I dont normally vent about stuff but this has been weighing on my mind for 2 weeks now. My BM/cousin got engaged on Labor Day weekend. Im so excited and happy for her but the thing is when I asked the date she said she didnt know but with in a year year and a half. Ok well yeah thats either before my wedding or a few months after mine. Im just really sort of upset that she is thinking of getting married not to long before me. So its like everyone is ubber excited for her wedding on my moms family( her mom is my moms sister) like we went to a baby shower and my 2 aunts who live upstate knew about her getting engaged but not me and Ill be engaged a year in Dec. I just feel like I thought I would get the spot light for once with my moms family but now Im going to have to share. I guess whatever I just think she should have it after mine since Im older and been engaged longer and have almost everything planned. sorry blah just really sort of upset about this and I shouldnt be. I wont find out till Sunday on what date she is officially going to use. Thanks for reading if you did
amarra121
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aww don't worry. Everything will be fine.
Jna2010
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awww lovey it kinda su cks that some relatives didnt know about you being engaged, but regardless of when she gets married (unless its like right next to yours) i wouldnt let it upset you, youre both going to get married regardless and when you look back the few months difference will seem like nothing
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aw im sorry!!!
but think of it this way, you will have a fabulous time at your wedding, whether its before or after yours and who really cares, it is YOUR special day and you will be the center of attention with all eyes on you regardless.....
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I know that's annoying. We are kind of anticipating a similar issue with FH's cousin (SPOILED) who is probably going to get engaged soon. We've only been engaged since Aug 7th, and we have a 2 year engagement because of school and the BAr exam, and if she gets engaged she's not going to wait that long, so we've been together longer, will have been enggaed longer and they'll wind up getting married first. Which means we'll be competing for attention and now everyone's going to be tit-for-tat, like everything has to be 'fair'...
So I know how you feel. Unfortunately, you can't control how other people structure their plans. If it were me, I wouldn't want to have to adjust what I want to do based on what I want (but being a nice person I would proibably do it anyway)
Since you've planned and she hasn't started yet, can you talk to her? Tell her how it bother's you? She might not have even thought about the year and a half timeline when she threw it out there as an about for the wedding date.
Good luck, though!
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Posted by Jna2010
awww lovey it kinda su cks that some relatives didnt know about you being engaged, but regardless of when she gets married (unless its like right next to yours) i wouldnt let it upset you, youre both going to get married regardless and when you look back the few months difference will seem like nothing
couldnt have said it any better dont be upset, everybody have their own considerations and circumstances, and on ur wedding day u will get ur spot light, cause thats ur day and it totally wouldnt matter when ur cousin's wedding was/is
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Posted by Jna2010
awww lovey it kinda su cks that some relatives didnt know about you being engaged, but regardless of when she gets married (unless its like right next to yours) i wouldnt let it upset you, youre both going to get married regardless and when you look back the few months difference will seem like nothing
ITA! Don't let it bother you. You wedding is going to awesome no matter when she decides to have hers!
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Kim don't worry about it and know that no matter what your wedding will be awesome and better than hers
Spring143
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vent away!! I get how you feel!! eta- YOUR WEDDING WILL BLOW HERS AWAY!!
kimmaymb20
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thanks girls
halfbaked
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Ugh, I hate when people do that. A 'friend' of mine booked her wedding 3 WEEKS before mine and a week before the date I told her I was hoping for (May 1st). Don't worry about what she's doing, just enjoy your time and don't let it spoil your planning!
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unfortunately there is not much you can do about what date she chooses.
think of it this way -- you picked the date that was best for you and dave. and you will have an amazing time and everyone will love it!
so, your cuz will pick a date that works for her too
sorry if the timing *****, but everyone deserves their special day and their special time
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my fsil got engaged july of 2008 a month later she set her date for october 2010. guess who gets engaged on nov 28, 2008...ME!!! two other couples we are close with got engaged a month after us and set there date before ours. did i feel that they stoled our thunder. not at all. did my fsil feel that way..she says no way.
fh and i really wanted to get married in may or june of 2010 but out of respect to fsil we wanted a 6month gap.
try and remember that the most important thing will be the actuall wedding day. having all your family and friends to share your big day.
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the only concern of mine is that we have a few aunts and uncles who live far and I want all my family to be at my wedding and i feel if its too close they will choose her wedding over mine.
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I'm sorry. Everything will work out. On your wedding day, it will be all about you and everyone will be there to support you.
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GR2010
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That stinks about your mom's family not knowing but I wouldn't worry about her wedding being before yours (unless she picks like the day or week before and then that is messed up). I have 3 or 4 friends who got engaged after me but picked dates before me... and it doesn't bother me that they are getting married before me but just that I didn't pick a closer date since I am so sick of waiting... Maybe some of them still don't know, were you thinking of sending out STDs?
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TOTALLY understand how you feel. I might have a similar situation on my hands. I think that when it comes to close family, the other couple has to respect the couple that got engaged first. Everybody deserves their own time to shine. With that being said, you really can't do anything about it. Just keep going with your plans and be happy and try not to let their planning interfere with your own. Your wedding will be one of a kind and fabulous!
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im sorry i know how it feels..dont worry though-when you're day comes you will be in the spotlight
MarjorieFrank
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So sorry... I know how you feel... this is your one and only chance to be in the spotlight. I would be upset too!! Hopefully when you have a baby you'll get some spotlight all for yourself.
