Vent: Anyone have any friends that are totally against marriage?

I have one friend who actually says it all the time. We'd get into more fights over it if i didn't always back down from the situation but she totally is against marriage and pretty much talks about how weddings are so expensive and unneccessary. That you don't need the church or a piece of paper to show the world your love. And that when you get married you lose your identity!!!!! How do you even stay friends with someone like that?
Yes weddings are expensive and you don't need a piece of paper to show the world your love but i mean show some happiness just because i'm happy!!

An EX- BM felt that way or at least that's what she claimed, when I tried discussing an issue w/ her.

different strokes for different folks

Completely nuts!!! The men on my FI's side have a bad track record with marriages and I'm sure they have told FI many times... 'why dont you just live together'

I can only imagine how hard it is to deal with a 'friend' who isnt as supportive of you and your decisions as you would like! I had a friend who was totally against a decision I had made and it really bothered me that she couldn't be supportive in the least bit. We stayed friends a lil while longer, but over time I just realized that her and her negativity wasnt worth having in my life

Its times like these when you find out who your true friends are!

---

Posted by Rissespieces

I have one friend who actually says it all the time. We'd get into more fights over it if i didn't always back down from the situation but she totally is against marriage and pretty much talks about how weddings are so expensive and unneccessary. That you don't need the church or a piece of paper to show the world your love. And that when you get married you lose your identity!!!!! How do you even stay friends with someone like that?
Yes weddings are expensive and you don't need a piece of paper to show the world your love but i mean show some happiness just because i'm happy!!

---

Yeah I have come across many people that are like that, if you want a wedding have a wedding, if you dont want a wedding then dont have one simple and let the people that want a wedd to plan it in peace and happiness

---

Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Completely nuts!!! The men on my FI's side have a bad track record with marriages and I'm sure they have told FI many times... 'why dont you just live together'

I can only imagine how hard it is to deal with a 'friend' who isnt as supportive of you and your decisions as you would like! I had a friend who was totally against a decision I had made and it really bothered me that she couldn't be supportive in the least bit. We stayed friends a lil while longer, but over time I just realized that her and her negativity wasnt worth having in my life

Its times like these when you find out who your true friends are!

---

I still consider her a good friend Not that she's being so great now.

---

Posted by kellybean

not exactly but a friend who claims everything I am doing is stupid or a waste etc

---

WHAT!!!! Can you tell her off? lol

tell em to stop drinking the 'haterade', PIMP!

People like that, who THROW their opinions at you and tell you how pointless and waste of money weddings are.....should have to shampoo my dog's hairy assss! if you want to spend $100K on a wedding and they want to be unwed for the rest of their lives---who cares! no need to tell me that i'm 'wasting my money' (my brother is one of those types. )

what gets me is this, they are alllll against marriage and everything--but when it comes down to it, when they need it in the future...that's when it becomes important. when you are young, you don't realize the importance of that 'piece of paper'

for example--unless you have already set up a stype of medical power of attorney (which most ppl do NOT do), if something happens to your BF/GF and a medical decision needs to be made...yeah guess what? You CAN'T do it. only a 'family member' or next of kin is allowed.

how about benefits of Social Security? No one thinks about that until you are older cause we are young and think we live forever. well when you have been with your SO for decades and one day, they pass on, yeah you are NOT entitled to any SS benefits that would normally go to a spouse--cause the Federal govt. doesn't recongize common-law or 'domestic' partnerships. (i've seen this happen to a family member, she was with her man for 45 years, and they depended on BOTH their SS checks after retirement) when he died, she was entitled to ZERO benefit, cause they never made it legal.

the list goes on and on, but i just hate that those who think its just a 'piece of paper' are ignorant sluts!

---

Posted by Mizzdimple

Yes, divorced ones.

---

UGH i cant stand people who think that others should live the same life as they do and make the same decisions. They like to put things down that others do and dont sit there and just accept someone for who they are, get over it how much someone spends on anything or what they dont spend.

---

Posted by MJDoc12

People like that, who THROW their opinions at you and tell you how pointless and waste of money weddings are.....should have to shampoo my dog's hairy assss! if you want to spend $100K on a wedding and they want to be unwed for the rest of their lives---who cares! no need to tell me that i'm 'wasting my money' (my brother is one of those types. )

what gets me is this, they are alllll against marriage and everything--but when it comes down to it, when they need it in the future...that's when it becomes important. when you are young, you don't realize the importance of that 'piece of paper'

for example--unless you have already set up a stype of medical power of attorney (which most ppl do NOT do), if something happens to your BF/GF and a medical decision needs to be made...yeah guess what? You CAN'T do it. only a 'family member' or next of kin is allowed.

how about benefits of Social Security? No one thinks about that until you are older cause we are young and think we live forever. well when you have been with your SO for decades and one day, they pass on, yeah you are NOT entitled to any SS benefits that would normally go to a spouse--cause the Federal govt. doesn't recongize common-law or 'domestic' partnerships. (i've seen this happen to a family member, she was with her man for 45 years, and they depended on BOTH their SS checks after retirement) when he died, she was entitled to ZERO benefit, cause they never made it legal.

the list goes on and on, but i just hate that those who think its just a 'piece of paper' are ignorant sluts!

---

I agree with this...and want to add that Marriage... its a very important part of my culture and religion...Why even Comment about marriage?????????? that just means your knockin my culture and religon and how my parents brought me up then ya knowwwwwwwwwwwwww.

Now, the problem I have with that is the fact that she's arguing with you about it...Just because she feels a certain way about marriage doesn't mean everyone else has to too! I don't understand why people are so bullyish (if that's a word) and immature that they have to argue with people that don't have the same beliefs as them...to each their own, people should be entitled to their own beliefs and respect that others have their own beliefs too and leave it at that...