I was having such a wonderful night. the Giants one. Yeahh. until.. I got an email from a cousin. I am not close with this cousin, I have not seen in probably a decade. Never talk to on the phone, never was told when she got married, had kids, nothing. She contacts me to say she is so excited, she told her little girl about the wedding & they are all looking forward to going there. Her little girl even asked if she could be the flower girl.. WHAT. I don't even know your kids names or your husband, & you are using your kids to guilt me into saying you all (All 7 of you) are coming. I can't afford it! She tried this before & I told her I am stressed and on a tight budget with the wedding. She said she understood then. (months ago) Now she emails me this after knowing that already, saying that he dad wants her to come.
I don't care if my uncle wants you there, that isn't the point. & I was thinking of trying to invite just her & her husband but my fiance got annoyed as he couldn't invite his whole family either so why do I feel guilty like I have to invite them because they are asking.
I try to be nice & out of my family I am the one that tries to think of everyones feeling the most. But I feel taken advantage of with planning this wedding, I almost cried when I got the email from her. i hate when people try to manipulate me using kids (b/c I have a soft spot for them) & I hate to be the bad guy & say no in personal matters. My sister & mom think I am being soft. to tell her no & give no explanation. I can just imagine the talk that is going to happen.
I would NEVER invite myself to anyplace. I just don't understand people.
So now before i go to bed I am thinking about this.
Sorry for my vent. I hate complaining & dumping. sorry ladies.
madseason
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Yet again...people do not suprise me!!!
If madseason is busy and can't talk to them...I would love to!
we 08ers have to stick together!
You said it sister!!! If it wasn't for the 08ers... I would have been an 07 cause I would have been on the 1st flight to Vegas!!!
08ers Rule!!!!!!!!!!
FYI...I am obsessed with your avitar!!!!!!!!!!!
hahah thanks! Im DYING For the office to COME BACK!!!
Were going to HM a Schrute Farms....i hear mose does a SICK table making demonstration!
Celest
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exactly!!! If not ill talk to them and set this whole thing straight
Aww You guys are the best haha. I can imagine. I send a response back that replies may only go to my representative Madseason.. ROFL
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Yet again...people do not suprise me!!!
If madseason is busy and can't talk to them...I would love to!
You are awesome too. why can't you guys be my cousins..lol
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Well sounds like your mom gets you and is ready to deal with this. You said she was mad so you know what let her handle it. At least you have your mom and sis on your side so that is good that you dont have your immediate family against you. Hopefully she will resolve this.
Dont let this stress you out
thank you hon. I still was a little stressed last night but so much better because of you guys.
Yeah what is important to me is my immediate family & his. Beyond that I can't keep driving myself nuts.
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don't be sorry for venting, it's a legitimate vent. It is unfortunate that people put u in situations they HOPE will embarrass you to submission.
DOn't let your family bully you!
It's not like you care if you don;t see her again\, you havent for 10 years!
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were you invited to her wedding or any events shes had? kinda weird for her to think she'd be invited to yours lol
and on top of that to invite herself plus 6 of her family that is crazy. I would go with what your mother and sis are saying.
Say you are ONLY inviting ppl you have actually seen in the past decade
Thank you. I was NEVER inviting to anything of hers, not a children birthday,, nothing. She lives in Florida now I don't even have an address for her. I was floored
I wouldn't worry about it then, I mean if it's not in your budget and you were never invited to anything of hers I wouldn't feel bad. I mean not to say you only invite people that invite you to things but if you never were it makes it a heck of a lot easier to say no. I'm sorry you have to be stressed out about this, it's not right to use children to guilt into an invite. I mean of course if you tell a little kid you are going to a wedding they are going to want to be flower girls. I mean being you don't even know her kids they have no clue who you are, That is just insaine.
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some people have such nerve!!!
i would just tell her again, that only adults are invited or just them too and no children!!!
Celest
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don't be sorry for venting, it's a legitimate vent. It is unfortunate that people put u in situations they HOPE will embarrass you to submission.
DOn't let your family bully you!
It's not like you care if you don;t see her again\, you havent for 10 years!
Thank you. I hate to vent esp about family, I have a feeling this whole planning process is going to make me a whole lot tougher with them. haha Now I got to deal with the uncle next. Ugh. Mom says she will handle that one
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Posted by MrsK2008
don't be sorry for venting, it's a legitimate vent. It is unfortunate that people put u in situations they HOPE will embarrass you to submission.
DOn't let your family bully you!
It's not like you care if you don;t see her again\, you havent for 10 years!
Thank you. I hate to vent esp about family, I have a feeling this whole planning process is going to make me a whole lot tougher with them. haha Now I got to deal with the uncle next. Ugh. Mom says she will handle that one
ill handle the uncle!!! I am so sorry... i told FH about you bc i kept saying i feel so bad for this girl on LIW....im so mad!
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I wouldn't worry about it then, I mean if it's not in your budget and you were never invited to anything of hers I wouldn't feel bad. I mean not to say you only invite people that invite you to things but if you never were it makes it a heck of a lot easier to say no. I'm sorry you have to be stressed out about this, it's not right to use children to guilt into an invite. I mean of course if you tell a little kid you are going to a wedding they are going to want to be flower girls. I mean being you don't even know her kids they have no clue who you are, That is just insaine.
Yeah, I don't even care that I wasn't invited to anything for her, I am not like that & so mellow with stuff. I rather just chill near home anyway than travel lol. It just that when I have other cousins that I haven't see in a while & they get married I don't make plans to go to their wedding unless I was invited & I sure as hell wouldn't assume I could bring others. I have other cousins that I wish I could invite (that I haven't spoken to in a while too but I am closer to than this cousin & I can't invite them) Plus I have as a sh1tload of cousins, My father has 6 siblings, my mom has almost the same amount. I just can't do it..lol
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ill handle the uncle!!! I am so sorry... i told FH about you bc i kept saying i feel so bad for this girl on LIW....im so mad!
OMG how friggin cool are you... That's it you are sooo adopted into my family. You can take her place... hahahaha
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ill handle the uncle!!! I am so sorry... i told FH about you bc i kept saying i feel so bad for this girl on LIW....im so mad!
OMG how friggin cool are you... That's it you are sooo adopted into my family. You can take her place... hahahaha
awesome! I needed a new family....but thats a whole nother vent
Celest
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I'll deal with yours.. You deal with mine.
MrsK2008
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I'll deal with yours.. You deal with mine.
when all is said and done, can I call on you to be my 'OH NO YOU DIDN'T ' back up?
we should all make a pact, once we are married we can step in and help future brides and protect them from dirty, rotten, no-cooth-having, you-wish-you-had-an-invite MOOCHERS.
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Wow, the nerve of some people. I will never understand how people feel that it is acceptable to invite themselves and their children to someone elses wedding. If you were not planning on inviting this person, then don't. Just because she is presumptious doesnt mean you cant set her straight!
