Vent - final meeting at RH tonight
I'm sorry in advance if this is long.
I am getting married in 10 days and had my 'final' meeting tonight to go over everything and make the last payment. I am so beyond upset right now, I could scream. I originally had this appt for Monday night but my BM called me last Saturday morning, saying that they were leaving early on Monday and I had to reschedule because they wouldn't be there. Mind you I made this appt with them over a month ago. They left this in a voicemail, so when I called back, they were unable to take my call. Three hours later they call me back and say the only other night I can come in is tonight, Wednesday. I say ok fine, I had to reschedule everything with work, and now FH can't go with me because he is NYPD and has to work a double tonight. Ok, whatever, my dad was gonna come with me. Not a problem, I understood. My appt was for 7:30 i get there and there are all these sketchy looking people there and i guess something was wrong because one of the women was carrying on and crying about something. Ok, made me a little uncomfortable but whatever. My dad and I just sat there and waited. My BM came over and said 'ugh i'll be with you shortly, you know this appt came late and blah, blah, blah.' Ok, so my BM had a couple in the office and apparently, this group that was carrying on was theirs too.
So the next thing, this guy comes out and says he's gonna start with us and my BM will finish, ok, great. So, we go into the office and he knows nothing about my weddng and he makes one bad joke after another. I'm getting married there in 10 days, please don't make jokes about my guests being served 40 oz beers or when I ask what the waitstaff will be wearing, tell me that they'll be wearing rags. I'm trying to confirm details that I may have missed. I'm having a black tie affair, I want to make sure that everything will be perfect. The one thing he did tell us was exactly what to make sure we tip the Maitre'd and the bridal attendant. He sat there and calculated the number of guests I am having and gave an exact dollar amout to be sure to tip them. Obviously, we know to take care of them. I don't need to feel pressured into a $ amount. It was just very tacky.
When I finally spoke to my BM on the phone Saturday, they gave me my final payment amount. This guys starts playing with the calculator and tells me that my BM was off 30 bucks but could not tell us how. So on top of the bank check we had we now had to give him 30 bucks because she left off 2 people. This made no sense because then that would mean I was paying 15 pp. Which is far from the case. He could offer no other explanation why it was off. Whatever, not a big deal, I gave him the 30 bucks. I'm supposed to have an outdoor cocktail hour and I asked about the guitarist and he looked at me and said 'you know you have to pay for that' really?? no s**t. I was trying to find out if it would be worth it and if the guy was available that night. Then when he was going over the calculations, he put in the viennese hour but when we were confirming the times, he didn't include it. Whenever I asked him a question, he told me to talk to my BM. I was so excited to have my wedding at CHCC but now I am so nervous. Then I asked about dropping off my favors and my BM would not be there the day I can drop them off, I asked him if I can drop them off without them there and he again tells me that I have to talk to my BM. I had the final meeting to go over all this stuff and now I feel like I have nothing resolved and am nervous about everything going wrong. Then he got really quiet and was like ok so we're all set. I was like aren't we waiting for my BM and he goes oh, just call your BM to go over all this stuff. Really??? that's why I'm here now. I understand it's a business and they need my final payment but if nothing was gonna get resolved tonight, just tell me to mail in the check and to call to finalize. Don't make me drive all the way out there, rearrange my work schedule, have my dad rearrange his schedule, to sit there and wait and then be treated like crap.
I'm sorry this is so long but I really feel horrible about tonight and I just want to cry. I never expected to me treated this way by them. I'm so nervous about everything getting messed up now.
I keep telling myself, that this is nothing and my wedding will be great but I'm so nervous now.
Vent over...If you read all this, I thank you.
I am getting married in 10 days and had my 'final' meeting tonight to go over everything and make the last payment. I am so beyond upset right now, I could scream. I originally had this appt for Monday night but my BM called me last Saturday morning, saying that they were leaving early on Monday and I had to reschedule because they wouldn't be there. Mind you I made this appt with them over a month ago. They left this in a voicemail, so when I called back, they were unable to take my call. Three hours later they call me back and say the only other night I can come in is tonight, Wednesday. I say ok fine, I had to reschedule everything with work, and now FH can't go with me because he is NYPD and has to work a double tonight. Ok, whatever, my dad was gonna come with me. Not a problem, I understood. My appt was for 7:30 i get there and there are all these sketchy looking people there and i guess something was wrong because one of the women was carrying on and crying about something. Ok, made me a little uncomfortable but whatever. My dad and I just sat there and waited. My BM came over and said 'ugh i'll be with you shortly, you know this appt came late and blah, blah, blah.' Ok, so my BM had a couple in the office and apparently, this group that was carrying on was theirs too.
So the next thing, this guy comes out and says he's gonna start with us and my BM will finish, ok, great. So, we go into the office and he knows nothing about my weddng and he makes one bad joke after another. I'm getting married there in 10 days, please don't make jokes about my guests being served 40 oz beers or when I ask what the waitstaff will be wearing, tell me that they'll be wearing rags. I'm trying to confirm details that I may have missed. I'm having a black tie affair, I want to make sure that everything will be perfect. The one thing he did tell us was exactly what to make sure we tip the Maitre'd and the bridal attendant. He sat there and calculated the number of guests I am having and gave an exact dollar amout to be sure to tip them. Obviously, we know to take care of them. I don't need to feel pressured into a $ amount. It was just very tacky.
When I finally spoke to my BM on the phone Saturday, they gave me my final payment amount. This guys starts playing with the calculator and tells me that my BM was off 30 bucks but could not tell us how. So on top of the bank check we had we now had to give him 30 bucks because she left off 2 people. This made no sense because then that would mean I was paying 15 pp. Which is far from the case. He could offer no other explanation why it was off. Whatever, not a big deal, I gave him the 30 bucks. I'm supposed to have an outdoor cocktail hour and I asked about the guitarist and he looked at me and said 'you know you have to pay for that' really?? no s**t. I was trying to find out if it would be worth it and if the guy was available that night. Then when he was going over the calculations, he put in the viennese hour but when we were confirming the times, he didn't include it. Whenever I asked him a question, he told me to talk to my BM. I was so excited to have my wedding at CHCC but now I am so nervous. Then I asked about dropping off my favors and my BM would not be there the day I can drop them off, I asked him if I can drop them off without them there and he again tells me that I have to talk to my BM. I had the final meeting to go over all this stuff and now I feel like I have nothing resolved and am nervous about everything going wrong. Then he got really quiet and was like ok so we're all set. I was like aren't we waiting for my BM and he goes oh, just call your BM to go over all this stuff. Really??? that's why I'm here now. I understand it's a business and they need my final payment but if nothing was gonna get resolved tonight, just tell me to mail in the check and to call to finalize. Don't make me drive all the way out there, rearrange my work schedule, have my dad rearrange his schedule, to sit there and wait and then be treated like crap.
I'm sorry this is so long but I really feel horrible about tonight and I just want to cry. I never expected to me treated this way by them. I'm so nervous about everything getting messed up now.
I keep telling myself, that this is nothing and my wedding will be great but I'm so nervous now.
Vent over...If you read all this, I thank you.
