I'm finding it so hard to get all of my bridesmaids to order their dresses! Most of them are fine, but some of them are giving me problems and it's really bothering me because the bridal shop told me they should be ordered in January to be here in time for the wedding... one girl tried to find it online cheaper and wanted to order it seperately from everyone else (it was only a $10 difference mind you). Now another girl is telling me she's way too busy to make it to any bridal shop to get measured now. So I told her to just buy a tape measure and have someone measure herself really quick and call in the measurements. (It's tax season, she's an accountant, I can understand that) Most of them are from out of town so they are all calling their measurements in. Some of us are going to a bridal shop in Pittsburgh today because they want to try it on and get their measurements. Just I can't understand... if you don't have time to go try on the dress now... just measure yourself, call in the measurements, and try it on later. At least order it. It's not like if you try on the dress and you don't like it i'm going to change the dress.
ERRRRRRGHHHHH!!!
I just had to let that out. K thanks.
ama1771
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I feel your pain. We had a similar issue last year. and my second MOH (who is my cousin and I was her MOH mind you) finally called in her measurements three months after everyone else did. I was so annoyed.
SB7308
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oh no!! I think I will have that problem with the GM! Just tell her, if its not ordered by Jan. 31st she wont be wearing anything to the wedding!! Plain and simple.
I hope they all get measured soon, for your sake!
PreshusSmurf
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It does seem like the bridal shop is padding the time for the dresses a bit to me .... unless its some designer that takes an extra long time, I think you probably are ok if it takes you an extra week or two to get all the dresses ordered.
Just be careful with having them measure themselves ... maybe they have a tailor they use who can take the measurements for them?
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I'm sorry....that's so frustrating! You need to tell everyone that if they do not go get measured or call thm in that they are walking down the aisle naked!
DeeluvsVinny
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Ugh. I finally chose the Bm dress this weekend and am anticipating this problem as well. sometimes BMs suck, sometimes they just don't realize how important something like this is to us.
Explain to them that if they can't order by the end of January, maybe they can't handle the responsibilities of being in the wedding.
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I totally hear you on that!! Found my BM dresses at Macy's, my 2 sisters ordered them there no problem. As for the four other girls, it was so hard to get everyone together, or get them to go, that I found them online for a little cheaper as well, and just ordered them myself with my credit card. I pretty much knew their sizes already. With less than 5 months left to go before my wedding, lets pray that they all come in on time and can be altered if needed!!!! I'm taking a huge chance and will be sweating about it until the day of their arrival.
kimnsteve
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i have the same problem i am still waiting over two months for the last three girls to go!!!
im sooooo mad
lonal
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It's soooo frustrating and I am dealing with it too! I have 9 girls. 7 ordered their dresses 1 1/2 months ago and they are already in. # 8 ordered hers yessterday and # 9 still hasn't. I decided to say WHATEVER. I have enough stress that I'm not taking this stress. You don't order a dress . . . you're not in the wedding. It's that simple.
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That stinks. Tell them that the salon has to have the measurements by the end of the month or they will be forced to put a rush on the order, which will increase the dress price. They don't have to know you're lying
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Posted by DnellD809
I'm sorry....that's so frustrating! You need to tell everyone that if they do not go get measured or call thm in that they are walking down the aisle naked!
hahahaha I was gonna say the same thing!!!!
Luvbsb4eva
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Posted by kristin597
That stinks. Tell them that the salon has to have the measurements by the end of the month or they will be forced to put a rush on the order, which will increase the dress price. They don't have to know you're lying
lol I like this one...
Thanks girls! I might be turning bridezilla on them soon if they're not ordered!
Luvbsb4eva
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Posted by DnellD809
I'm sorry....that's so frustrating! You need to tell everyone that if they do not go get measured or call thm in that they are walking down the aisle naked!
Yep, I like this too!
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ugh it's not like you're asking them to do very much.. I have a similar problem atm with my MoH - she wanted to wait until her baby was born (which it's been two weeks) to order her dress- fortunately it only takes three weeks for the dress to come in since its from Davids Bridal.. but getting her to to store is a PITA!
Luvbsb4eva
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I'm glad i'm not alone... thanks for listening girls! I just don't understand why they stress us out more, aren't they supposed to be helping us?
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bottom line...you can give them all the resources, prices, phone numbers, set up dates, alternative options....and when it comes down to it, they have to make the effort to do this on their own. if you give them a date by which it all needs to be done, and you have someone who still can't get her act together....oh well. unless there are some extenuating, life issues that she is going through, then it's really up to her to take care of this without you nagging her. if she doesn't , then it's on her, not you. sometimes dealing with a big BP calls for a bit of apathy. and then lots and lots of love and gratitude when they pull through.
Melissa313
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I had that problem! now my dresses are scheduled to come in only a month and 16 days before my wedding... now you would think thats not so bad but my dress was over 2 months late!!! which was fine since I ordered it so early but now its freaking me out !!
the moral of this story is don't wait too long tell them a date and tell them that a responsibility of a bridesmaid is to get a dress, if they can not handle that responsibility, by the date, they wont be a bridesmaid
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Tell me about it, I've been going through the same thing. My BM's are in 4 different states, and It is so hard to get everyone to go and get fitted. My wedding is in April, and all of my BM havent ordered their gowns yet. Isnt that insane !?!?
Now I see why some people cut their entire BP,
LeeLee111
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I'm sorry thats annoying.
lyss0908
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I know what you mean- my bridal shop told me to order them as soon as I could - i guess b/c I have 10 girls- well after sending out a 'reminder'email over a month ago- the last one finally ordered it yesterday- Mind you she is my SIL!!!! I was so mad- I had to order my BM dress for her when I was in college and poor- yet she is a grown woman with children and in the working world and had the audacity to complain!!!
