How rude is it for people to call you up and tell you all the sh!t that is going on and expect you not to say anything. I have a BM (we will call her Diane) that is calling me with all these problems that I am not supposed to know about- things that I have no control over, she is telling me whats going on without giving anything away, telling me that my MOH's arent doing the right thing and that after everything is over and done with she needs to sit me down to have a bitchfest... i am so annoyed b/c my hands are tied, I cant do anything about it... AHHHHH!! i just cant take it anymore, I told her today that I really dont need the added stress...and I got off the phone. I cant deal with this petty bs. I called my mom and told her whats going on and she told me that everything is fine and that this person is being way dramatic and she will tell me the truth once everything is over.. why cant Diane just keep this stuff to her self.. my mom says its sour grapes and she needs to feel important, but i dont know...All of a sudden i am having all these issues with my BMs... and i dont know what to do.. my other bm (we will call her Cassie) that hasnt called me in a month, finally called me last night and apologized for everything and we worked it out.. and this morning i told this to Diane and she said 'well she you have to kick her out! thats what you have to do' i mean how mean! this girl had some serious problems. i dont know.. thanks for listening guys!!!!
chmerc
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You did the right thing by telling her you don't need the added stress. Your BM's should be able to work their problems out w/o bothering you. Relax and dont worry about it.
bluesashbride
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i would not go telling Diane anything. sounds like she takes anything and runs with it. but i feel for you. too much drama. good for you for standing up for yourself!
AnniesSS
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Sorry, but when you get a group of men or women together and give them the responsibility of getting things done together, there will always be the dominant one and the complainer.... and if you are lucky, 2 will try to be the dominant one and you will really have problems.
Best bet is to let them work it out and not to involve you!!! You have enough to worry about and do and think about and you don't need their issues on top of yours.
This is one reason why I wanted only a MOH.... makes life a bit easier cause one person has one job - take care of you!!
jimmysgrl
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Could you completely ignore her phone calls and disconnect your phone service....No? I'm sorry she's bringing all this onto you, sometimes things just don't make any sense. I have been in 6 weddings and in each of them, there is only 'the one' who has to bring in the bride. Sort of saying, 'Look at how great of a friend I am to you for putting up with all of this. I am the best bridesmaid you could possibly have.....' Its a shame that 'diane' has to be like that.
lisad117
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I've been in a bunch of wedding parties and it seems like there is always one person causing trouble. My wedding isn't even until 5/06 and I've already heard complaints from one BM.
Just try and ignore it- I think you did the right thing by telling her that you don't want to know what is going on!
Ronkonkomonga
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what a pain. As if you dont have enough to worry about.
ssbride05
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I am sorry to hear this.... maybe explain really want to stay out of the situation...
