. What is wrong with her???? Could someone please explain to me why is she calling him. I mean FH is drop dead sexy and the sweetest guy and such a gentleman, he loves his momma, he is committed, and would be an amazing father. But he is my FH. FH feels like I should not have to answer her calls. He feels like he is failing me because he can't make her stop calling and I feel like I have to handle the situation. Can she get this, can she just move on. Help me understand her, help understand why I am so aggravated with this situation.

Espo22 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:31 AM

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i think anybody would get aggrevated with this situation. But uhmmm maybe he should change his number and that will solve the problem.

Saram Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:35 AM

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yea change your number....does she ever show up at your house?

BNBride60 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:36 AM

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Posted by Espo22

i think anybody would get aggrevated with this situation. But uhmmm maybe he should change his number and that will solve the problem.

I agree!!! Change that number!!! I know it's a hassle, but I guarantee it isn't more of a hassle than dealing with her!

ginamarie1022 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:36 AM

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I agree with Espo. Changing his number would stop the calls from this chick. It's an inconvenience for him to do so, but it would alleviate stress from your lives.

hayleyandsteve Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:37 AM

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Posted by Espo22

i think anybody would get aggrevated with this situation. But uhmmm maybe he should change his number and that will solve the problem.

i agree with denise...

it's completely normal that you'd be upset over this... but try not to dwell on it! it's one of the hardest things in life to realize that not everyone wishes you well. she is probably very jealous that you two are engaged, and is trying to weasel her way back in with him. but from what you said, he obviously loves you and will not let that happen. just ignore her.... she sounds like she thrives on attention.

catsgirl Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:38 AM

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CHANGE THE NUMBERS, IF THAT DONT HELP ROLL UP ON HER AND BUST HER CHOPS. NO SERIOUSLY THIS IS A PROBLEM AND SHE NEEDS TO REALIZE HES MOVED ON AND IS OBVIOSLY VERY HAPPY, LET HER KNOW LOOK B----. U WERENT THE ONE SO MOVE ON..

BoxOfRocks Posted: Jul 04, 2007 12:51 PM

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Has FH ever told her specifically to stop calling?

angl2001 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 12:56 PM

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that would drive me nutz too.....have you tried not answering the phone at all?? maybe FH should start hanging up on her when he hears her voice at work! I hope it stops good luck hun!

LitBallerinaGirl Posted: Jul 04, 2007 12:58 PM

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Has FH ever told her specifically to stop calling?

That was going to be my question too? When she calls does he talk to her? I know he is a gentleman and prob doesn't want to hurt her feelings, but he is hurting yours, his FW!!!
Sorry this happened to you!

kavirtue Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:01 PM

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Thanks Ladies, FH did tell her to stop calling for the first few months but that did nothing. FH is really considering changing his mumber the problem is that the cell is for both personal and business calls- everyone who does business with him has this number. But this morning he say he will really consider it as he figures out the business piece.

angl2001 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:03 PM

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report her for harassment!! the local PD can tell you what to do! MY friend did that with her ex he got a warning and was told if it didnt stop charges will be filed. It worked!

Pencils Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:31 PM

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Does he talk to her, even a little bit, when she calls? Because she needs to be hung up on as soon as she calls. I think she sounds unstable--no one calls someone else's fiance like that if they're normal. Do you know this girl at all? Know her friends? If you do, call one and tell her/him that this girl is going off the rails and you're going to have to call the cops on her. Because if it doesn't stop, and your FH can't change his number, you're going to have to call the cops. Or maybe you or he should tell her the next time she calls that you're calling the cops. If she's not crazy, she'll stop.

Posted by kavirtue
Thanks Ladies, FH did tell her to stop calling for the first few months but that did nothing. FH is really considering changing his mumber the problem is that the cell is for both personal and business calls- everyone who does business with him has this number. But this morning he say he will really consider it as he figures out the business piece.

BoxOfRocks Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:50 PM

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FH did tell her to stop calling for the first few months but that did nothing.

That definitely changes the ball game. Record every time she calls in a log (time, date, what she said, what you said). You should go to the police with this information (and definitely tell them that FH previously told her that she was to stop calling) and they will be able to advise you on how to handle it.

Will the phone company allow you to block the phone number at your request?

Does he talk to her, even a little bit, when she calls? Because she needs to be hung up on as soon as she calls.

Agreed. I once heard somewhere that if you get unwanted calls from someone, don't respond 50 times, then yell into the phone, 'Stop calling me!' on the 51st call, you have taught the caller that it will take 51 tries to get you to respond.

poisonivy918 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 02:22 PM

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he should just change his number. I had to do that once (some dude wouldn't stop calling me!) it ****** but it's worth it!

iwannabmrsD Posted: Jul 04, 2007 02:32 PM

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someone else mentioned it but i'll say it again.. the next time she calls explain very nicely and firmly that this is considered harrassment and if she calls again you will be contacting the police department and pressing charges.. then call u'r police department and file a complaint against her to get it on record.. call the phone company and put a block on he phone number. and if she calls again ffrom a diff number or osmething then call the cops and prss charges..

and yes FH needs to step in and tell her to stop calling..